MSE Parents Club Part 7

jillie1974

morning all!!

had first hv visit yesterday.

went brill

forgot to ask bout sleeping bags so still none the wiser....

dh taking this week of sick so is really helping with kian

how is everyone??

emlou2009

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Em - did food help his reflux at all?
My sis was having rusks from very early because that was the 'treatment' then(in 1982 lol)

nope, but he did at least keep "real" food down instead of having the constant dribble puke milk stream. probably why he was so much happier, he actually felt full!

Sami_Bee wrote: »

ps. MFD just point out to any spicy haters that babies in india get given the same stuff their parents eat which is often spicy and hey are still surviving!

seth had had chilli and curry, bit trumpy after but snaffled it right up and clearly enjoyed it

elle_gee wrote: »

Weaning-ish question.. Do you sterilise spoons, food pots etc?

i did at first but i CBA after a couple of weeks


reading back over last nights posts i felt quite upset by the things some of you were saying about how terrible it was to wean early, maybe they were aimed at me maybe they werent, i dont know. and while i get that there is always some new research that deems what is and isnt acceptable, as a parent you have to make choices about what is right for your child. i have decided i am not going to care who decides to look down their nose at me over it, because i know i did the right thing for me and my son. i went to a post natal group where one of the subjects was weaning, and i stayed behind to talk to the HV that was running it, and she was telling me how she can only just keep up with the advice given each year - she has a 13 and 15yo and both were weaned at 3 months, as that was the advice then. i broke down and told her the situation and her words were "i cant actually tell you to do it, i can only give you the official advice to wait til 17 weeks, but i probably would"
i didnt do it to make him sleep through as at that point he already was, ironically he started to wake for a night feeds once we was weaned, i didnt put baby rice in the bottle, i gave him a few spoonfuls of porridge or yoghurt twice a day

newmoneysaver_2

emlou2009 wrote: »

reading back over last nights posts i felt quite upset by the things some of you were saying about how terrible it was to wean early, maybe they were aimed at me maybe they werent, i dont know. and while i get that there is always some new research that deems what is and isnt acceptable, as a parent you have to make choices about what is right for your child. i have decided i am not going to care who decides to look down their nose at me over it, because i know i did the right thing for me and my son. i went to a post natal group where one of the subjects was weaning, and i stayed behind to talk to the HV that was running it, and she was telling me how she can only just keep up with the advice given each year - she has a 13 and 15yo and both were weaned at 3 months, as that was the advice then. i broke down and told her the situation and her words were "i cant actually tell you to do it, i can only give you the official advice to wait til 17 weeks, but i probably would"
i didnt do it to make him sleep through as at that point he already was, ironically he started to wake for a night feeds once we was weaned, i didnt put baby rice in the bottle, i gave him a few spoonfuls of porridge or yoghurt twice a day

You did what you thought was best for your baby and as a Mum that is all we can do
I would do exactly the same as you if it meant my baby wasn't in pain and became a settled and happy child. Liam went through a stage of crying in distress because of his reflux when he was on aptimal, this instantly stopped when we switched formula. The SMA staydown is also beginning to be less effective and I would consider weaning early if we run out of options - we haven't tried gaviscon yet!

SugarSpun

Em, you do what you think's best for your individual kid the same as everyone else and that's not anything to be judged harshly for. If you'd done it purely for your own convenience I might twitch an eyebrow, but you didn't. Don't think people are judging you for doing the right thing for your kid. :hug:

My_Fathers_Daughter

emlou2009 wrote: »

reading back over last nights posts i felt quite upset by the things some of you were saying about how terrible it was to wean early, maybe they were aimed at me maybe they werent, i dont know. and while i get that there is always some new research that deems what is and isnt acceptable, as a parent you have to make choices about what is right for your child. i have decided i am not going to care who decides to look down their nose at me over it, because i know i did the right thing for me and my son. i went to a post natal group where one of the subjects was weaning, and i stayed behind to talk to the HV that was running it, and she was telling me how she can only just keep up with the advice given each year - she has a 13 and 15yo and both were weaned at 3 months, as that was the advice then. i broke down and told her the situation and her words were "i cant actually tell you to do it, i can only give you the official advice to wait til 17 weeks, but i probably would"
i didnt do it to make him sleep through as at that point he already was, ironically he started to wake for a night feeds once we was weaned, i didnt put baby rice in the bottle, i gave him a few spoonfuls of porridge or yoghurt twice a day

Em - I was the instigator of the conversation because I am very upset about what my niece is doing to her daughter. I have a right to be upset because she is family.

I am not an unkind person and I would not aim sly comments at you. Everyone makes decisions for their own child and I am not here to judge anyone over the internet. My family are a different matter however and I needed a rant about it. In hindsight I should probably have kept my mouth shut.

