Please help, partner spending my cash!

DVardysShadow

angeleeyes wrote: »

I think she's now realised yes, but sadly had to tell her I can't take her word for it, actions speak louder than words and all that.

Think I'll update this in a few weeks, and if all well, maybe again at some point in the near future

Thanks to everyone's input and advice, taken on board!

Well done for putting your foot down, it has been a good read. But you do realise don't you, that the boundaries which you have set WILL be challenged. At the moment, you have shocked her, but as she recovers from that, her nature will begin to assert itself. I don't know when this will happen, in part it may be when you begin to relax. I don't know either how far she will go, or the outcome, but be sure, you will be challenged on this.

POSSETTE

Hi How is it going? Can we have an update? Hope you sorted it all.

euronorris

Wow! I was completely shocked by this.

I hope it worked out how you wanted, but I fear she may not have changed.

Do update us. Would be great to here of the progress made either way.

savingmummy

As you have been so kind to bail her out early on in your relationship the least she can do is respect you and use her own money or go without luxuries if she is skint.
I wouldnt dream of spending my husbands money and i have no income of my own at all.
I really hope she stops and my advise would be - stop the sharing of pins/cards and be firm.

good luck

angeleeyes

I was a little bored and remembered this thread, thought I'd share the good news!

The lady in question is now referred to as 'the ex' - we are no longer an 'item'

The last few months have consisted of me enjoying my new found wealth and status, as I also recently received a fairly nice promotion (good timing eh?) and the next few months are all about enjoying my life, being young and free and all that jazz.

Whilst maintaining my new found lifestyle, I've also managed to pay off 60% of my debt over the last 2 months, in 2 months time I will be 100% debt free and only using the site to determine where I should be investing my money!

A lesson learned the hard way, but I'm happier, healthier and wealthier than ever!

So guys, don't be a mug.

RAS

angeleyes

Thanks for the update. Glad you learned your lesson and hope she has learned as well.

angeleeyes

No problem.

It's a shame things ended the way they did, I still love her to bits but the finances caused too much of a headache, I don't remember the last time that the only thing I had to worry about was what I was up to the weekend.

I've been fortunate enough to have a good circle of friends, the friend who I mentioned a while back who helped keep me in line is being treated to a long weekend in Amsterdam - Well, I am a single bloke now, it would be rude not too!

Funnily enough, my debt free date of July 2010 still stands, albeit July the 31st!

euronorris

angeleeyes wrote: »

No problem.

It's a shame things ended the way they did, I still love her to bits but the finances caused too much of a headache, I don't remember the last time that the only thing I had to worry about was what I was up to the weekend.

I've been fortunate enough to have a good circle of friends, the friend who I mentioned a while back who helped keep me in line is being treated to a long weekend in Amsterdam - Well, I am a single bloke now, it would be rude not too!

Funnily enough, my debt free date of July 2010 still stands, albeit July the 31st!

Sorry to hear that the relationship couldn't be saved, but glad that you are moving forward and feeling positive.

You and your mate will have a blast in Amsterdam. If you want some tips on places to go for food, drink, entertainment, smoking (lol), then send me a PM.

savingwannabe

oh my gosh angeleyes just read your thread from beginning to end. As an outsider it is easy for people to see but dreadful when you keep thinking that other people are nice. Some of the posts on here about improving your selfconfidence etc are really good. I am always trying to help people, my proper friends are teaching me to be a bit more selfish as i do get a bit carried away. Were you abused as a child. I hope not. Dont let people be mean to you, i hope you continue to do well in life. Onwards and upwards.

moneypenny2k

Angeleyes, not much to add to the great advice and support you've received. Glad that you're feeling positive despite the obviously sad situation. I believe in karma, you've conducted yourself in an excellent manner, you will find happiness. Your ex at some point some how will have to pay for her heartless using of you and your good nature.

I wish you well.