My husband has really annoyed me

rocketdog_2

Congratulations on YOUR new job. Your husband has his own job to keep him occupied and therefore shouldn't make you feel anything other than as proud as you should for getting it. Well done you! :beer:

foxy-roxy

Well done, also you might find that working will help you to shift some pounds as you will only be able to eat at certain times, and you will start to feel so much more confident and happier.
Good Luck

kindofagilr

Tell him to sod off lol

Seriously though, go for the job, or you will go insane! Also tell him to butt out about the weight!!! I hate men trying to tell women when they should lose weight (and vice versa)

belfastgirl23

Personally I'd say ignore him, don't ask his opinion or advice (you already know them and they aren't helpful) and just go on and do it. I wouldn't bother trying to influence him, he will probably adjust to it in his own time.

Sounds to me like he might quite like you to have low self esteem. I'm not saying it's on purpose but it does kind of assure his position as boss. I don't think there's much point in talking about this though, the best thing is just to get on and do your own thing and in the end he will have to come around.

Good luck with the job!

louise3965

Oh well done you. Its a real achievement to get a job,so dont let your chimp of a dh spoil it for you. Hold your head up and be proud of what you've done. He will come round when he realises you aren't taking any notice of him.

puddy

what do you mean 'he doesnt have to get shopping for me'?

does he not eat the food indoors either???

he bluddy well should be sharing the chores, he sounds very controlling to me, putting you down about your weight, not wanting you to have independence, using silence and sulking to get you down, you need to be tough with him about this behaviour, its emotionally abusive

alwaysworried_2

jenner wrote: »

what do you mean 'he doesnt have to get shopping for me'?

does he not eat the food indoors either???

he bluddy well should be sharing the chores, he sounds very controlling to me, putting you down about your weight, not wanting you to have independence, using silence and sulking to get you down, you need to be tough with him about this behaviour, its emotionally abusive

I said that cos a poster asked if he would have to do more chores, so I was using that as an example.

He isnt very happy and has said I will be working for hardly anything and if its company I need I should do voluntary work !!!!!!
He says he obviously cant stop me from taking the job, but he thinks im wasting my time.

Ive said he will have to pick kids up on a Friday and in a few weeks my son has a hospital appointment on a Friday morning so ive said to my husband that he will need to take him. I usually take my son, but, as i will have just started the job I dont want to start taking time off straight away especially as its only a temporary post, but he says hes not taking the time off and hes not picking the kids up on a Friday. He says Im the one thats taking the job, therefore I should be the one that arranges proper childcare etc.

I really dont think he wants me to be happy

jha

"but he says hes not taking the time off and hes not picking the kids up on a Friday. He says Im the one thats taking the job, therefore I should be the one that arranges proper childcare etc."

OMG - I would just take the job - i would not tolerate my husband saying things like that to me.

I am sorry i dont have any advice and hope the situation resolves for you soon.

buxtonrabbitgreen

It is difficult for you isn't it. He really doesn't want you working to have any impact on his life at all.
If you really want the job and he is really not going to even pick the kids up,is there an after school club?

puddy

alwaysworried wrote: »

I said that cos a poster asked if he would have to do more chores, so I was using that as an example.

He isnt very happy and has said I will be working for hardly anything and if its company I need I should do voluntary work !!!!!!
He says he obviously cant stop me from taking the job, but he thinks im wasting my time.

Ive said he will have to pick kids up on a Friday and in a few weeks my son has a hospital appointment on a Friday morning so ive said to my husband that he will need to take him. I usually take my son, but, as i will have just started the job I dont want to start taking time off straight away especially as its only a temporary post, but he says hes not taking the time off and hes not picking the kids up on a Friday. He says Im the one thats taking the job, therefore I should be the one that arranges proper childcare etc.

I really dont think he wants me to be happy

no, i know you said it in response to someone asking if he needed to do more chores, but you phrased it in a very telling way, you said that he didnt need to d the shopping for YOU. but he wouldnt be doing the shopping for YOU if he did do it, he would be doing it for the family, just like you do it for the family. You said it as if it was YOUR job, it isnt your job, you just happen to do the shopping at the moment. chores are neutral, as a couple you could decide who does what based on practicalities and skill.

so now he's not going to take his child to hospital, what sort of man is he? im sorry, i know he's your husband, you have committed to him and had a family with him but i would show him the door to be honest