MSE Parents Club Part 7

3onitsway

feelinggood wrote: »

He's been a little clingy and not sleeping well, but not too bad. No biting yet, keeping my fingers crossed. His latch has changed but not in a painful way.

I'm feeling a bit miserable and a bit like I don't want to do anything.

I understand the 'clingy' - she's been attached to my hip all day! And lots of pitiful whimpery crying - she just looks so sorry for herself!
A&P administer by spoon and an extra large bottle (not eating much!)and she's gone off to bed ok.


Becles I do think it sounds way too excessive! Maybe a mention in assembly on each anniversary but I think thats enough! I'm sure he's not the only one getting upset by the constant reminders.

MFD You may now be the proud owner of the oldest gummy baby! The thought of the poor childminder having a crazy crying woman on the phone made me :rotfl:. Sorry! I hope tomorrows is the nicest childminder ever!

RMac :rotfl:at trying to climb in her sleeping bag.

Skinty I know it won't help - but it does get better, honest! Could you convince OH to take charge for a night (and day) if possible - so you can catch up on some sleep. Everything seems so much better when you've had a decent sleep.
It must get better or these crazy ladies wouldn't be having another when the memory of the last one is so fresh in their minds.

Buttons We don't have a private hospital that 'does' maternity, but their is a private wing in our hospital. I'm not sure what the difference is, maybe the floors have been mopped! :rotfl: Theres a few local footballers who's wag's have given birth there.

skintchick

I don;t express, and she has not ever had a bottle.

I can;t take a break really cos she needs me for food. I just can;t do it all on my own any more. I know OH can;t feed her off to sleep, but he comes in, makes a cuppa, changes his clothes, bangs on about work to me, and I have to say 'do you want to hold your daughter before she goes to bed?' then he leaves me to do all the night stuff - then comes in tot alk to me about work while I try and settle her!

I just don;t know how to stay sane and I can;t eat any toast cos we have no food We only have pasta and we like to eat together, plus I don;t wanna cook!

I'm just so tired. She is so shouty in the dya at the moment as well and is not enjoyable to be with right now. Every time I think we are getting somewhere it all goes to !!!!!! again.

I just want to cry and cry and cry.

weezl74

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Oh and Skinty - whilst you are feeling like this I would give the real nappies a miss - do you really need any more stress? It may be starting with those that has set you back a bit.

My opinion only, I know some of you mums swear by them, personally I think being a mummy is tough enough without me making it harder for myself.

I agree MFD. I paused on the real nappies while my nausea was bad in early PG, scraping poo off just seemed like a bridge too far :rotfl:

I've been using eco ones because that was a big reason for me. Just saying that in case that's part of your thinking on using them skinty...:)

Big hugs for you Skinty

Glamazon

3 - is that the women's?
button - come & live with me to get ur private hospital!!!

woohoo - I found mine and OPH's P60's - CTC here we come! Must fill them out tomorrow!

Sami_Bee

3onitsway wrote: »

Buttons We don't have a private hospital that 'does' maternity, but their is a private wing in our hospital. I'm not sure what the difference is, maybe the floors have been mopped! :rotfl: Theres a few local footballers who's wag's have given birth there.

If its good enough for Alex curran/gerrard?? its good enough for you lol

Glamazon

skinty - do u want to exclusively BF til 6 months? I'm sure that if u expressed, OH could help out which will give you a break and let him bond more with her - he might respond better to her crying and be able to settle her. My OH didn't do much but now he's done a bit more he knows what Jack wants when he cries (not just food everytime!) and Jack will settle with him.

r.mac_2

congratulations Red!!!!!! I thought you'd been quiet recently

Skinty - big hugs. Have you thought about speaking to your HV about how you feel. Just talking can sometimes help. She may have some tips for you.

LO was sick at 2am again last night. *sigh* we don't know what's wrong anymore. she's been fine through the day (apart from being off her food) then we have a drama in the middle of the night. Please cross all your fingers that I get some sleep tonight.

hugs for those having challenging days today - I am joining your group and adding my dissatisfaction with the world

night all x

feelinggood_2

I find it best to only rely on me skinty, and not expect OH to do anything. The pressure and expectation gets to him, could that be same with your OH?

Start getting cereal bars, toast, crackers, fruit and similiar things in so you can eat regularly.

One thing, do you need to settle her in bed early? Can you not just hold her and let her sleep in your arms till you go to bed? I don't have any success in getting a baby who doesn't want to sleep to sleep. Sometimes Toby is still rolling around in the bed awake when I'm dozing off. He is currently bouncing on my knee, shouting at the rabbit.

My_Fathers_Daughter

skintchick wrote: »

I don;t express, and she has not ever had a bottle.

I can;t take a break really cos she needs me for food. I just can;t do it all on my own any more. I know OH can;t feed her off to sleep, but he comes in, makes a cuppa, changes his clothes, bangs on about work to me, and I have to say 'do you want to hold your daughter before she goes to bed?' then he leaves me to do all the night stuff - then comes in tot alk to me about work while I try and settle her!

I just don;t know how to stay sane and I can;t eat any toast cos we have no food We only have pasta and we like to eat together, plus I don;t wanna cook!

I'm just so tired. She is so shouty in the dya at the moment as well and is not enjoyable to be with right now. Every time I think we are getting somewhere it all goes to !!!!!! again.

I just want to cry and cry and cry.

Start expressing!! You need to find a way to get some you time.

And stuff eating together!! I know it's nice but it hardly sounds like your hubby is being nice to you. You are a family now. I would go mad if my hubby treated me like that - but he knows that Benjamin and I come first, and then once the baby is settled and sleeping we can do work talk.


Make sure you have a good cry.

Sami_Bee

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