I'm so angry

NewStart09

I can completely sympathise with your situation, but the best advise I can give you is to document each event and send it to the school headmaster. They hate that, you have written evidence of bullying in their school.

Also you should go in their and in a very polite way meet with the Headmaster and explain in simple terms that you intentions to document your dg experience at their school, and the next time that your dg is 'Assaulted' at their school, the police will be informed.

When I said that they responded by with the normal 'that will not be necessary' reponse, where I further stated, that my next step would be to file a formal complaint about them and their incompetence to deal with the situation in a timely matter.

End result, for me, was no more incidences, the other student involved parents had a meeting with the headmaster, and that child stayed away from mine, no he did not have many friends in school, actually only 3 but I told him that was fine, what was more important was that he was not being attacked in school, and the butt of everyones jokes, I also tried to explain about charma to my son, and funny enough two years later, my son now in secondary school, has loads of freinds and the bully no one wants to know him and is constantly in recovery. I told my son thats charma, what comes around goes around.

Good Luck, dont sweep it under the rug, document and complain, go to your local authority if necessary with all your emails, or letters, his emotional welfare is at stake.

NewStart09

NewStart09

Hello

Just finish reading your thread that you have home schooled, go for you and your results, that school should be shamed in the newspaper!

Good Luck

NewStart09

Lotus-eater

NewStart09 wrote: »

I told my son thats charma, what comes around goes around.

Is this karma, or something else I don't know?

Minxz

reeree wrote: »

those of you who have read my posts before might remember i posted about home schooling my grandson (hes 14) because he was being bullied at school, everything was set in motion and then my daughter changed her mind at the last minute, i was gutted and so was my grandson, those of you that have grandchildren will know you have to be careful what you say to the parents so i didnt push it, today my dg has come home from school after being thumped in between the legs by the school bully in p.e
he told me he burst into tears in front of the class and they took the p*** out of him, the teacher apparantly saw nothing, Later he went up to another boy who was being bullied, ( dg has a kind heart despite what he goes through) and asked him if he was ok, the boy told him to p*** off, i felt so sorry for him in fact im really upset, whenever my daughter phones the school they always say they will sort it but to me its just getting worse. he has no friends to speak of, he brought his school photo home and he wasnt smiling on it, when i asked him why he wasnt smiling he said because i wanted them to know that im sad. Im at a loss as to what to do, i love my dg so much and it hurts to know that he is hurting

Your poor GS, what a tough time he's having.
Just to say i think you are doing the right thing, he needs you in his corner, and you sound like a brilliant gran
My daughter was bullied at school terribly from the moment she entered Secondary- it was awful, i was always talking to her year head etc, nothing worked.
It got to the point where I knew she couldn't take any more, so I removed her from the school and home educated her for a year, and during that time we moved house and I was able to get her into a different school miles away. It was the best thing I ever did! The moment she knew she could work at home, and we had a strict timetable, she started smiling again. Her confidence grew, she didn't miss out on the socail aspect as there are some fantastic local home ed groups you can join, and it obviously worked as when she went to her new school, in her first week she came home with a bunch of new friends, and smiles.. I was so happy:) Then she had her SATs, and she got top marks.. so if anyone tells you home schooling doesn't work, they are wrong, there is a wealth of info on the internet about it, and sometimes it's just what taht child needs. Also, once he's 15 he can start early at a local college instead, so he only has a year until he has the option to move.
I wanted to tell you my story to say it will get better with a strong person like you standing up for him:)

reeree

thought l'd give you the latest update on my dg, got a text from him this morning to say two new boys have started at derbyshire chambers were he has been for the last few months, would you believe the new boys are two of the ones that bullied him at school, its not as if he can avoid them as there are only eight of them and its held in one room, lm just praying it dosent start all over again

tasha-debt

HI Reeree,

I think you and your Grandson are inspirational, he is very lucky to have you and vs versa.

I think you should speak to whom ever runs the Derbyshire Chambers and explain the background, with only 8 in a class they should be able to monitor things much better. Plus your Grandson is so much more confident now, if they say/do anything as soon as he tells them were to go and they see they do not scare him any more I bet they will back off.

Good Luck

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Savvy_Sue

I agree with tasha: I'm not sure what the Derbyshire Chambers are, but whoever's running it should be told that historically there have been problems with these boys and you don't want any recurrence!

reeree

ive took your advice and phoned them up, she said she was glad l let them know and that they would keep an eye on the situation, dg said neither of the boys spoke to him all day which didnt bother him so l guess its just a case of wait and see

reeree

just thought l would update you all on the latest with my grandson, some of you have pmd me so l thought l would let everyone who showed us such wonderful support know how he is getting on, he started college this september and along with the usual subjects he is doing his favourite one art and design,

he is absolutely loving college its a small class room and everyone seems to get on so well, he said to his mum last week "its amazing everybody likes me and one boy actually asked me if he could sit next to me" bless, his art work is amazing and some of the students have asked him to draw pictures for them to take home with them and one wants him to do a sketch of her favourite popstar,

the teacher is very impressed with his work and says he is a dark horse, he's taking part in a charity event this month where he will have to dress up as his favourite character for the local hospice, that would have been impossible for him before, l can't tell you how proud we all are of him, he has come so far from the boy who wanted to end his life to actually having a reason to get up in the morning, its wonderful to see

The bullies could have broken him but instead hes picked himself up, shook the dust off his feet and found his own path after all, lm so so proud x

shays_mum

Not read the whole thread, but this is very similar to what is happening to my friends son, it turned out her ds has adhd & autism, hence the lack of social skills in mixing with other kids. The thing is he is a wonderful boy when your one on one, so well spoken & articulate, it makes me so sad the other kids don't see that side of him , btw this is an independent school, so no sen help at all.

Dear op i really hope things get sorted soon your a fab nan!!, my dd was being bullied at school as well & it really damages their self esteem. The school did nothing & i went straight to the parents of the kids involved, saying that i would give them a chance to sort things before i approached the education department, they sorted it.

Just seen the update - wonderful news!!!! x