And Seth was much later than 11 weeks anyway Wasn't he more like 15 or 16 weeks? Like I can remember! I can't remember when I weaned my own bl00dy baby :rotfl:


I apologise if I upset you or anyone

astonsmummy

emlou2009 wrote: »

nope, but he did at least keep "real" food down instead of having the constant dribble puke milk stream. probably why he was so much happier, he actually felt full!


seth had had chilli and curry, bit trumpy after but snaffled it right up and clearly enjoyed it


i did at first but i CBA after a couple of weeks


reading back over last nights posts i felt quite upset by the things some of you were saying about how terrible it was to wean early, maybe they were aimed at me maybe they werent, i dont know. and while i get that there is always some new research that deems what is and isnt acceptable, as a parent you have to make choices about what is right for your child. i have decided i am not going to care who decides to look down their nose at me over it, because i know i did the right thing for me and my son. i went to a post natal group where one of the subjects was weaning, and i stayed behind to talk to the HV that was running it, and she was telling me how she can only just keep up with the advice given each year - she has a 13 and 15yo and both were weaned at 3 months, as that was the advice then. i broke down and told her the situation and her words were "i cant actually tell you to do it, i can only give you the official advice to wait til 17 weeks, but i probably would"
i didnt do it to make him sleep through as at that point he already was, ironically he started to wake for a night feeds once we was weaned, i didnt put baby rice in the bottle, i gave him a few spoonfuls of porridge or yoghurt twice a day

I wasnt on last night, but please dont feel bad.
I weaned Ry-ry at about 13/14 weeks I think Aston was weaned at about 10 weeks!
You as a mum know what is wrong and right for YOUR child x

r.mac_2

3onitsway wrote: »

RMAC - if you don't mind me asking, as you're my baby-twin - what is your typical daily feeding pattern? I sometimes feel that i'm feeding Violet all day long and wondering if its too much.
Normally, Milk, breakfast, milk, dinner, milk, tea, milk! Normally with 2ish hours between each?


!

we do roughly this routine:

breakfast of porridge, an hour later bottle of milk
snack time when wakes up from morning nap (i.e rice cakes or toast or fruit or all three sometimes!)
lunch any time between 11.30 and 12.30noon (usually something savoury followed by a yogurt)
lunchtime nap
bottle of milk between 2pm and 3pm (depends on how early lunch was!)
snack time (i.e. crumpet and butter)
tea time between 5pm and 6pm (something savoury followed by fuit pot, custard or yogurt)
bath and last (third) bottle between 7 and 7.30pm

emlou2009 wrote: »

reading back over last nights posts i felt quite upset by the things some of you were saying about how terrible it was to wean early, maybe they were aimed at me maybe they werent, i dont know. and while i get that there is always some new research that deems what is and isnt acceptable, as a parent you have to make choices about what is right for your child. i have decided i am not going to care who decides to look down their nose at me over it, because i know i did the right thing for me and my son. i went to a post natal group where one of the subjects was weaning, and i stayed behind to talk to the HV that was running it, and she was telling me how she can only just keep up with the advice given each year - she has a 13 and 15yo and both were weaned at 3 months, as that was the advice then. i broke down and told her the situation and her words were "i cant actually tell you to do it, i can only give you the official advice to wait til 17 weeks, but i probably would"
i didnt do it to make him sleep through as at that point he already was, ironically he started to wake for a night feeds once we was weaned, i didnt put baby rice in the bottle, i gave him a few spoonfuls of porridge or yoghurt twice a day

em - nothing said last night was aimed at you. the discussion started by MFD's neice feeding her baby solids extremely early, when baby showed no signs usually recommended for solids (head control, tounge thrust etc) and hadn't sought medical advice on the issue. You made an INFORMED decision about weaning your LO - and that wasn't being criticised at all. Sorry you felt it was.

r.mac_2

MFD - have you made the phonecall yet? Are you feeling better about things? Why not leave B with me when you are at work not too far a round trip for you from work!!!

3onitsway

Em - i don't think it was aimed at you, it could have been aimed at any of us naughty mums who forced our babies to eat before the magic 6 month mark! :rolleyes:

Unfortunately, no-one gives our babies a copy of the hv's latest guidelines to study - so they want feeding when they're ready - which I think, is what most of us will do.

I'm not sure if I was a first time mum, i might have worried more about it. But, because my older two were born back when the magic feeding time was 4 months - and they're both healthy, happy children with good eating habits, this one was also fed at around 4 months, when she was more than ready.


Also food related - i remembered something else.
While we were in Ireland staying with relatives (who don't have children), they were amazed at how well my children eat - and heres me thinking they're just normal!
When we first got there, they were very worried, telling me they'd go shopping if I give them a list of what the children will eat. I said not to worry, they'll eat whatever we're having - and they did. They were also amazed at how they snack on fruit during they day - choosing fruit over biscuits.

The week before we were there, they'd had friends over with their two boys, 9 & 10. Their parents had brought a box of stuff that the children will eat - and it was a very limited selection! Tins of beans & sausage, fishfingers, nuggets, microchips, crisps & sweets!:eek:
The mum also had a hissy-fit, as my uncle had prepared them their tinned beans and sausage on toast, but hadn't cooked them hot enough - so was obviously trying to poison them with raw (already cooked ) sausages. :rotfl:

They have a lot of friends/relatives who visit with children - and mine are the only ones with a normal, healthy diet! (Proud mummy moment)

money_maker_3

em, some of us have weaned our kids early and no one was saying anything against that, it was an 11 week old that couldnt even hold their own head that we had a problem with !!

Just incase its useful for anyone, I was in our Asda this morning and they have clearance lines out, I gt party poppers, happy birthday banners, sparkle candles, normal candles and candle holders for cake and a few other bits and bobs for very little. Most thinks were between 10p and 50p !!!!!!