I'm so angry

reeree

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I think you've been a great GM.

I haven't read through the whole thread, but have you considered a martial art for him?
It will give him self confidence, toughen him up and I promise, he will enjoy it.
Some classes are better than others, but good classes won't allow anything like bullying, best to try a couple if he doesn't like one.
It will allow him to meet with new boys his age too. People who do this sort of thing, tend to be level headed and decent types.

yes dg has been thinking about this and we are really hoping he will decide to take it up as you say it would really give him the confidence he is lacking

Shelldean

Hey reeree

thanks for the update and congratulations on doing a brilliant job. Keep up the good work x

tandraig

hi reeree! thanks for the update - but it made me cry!!! I am so happy for you and DG and your DD of course!
I just KNOW your grandson is going to go on to bigger and better things - maybe Art College or Uni??? and if he does - give yourself a big pat on the back because it will be down to YOU!!! not that shambles of a school he went to!!
Give him big hugs from me please - and tell him that I used to do Tae Kwon Do and so did two of my kids - the youngest (you know who he is) didnt as he was afraid of it. I loved it and so did the other two - how you can have so much fun while exercising and gaining confidence is amazing and i would highly recommend a 'good' dojo. you just need to know the senseis attitude to the art - if they can also teach the spiritual side and dont just see it as a sport!
anyways - keep us posted - I dont mind crying with happiness for you!!

joanneinwonderland

reeree this thread was so upsetting but so lovely all at the same time. So glad to hear you and your dg are getting on great at home he sounds like a different boy compared to those horrible notes he had written previously. Well done to both of you for having the guts to forget about that awful school.

Did anything come of your complaints about them? I do hope so. As has been said bullying goes on in all schools unfortunately but it's how a school deals with it that's important and in this case they just weren't.

All the best for the future for you both. Your dg has such a bright future ahead of him now thanks to you.

xx

hbloomers

I've just read the entire thread, and it moved me to tears. I've never been bullied, so can only imagine how your GS must have been feeling.

I'm so glad to read how he's come on. He sounds really talented, and is lucky to have a grandmother like you! If he likes art, maybe you could arrange a meeting with your local college so he can see what he thinks of it. That way he could start working on a portfolio if he decides its something he wants to do. I'm not an artist - I'm a musician, but my boyfriend is, and we've found that these environments are usually quite small and close, and you quickly make lots of friends.

If you're thinking of following a GCSE course, I've found the Letts study guides excellent. Also, if you know what exam board you want to use (AQA etc) their websites are great for taking you through the syllabus and they have past papers online as well, which are great for revision.

fedupnow

I am a bit late joining this thread - shame, as I feel I could have done a bit of reasuring.

I removed my son from school due to his being bullied. He taught himself mostly - he sat 3 gcses a year early, then 3 in what would be the normal gcse year. He sat it at a centre with foreign students, adults etc. A wide range of people. He then went to college to do a diploma and now he is in university. Home ed can and does work.

He had/s more friends once he left shcool than he ever had when he was in school. The worry over kids having to be forced to become 'socialised' is such claptrap - seriously, it is the least of your worries.

I also want to say if he never gains a formal qualification in his life it won't be the end of the world - we can't all be rocket scientists and the like. His mental and physical health is far more important, as is his happiness - we have one shot at life after all.

Lotus-eater

reeree wrote: »

yes dg has been thinking about this and we are really hoping he will decide to take it up as you say it would really give him the confidence he is lacking

Brilliant, let him make up his mind, it can be anything from mild Judo right up to weapons training when you get high up with some of the disciplines.
Have a look here, for some basic info. But it depends what is in your area.
http://www.martialartsclubs.com/artsinfo.htm

I'm into Kung Fu, but I would also recommend Tae Kwon Do as a good choice.
It doesn't really matter, as long as he wants to do it and enjoys it.

daska

Go ReeRee, Go ReeRee

That is absolutely fabulous news. Badman has done his utmost to make Home Ed impossible, you are a wonderful example of why he shouldn't be allowed to succeed.

treepotato1

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Brilliant, let him make up his mind, it can be anything from mild Judo right up to weapons training when you get high up with some of the disciplines.
Have a look here, for some basic info. But it depends what is in your area.
http://www.martialartsclubs.com/artsinfo.htm

I'm into Kung Fu, but I would also recommend Tae Kwon Do as a good choice.
It doesn't really matter, as long as he wants to do it and enjoys it.

I would second the martial arts suggestion if he's keen. There's nothing quite like being in a class of people of all ages and abilities and seeing teeny little kiddies all lined up in order of height, not speaking, doing everything their sensei instructs them to and working their little hearts out to become better little people. Brings a smile to my face every time. It instills self-confidence, respect for self and others and develops a sense of responsibility. And it makes you stronger...and fitter...the list of benefits is huge! :j

reeree

tandraig wrote: »

hi reeree! thanks for the update - but it made me cry!!! I am so happy for you and DG and your DD of course!
I just KNOW your grandson is going to go on to bigger and better things - maybe Art College or Uni??? and if he does - give yourself a big pat on the back because it will be down to YOU!!! not that shambles of a school he went to!!
Give him big hugs from me please - and tell him that I used to do Tae Kwon Do and so did two of my kids - the youngest (you know who he is) didnt as he was afraid of it. I loved it and so did the other two - how you can have so much fun while exercising and gaining confidence is amazing and i would highly recommend a 'good' dojo. you just need to know the senseis attitude to the art - if they can also teach the spiritual side and dont just see it as a sport!
anyways - keep us posted - I dont mind crying with happiness for you!!

Thankyou Tandraig for your heart warming comments and everyone elses, l know you've watched dg journey from the beginning and its wonderful for dg to know that people that who dont even know him actually care about him and what happens to him, art college sounds like a great idea because l do really feel that this is were his talents lie as does the lea guy and he does so enjoy it very much, we saw his councilor today and she says she's noticed an improvement in his confidence and she suggested that l contact conextions with a view to a couple of weeks work experience so lm hoping that will help to build his confidence up some more, theres still along way to go though as you would expect