The advantages of being single

bigjon1968

Courgette wrote: »

Not tripping up over someone else's carp!!! :rotfl:

Yeah, those fish get everywhere, don't they ;o)

barnaby-bear

Glen0000 wrote: »

Some of these list are pretty shocking!

"Not having to play mind games."

"Chosing when/if to eat."

"No having to socialise as couples - where two are friends and the OHs have nothing in common"


What are they all about?????

Some of you must have had pretty bad relationships!!! I am sure there are lots of advantages, but some of these reasons should not even be part of a healthy realationship.

You've never sat there with your wife - her 'twin sister' best mate, whose has slightly dopelganger spooky similarities unnerve you, you get the in-jokes and humour and past stories.... but the mate is dating something that is sub-ape neanderthal who likes sky sports - they want to chat and you are abandonned with Mr. Ug? And after ape-boy the mate moves onto serial killer man/possible rapist/inappropriately young chav gym freak/city boy knob-head all of whom are your new best friend.... oh I forgot the boring buddist vegan PE teacher guy....

LJM

not having to justify everthing you do or spend
control of duvet and remotes
you can always find what you were looking for where you left it
happy
independant
in control of your life

larmy16

Being able to spend hours on the phone listening to and sympathising with chums' endless relationship problems into the small hours.

For me, this is one of the advantages of being in a relationship - that you can't spend hours on the phone listening to friends going on about "that man". I must have wasted a good year of my life doing this!!!:)

BitterAndTwisted

I get vicarious pleasure from it because I don't have to live it myself any more. Any way, I don't think of it as time "wasted", it's a time-investment to me

January20

I have been single since I split up from my then husband in early 2000. I have never looked back.

Advantages?

1. Not having to compromise over anything.
2. Being in control of my finances. I spend or I save. I choose.
3. Being able to see my friends whenever I like for however long I like.
4. Going to bed at any time I want without having to explain myself.
5. Not having the toilet seat up.
6. Being able to spoil the cat or talk to the cat as much as I want. (the cat doesn't like football )
7. Not having to put up with sport on the tv.
8. Not being criticised on the odd occasion that I decide to watch "Murder she wrote" .
9. Not having to put up with a man snoring next to me (especially after a heavy session at the pub).
10. Spending as much time as I want on the computer.
11. Shopping as much or as little as I want.
12. Going to to cinema whenever I want, and on my own if I want without being questioned about it.
13. Eating what I want, when I want.
14. Dressing for myself - no raised eye brows or expectations.
15. Listening to the music I like without comment.
16. My self-esteem not being trampled.
17. Not having to put up with male habits like farting, burping etc.
18. Being able to bring my daughter up the way I wanted (ie with the values I believe in).
19. Not having to force myself to have sex when I'm exhausted after a long day at work because he'll be too immature and needy to understand and feel rejected and make me feel bad.
20. Spending as much time as I need on work stuff - ie preparing lessons and correcting work - without anybody needing me.

Do I need to stop at 20?

Pssst

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

Not what you want, but you can't be happy with someone else unless you are happy with/by yourself.

No-one else is responsible for your happiness

A very profound but important point DFC and one which many dont always recognise.:T

ailuro2

Time to get on with the decorating and jobs round the house without being distracted.

Stay up late or go to bed early it makes no difference.

Wear old comfy underwear and no-one sees it.

Pick your nose and fart / belch / scratch your backside wherever you are in the house.

Eat in bed and not worry about leaving crumbs.

Have as many pets as you want.

Spend money on whatever you want to.

Have anything you fancy for meals.

Eat when you want without taking someone else's hunger into account.

Be a slob round the house, let hair have a day off from washing.

Cut your toenails without having to find all the clippings.

Go out looking for a new man. (yes, I know some ppl do this when married too!!)

Watch QVC, Jeremy Kyle, Trisha, X factor and any other garbage you want to on the main TV in the house.

Not hear any sort of sport.

Listen to your own kind of music all the time.

Don't do housework until it's bad enough for your standards to have to do it.

Stay late at work if you want, no one to go home to.


Having said that, I have lived with my DH since a few months after we met, and I'd give up all of the above to come home to a hug from him.....:beer:
Once you get to know people you can do some of the above anyway - after 14 years he's bound to see me in my comfy pants I wear for work...:o
I met him after a couple of bad relationships, and I had lived alone long enough to like it, so I wasn't looking for someone to share my life with, then I bumped into the love of my life.

I think that's the secret - being happy on your own, being able to love your own company, then you can truly find your other half.:D

Zazen999

fantasia322 wrote: »

she challenged me to find 20 advantages to being alone.

1 - being happy with and in yourself and not having to find reasons to explain yourself to people.

Glen0000

barnaby-bear wrote: »

You've never sat there with your wife - her 'twin sister' best mate, whose has slightly dopelganger spooky similarities unnerve you, you get the in-jokes and humour and past stories.... but the mate is dating something that is sub-ape neanderthal who likes sky sports - they want to chat and you are abandonned with Mr. Ug? And after ape-boy the mate moves onto serial killer man/possible rapist/inappropriately young chav gym freak/city boy knob-head all of whom are your new best friend.... oh I forgot the boring buddist vegan PE teacher guy....

No, I have never even met most of my wives friends OH, unless we bump into them at Tesco. We are married, not joined at the hip.