The advantages of being single

fantasia322

I was having a discussion with my best mate. I was happily single for a 18 months after a 13 year marriage that produced 5 children, and a 7 year relationship that was going no where. I was free to make my own choices without being accountable to anyone. I could go where I like, do as I please and spend my own money. She can't understand how I managed to be happy and positive on my own and is a serial wife having been married 4 times. so she challenged me to find 20 advantages to being alone. my first advantage is that I'd rather be happy by myself than miserable with a man lol. Does anybody else have an opinion on this. should read be miserable with the WRONG man, cos I do know you can be happy with the right one as I now am :T

medders2604

Not having to fight for the quilt in the middle of a winters night!
Toilet seat not left up
Full control over the remote control
Not bothering to shave legs if don't want to/can't be bothered

Just a few off the top of my head!

kindofagilr

medders2604 wrote: »

Not having to fight for the quilt in the middle of a winters night!
Toilet seat not left up
Full control over the remote control
Not bothering to shave legs if don't want to/can't be bothered

Just a few off the top of my head!

While they are good reasons lol

I would give them all up for the love and cuddles off my lovely OH

minimoneysaver

Being free to make the choice to do what you want, when you want to.
Not having to play mind games.
Having the choice to talk/not to after a hard day at work.
Having a huge king sized bed to myself.
Chosing when/if to eat.
Getting to watch what you want on TV.
As you can see, my list could go on forever. I guess it is all about choice. I am an independent woman. I've been a few pretty awful relationships. One which left me with a four month old baby girl. I now provide for her and myself. I have a lovely home in a fantastic area. She is in the best school in the county and I have a good job. As far as I am concerned.... it doesn't get better than this.

Pssst

From a mans point of view

Not being found "jobs" to do
Being able to actually find things you put down not that long ago
Being able to do/go where you like when you like

DCFC79

being able to make a mess and not have someone nagging at you to clean up the mess you made

i could think of more if i was in the mood

BitterAndTwisted

Go where I like when I like with whoever I like and not have to feel I need to schedule or explain.

Not having to deal with someone else's family carp, I've got enough of my own.

Being able to spend my own money on what I want rather than having to negotiate around someone else's different priorities.

Being able to flirt with members of the opposite sex without worrying that a partner won't understand or approve.

Being able to invite my female friends round for hilarious drunken tomfoolery without having to "arrange" for partner to have other plans.

Being able to spend hours on the phone listening to and sympathising with chums' endless relationship problems into the small hours.

Not feeling obliged to shop or cook or even clean if I damned-well don't feel like it.

Never having to pick damp towels up off the bathroom floor or the flaming bed.

Not having to admit that I don't find farting particularly amusing and feeling like a killjoy and a wet blanket.

Not having ruddy footie on the telly 24/7 when there's something else I want to watch.

No beard-stubble in the basin in the bathroom

Bring able to get a few food food-items in the fridge cos it's not full up with beer

barnaby-bear

fantasia322 wrote: »

I was having a discussion with my best mate. I was happily single for a 18 months after a 13 year marriage that produced 5 children, and a 7 year relationship that was going no where. I was free to make my own choices without being accountable to anyone. I could go where I like, do as I please and spend my own money. She can't understand how I managed to be happy and positive on my own and is a serial wife having been married 4 times. so she challenged me to find 20 advantages to being alone. my first advantage is that I'd rather be happy by myself than miserable with a man lol. Does anybody else have an opinion on this.that should read be miserable with the WRONG man, cos I do know you can be happy with the right one as I now am :T

* No mother-in-law
* No sister-in-law / random nieces/nephews/uncles/great-uncles - people you are obliged to fit around / see even if you don't like
* Can choose what you want to eat, when and how much
* No worrying about joint assets/pensions/house and being taken for a ride
* No disparity in earnings - no being dependent or feeling you are the breadwinner pressure
* No having to socialise as couples - where two are friends and the OHs have nothing in common
* Casual sex (if that's your thing)

Courgette

DCFC79 wrote: »

being able to make a mess and not have someone nagging at you to clean up the mess you made

Not tripping up over someone else's carp!!! :rotfl:

Debt_Free_Chick

fantasia322 wrote: »

so she challenged me to find 20 advantages to being alone. my first advantage is that I'd rather be happy by myself than miserable with a man lol.

Not what you want, but you can't be happy with someone else unless you are happy with/by yourself.

No-one else is responsible for your happiness

Glen0000

Some of these list are pretty shocking!

"Not having to play mind games."

"Chosing when/if to eat."

"No having to socialise as couples - where two are friends and the OHs have nothing in common"


What are they all about?????

Some of you must have had pretty bad relationships!!! I am sure there are lots of advantages, but some of these reasons should not even be part of a healthy realationship.