MSE Parents Club Part 7

r.mac_2

Fitzio wrote: »

Also, we are going to meet a friend from work for lunch at Nandos before I go into the office. I am a bit nervous about doing things like taking a pram into a restaurant. Any tips? I picked Nandos because I know it's quite roomy so should be room for a pram. I just feel a bit weird about stuff like that in case she cries or in case I am in the way. It should be fine taking a pram into a restaurant like that wouldn't it?

The first time is definitely scary - but you'll be fine. Nandos is very child friendly and just remember BABIES SOMETIMES CRY. It doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong - they just dry sometimes. Often when they want something, but sometimes just to make their presence known! The more you go out the easier it gets - I promise!

(sorry i hope that doesn't sound awfully patronising - oops!)

3onitsway wrote: »

My Maternity leave has officially ended.
This week i'm off for school holidays, then the next three weeks i'm on a/l. I have four weeks to decorate the living room, christmas shop & wrap and get my work clothes down from the loft! :eek:

DOn't be too down sweetie. Just think - you are only going back for a short time period before your proper career starts

BTW - don't let violet tell Annabel about the highchair incident -she'll get ideas. :rotfl:

searching_me

why you lurking keely .. 3 i keep tryin not to think about the end of my ML x

r.mac_2

Hi keely - I see you! :wave:

keelykat

lurking because i posted and wasn't noticed lol

r.mac_2

you all keep talking about qualifications - I was an eternal student. I did school, then a degree, then worked for a few years, then another degree followed by a postgrad then worked then got pregnant. I'm not thinking of going back to my previous career - so might retrain :rotfl:

3onitsway

r.mac wrote: »

DOn't be too down sweetie. Just think - you are only going back for a short time period before your proper career starts

BTW - don't let violet tell Annabel about the highchair incident -she'll get ideas. :rotfl:

I know! Its the bl00dy police recuitment process being so long winded! ATM they're collecting references, and arranging the training. I think he said they're recruiting 28 (not bad after 500 applied!), half in Jan and half in March. As soon as refs are back, he'll get a date - then I will have a date to finish work - which will make me feel better about going back iykwim!

money_maker wrote: »

Aww 3, booo for end of mat leave
Have fun decorating, I stripped wallpaper, new one up, new carpet, lights furniture and all in 2 1/2 days !!! You can easily do the room in 4 weeks

Bl00dy Superwoman! :rolleyes:

r.mac_2

keelykat wrote: »

Everyone seems to think Elliot is big/tall for his age, but I just don't get it because he is 13 months old and the 12-18 month clothes are massive on him, the legs are always miles too long and i have to roll them up! He's still wearing a lot of 9-12 month clothes. So how is he big for his age?! He's got a long body and short legs-sadly got that off both mommy and daddy oops!

He's now wearing new boots in size 4G (she said he is a 4F but the boots come up small in width) He proudly walked off around the shop when the lady put them on him!

He's been waking up several times a night again, think it's teeth yet again. He's got 10 now, so we're halfway there.

keely.

on her chart LO is tall for her weight IYKWIM, but 'average' weight. She's in 3-6 month sleepsuits at 8 1/2 months, but in 9-12month dungarees! her dresses range from 3-6months to 12months in size - no shop seems to be consistent in their sizing.

She seems to have inherited my tiny feet (i'm a 3 and sometimes bigger or smaller depending on style) I used to have to have my first few shoes made for me especailly - I'm hoping she doesn't walk too soon and need that as its blummin expensive!

ETA: 10 teeth - that's great!!!!

searching_me

i saw your post keeley but im sorry i was gonna reply but forgot as jayden started laughing at the tv screen tried filming it and he stopped everytime he saw the camera :rolleyes: .. is he tall ... like lanky? coz people use to say that about my sister but she just had height to her x

money_maker_3

I wish 3 !!!

feelinggood_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Feel free to ignore me honey but I get the impression from some of your posts that OH is a bit controlling of you and tbh I do worry about it. I'm not sure if he is the best person for you to be around (obviously I could be waay off as I only know what you tell us here ) Do you feel like you stay because leaving is too scary to think about coping with or because you want to? (if that makes sense)

I really don't know to be honest, I go round and round in my head and I can't figure out if he is controlling, or if it all me and he is my victim.

When I'm well, all is fine. When I'm ill, things are quite bad.

The things that get to me are things like -
him making promises that never materialise (if I get therapy, he'll look after LO, he'll take time off work so I can learn to drive, he'll give me a lift places)
if I'm upset/sad, he says that he can't cope and will quit his job or smoke if I don't change
tells me to pretend to be fine
questions whether I've taken medication, saying I'm being weird or odd, complaining that I'm taking meds. I asked him to write down in what way I'm crazy so I could tell the doctor, but he kept saying he'd do it later. He makes a lot of threats - he'll send me back to my parents, he'll leave me, he'll make us move, he'll quit his job - if I do something (cut myself, drink, take medication,=) or if I don't do something (if I don't change, pretend I'm happy etc).
When he is upset with me he sleeps. When it is bad, he can stay in bed till 6pm or later. He won't eat if I've upset him.
He doesn't like me talking about my problems, but I get accused of being cold and ignoring him
I'm accused of playing games, lying about not being in a mood, or hating him

There are subtle things I don't get, like if I suggest that a friend watches LO, or h goes to a child minder for a few hours, LO will be abused and you can't trust anyone - they might hurt him or ignore him. When I'm dieting, he wants to get takeaways, eat out, get chocolate - it might just be that he doesn't understand. The other day he couldn't find an ironed shirt, and said he wouldn't be able to go to work. If I want to buy anything (pram, cot, scales, storage boxes) he agrees but says how we'll never have a house. Makes me feel really guilty for getting things.

I am a lot to deal with, I've put him through a lot, so I don't know if it is just what I deserve?

I really don't know. Any thoughts welcome. You guys know me quite well, you know I've done some terrible, terrible things and I am very needy and emotional, so if I'm just being a drama queen, I don't mind you telling me.