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Bad relationship

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  • tandraig
    tandraig Posts: 2,260 Forumite
    I hope the OP is now lying low - but if she is reading this - you are doing the right thing hun. it will get better soon. take the money and go travelling - uni can wait. or transfer to another uni! he wont find you as they dont give out details of their students.

    good luck
  • gabyjane
    gabyjane Posts: 3,541 Forumite
    You sound like i did at 18 and probably many others and it may seem like there is no way out but trust me there is.
    Without going into detail i could have written your post..i used to sit at night and circle pages in the paper of flats for him to 'accidently' see so he'd know i wanted out but could never go through with it..i had what i thought were no friends from the always turning them down and i was pregnant so felt really trapped..no family so i stuck with him hitting, calling me names,cheating on me etc.
    In the end he left me..i was obviously gutted at the time yet relieved and thought id'e never get over it..i did, im married now and a completely different life so it is possible.

    I really hope everything is ok with you ,let us know x
  • Another BTDT from me! With a guy from age 16-19, he just didn't respect me, would laugh at me if i tried to raise anything (such as, why do you stay out all night, why have I got 2 jobs and you have never had one, where is the housemates rent I am guessing you spent it on weed again)...

    It took an anonymous valentines card at work one day to make me sit up and "smell the coffee". I made the decision there and then to break up. I wimped out in the actual doing of it, I caused an argument and we didn't speak for days, then when he came to make it up to me I knocked him back. He cried like a baby :p

    Best decision I ever made! Met my future husband a few months later and we've been happily together for 12 years!

    It is not fair of him to expect he can treat someone like that and expect their undying love. He needs to learn the hard way that you aren't going to put up with it any longer:A

    Please, just let yourself get "out there" (safely ;) ) and see what fun you have been missing out on while he has been dragging you down for all this time.
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