Bit of advice r.e incident at work

Savvy_Sue

Surely those with the best manners display them to all, whether it's reciprocated or not? But I expect that's even more codswallop.

Incidentally I asked DH if it was ever acceptable to swear at children, and he said that in his opinion swearing was ALWAYS rude. I don't think I have EVER heard him swear, not even a b_____ h___, which is my usual response to extreme and unexpected pain!

juliescot

andygb wrote: »

That is the biggest load of old codswallop that I have heard in my life.
One last point, I would always be polite to people who exhibit good manners in the first place. If the children had not been insolent, and they had moved aside, then I would have said "Thank you".

I notice that you are selective in the posts you reply to.
Do you have trouble answering questions which you might find awkward?

You chose to swear at the children.
You think this is acceptable and will teach them respect.

I disagree.

hothothot_3

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Surely those with the best manners display them to all, whether it's reciprocated or not? But I expect that's even more codswallop.

Incidentally I asked DH if it was ever acceptable to swear at children, and he said that in his opinion swearing was ALWAYS rude. I don't think I have EVER heard him swear, not even a b_____ h___, which is my usual response to extreme and unexpected pain!

swearing is rude but for some children (street urchins) this ribald language is commonplace what they have been brought up with. They probably weren't even offended by it. I think it throws them a little when they hear an adult swear because they dont expect it, (their poor teachers at school arent able to swear at them). The unexpected response confused them and is what made them move on

juliescot

hothothot wrote: »

swearing is rude but for some children (street urchins) this ribald language is commonplace what they have been brought up with. They probably weren't even offended by it. I think it throws them a little when they hear an adult swear because they dont expect it, (their poor teachers at school arent able to swear at them). The unexpected response confused them and is what made them move on

Do you know these children?
Do you know that anyone has ever sworn in front of them before?

hothothot_3

juliescot wrote: »

Do you know these children?
Do you know that anyone has ever sworn in front of them before?

im sure they have heard a swear word before.

and if not, well Andy has maybe given them a nice succinct lesson they needed not to question adults for the future.

Oldernotwiser

juliescot wrote: »

Do you know these children?
Do you know that anyone has ever sworn in front of them before?

Unless they've spent their lives living in Narnia, they'll have heard swear words before. Have you ever heard the language in a school playground?

juliescot

hothothot wrote: »

im sure they have heard a swear word before.

and if not, well Andy has maybe given them a nice succinct lesson they needed not to question adults for the future.

Ah - so you know the children involved then

Good stuff, so tell me do they do this blocking of the pavement regularly?

juliescot

hothothot wrote: »

im sure they have heard a swear word before.

and if not, well Andy has maybe given them a nice succinct lesson they needed not to question adults for the future.

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

Unless they've spent their lives living in Narnia, they'll have heard swear words before. Have you ever heard the language in a school playground?

Yes I have heard the language in a playground. Never heard an adult in a playground swearing at a child mind you

Oldernotwiser

juliescot wrote: »

Yes I have heard the language in a playground. Never heard an adult in a playground swearing at a child mind you

Adults in playgrounds are there professionally - on the street is quite different!

hothothot_3

juliescot wrote: »

Yes I have heard the language in a playground. Never heard an adult in a playground swearing at a child mind you

school playground where adults are employed and have signed up to and have committed to following a set of standards is different from a public park. In the school there are some discipline options available that Andy wouldnt have been able to make.

its not illegal in itself to swear, so the rest of the debate boils down to personal opinion on whether it was appropiate - going on what was written here I say it was justified and I have also sworn at kids and it has solved the problem straight away - rosy language and pleading would have given the 'wolf pack' the smell of fear they are looking for.