Please help, partner spending my cash!

sarahs999

Come off it. It's not that she doesn't understand money. She doesn't understand basic respect in a relationship. She understands money enough to realise she can leech loads off you and you'll just let her! Stop making excuses for her.

myothercarisaferrari

disgusting behaviour, girlfriend or not. That is YOUR money. What a spiteful, selfish little girl:(

Morgan_Ree

angeleeyes wrote: »

Seriously, this is the only issue in our relationship, I couldn't break up with someone because they have no understanding of money.

She has suggested in the past that all her wages go into my account, I then work it all out (I have countless excel spreadsheets) and then basically transfer the £x spending money she has (Petrol, days out, food shopping).

She may have suggested it but she's never done it has she?

gazzarw

dump her..she dont love you......she loves your credit cards!!!.....equality and all that!!!!

spykey_uk

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

She may have suggested it but she's never done it has she?

Morgan's right. Actions do speak louder than words and her actions are pretty clear!

Zazen999

angeleeyes wrote: »

Seriously, this is the only issue in our relationship, I couldn't break up with someone because they have no understanding of money.

I'd say she has a very astute understanding of money; use yours!

Clever girl.

Tixy

You say there is nothing else wrong in your relationship but
she goes out with friends,
she goes to the chinese with friends and
she goes on holiday with friends.

What do you do together? She doesn't sound ready for a grown up relationship.
Tell her Dad, or at least tell her you going to tell him......

PasturesNew

angeleeyes wrote: »

We know each others pin numbers, it's just common sense when you;re filling up with petrol or I ask her to grab some cash for me.

In that case look at getting one of those cards where you transfer money onto it to be used. Ideal for emergencies like that. Keep just £20 on it and only put money on it when you need her to do something for you.

It's used by some parents to dole out pocket money to their kids. If the money's not there it won't dish it out.

Tixy

angeleeyes wrote: »

We know each others pin numbers, it's just common sense when you;re filling up with petrol or I ask her to grab some cash for me.

So you know her number? How about taking back what she has owed one month the day after her payday? Print out a cashmachine receipt and tell her you have done it -provide her with a list of money she has stolen from you that month that adds up to your withdrawal.

Seriously though - I have never shared a pin number with a partner (I know my Mums though!)

gfplux

angeleeyes wrote: »

Seriously, this is the only issue in our relationship, I couldn't break up with someone because they have no understanding of money.

She has suggested in the past that all her wages go into my account, I then work it all out (I have countless excel spreadsheets) and then basically transfer the £x spending money she has (Petrol, days out, food shopping).

Wow if that is the ONLY issue in your relationship.
Don't you recognise that this "issue" is SO SO BIG that it is exactly the reason you should NOT have a relationship.
This is (almost) the same as saying "we have a great relationship the ONLY problem we have is she hits me every Saturday night.
Please wake up.


(I am not making light of physical abuse and have no wish to offend anyone)