Children Wetting Themselves at school!

galvanizersbaby

Nicki wrote: »

Not every parent can be as lucky as you though! In London catchment areas are tiny, literally measured in metres from school to HOME address, so unless you work from home, the chances are that you will be at least half an hour's commute from school if not more.

Not sure luck has got that much to do with it - I put up with lower pay so I can live and work where I do - I wouldn't want to live in outskirts of London having had to commute there for a long time prior to when my children were born - I realise that most parents aren't able to work that close - I am a stand-by pick-up mum for 2 of the boys in DS's class

As for calling parents in, I have a friend with a special needs child who is called in to school for such trivial issues as the child needing some lip balm for their lips, a clean tissue, etc. So schools don't necessarily apply common sense as to what is an emergency necessitating an adult to leave work.

That is really ridiculous!

As is often the case, I think nottslass is the voice of sanity on this thread. Interestingly there was one very similar over on the Discussion Time thread last week, which I stopped reading and posting on after a while, because I was so shocked by the number of posters who were OK about the idea of leaving a child in wet pants and trousers at school for prolonged periods of time.

I missed that thread - I wasn't saying I thought it was ok to leave a child wet for prolonged periods - simply stating that I can understand why a mum helper/TA/Teachers reluctant to change a child if they are told they are not allowed to

I am a bit baffled as to why the schools appear to have different policies on this - tbh I always assumed that my school was the norm but it's apparent different schools do different things.

Glad the OP's isn't having the additional stress of the school calling her in for accidents though

VeganClaire

From working in a school it is usually teaching assistants/ nursery nurses who help children get change - maybe just by keeping an eye on them while they change themselves or by helping the child to get changed and cleaning them if necessary.

Think it would be really useful for you to provide three or more spare pairs of underpants and one or two spare pairs of trousers, and some spare socks, These should all be labeled (even just with pen on labels), and placed either inside his school bag or in a named bag. Nappy bags and wipes will also be usefull especially if he is likely to be more than just wet. Keeping an eye on the amount of spares a child has is really important.

If you are worried about this pop in and chat to the teacher am sure they won't be the only child to have accidents and may respond well to little remimders/stickers/timetable.

Best wishes

lolababy

Hi my daughter was at nursery run by the education and they toilet trained her as she was still in pull ups.

fernliebee

Hiya, might be worth having a word with GP or health visitor, not because it is unusual at all (i have worked with children since I was 16 and this is much more common than we get told!) just as they may be able to give you some tips on how to help. A family member had bed wetting probs and I wonder wether some of this advice may help you in the daytimes. The specialist said that his bladder hadn't been stretched enough so needed to drink large drinks, rather than smaller drinks. Also they told him to avoid all blackcurrent drinks or flavoured sweets etc as blackcurrent can irritate the bladder apparently.

As I said before though it is more common than you think, and I would just ensure he has plenty of spares and encourage him to dress himself so you are confident he can do it at school. Maybe easier to change clothes if he has probs ie elastic waisted trousers and slightly larger socks as this can make it easier for them to do it on their own.

Good luck with it, he will stop in his own time, I'm sure after your experience as a child you are such a supportive parent on the subject.

Krystaltips

My daughter just started Year 1 and she still has a wetting problem... She also wouldn't tell someone if she wets herself, she will just sit in wet pants all day (like she did yesterday...) I had a word with her teacher that when she says she needs a wee, she needs a wee now. If your son is in Reception then I really don't think you need to worry, my daughters reception teacher was lovely and very good at sending her to the toilet, or just letting her go when she needed to and she was completely dry by Easter... Sadly that went by the by once the summer holidays started and she didn't have any structure to her day... I'm hoping now she's back at school she'll get back into good habits quicker...

(Completely understand re late bed wetting and horrible step mother... I've always been very low key when my daughter has an accident at night, and surprisingly, she is dry at night with only the odd accident!)

scrimpingbadger

Listen, DON'T WORRY. Teachers expect this. Starting school is a BIG thing and many many puddles will happen in the next few weeks.
Don't fret. He'll get there in the end (and boys are always tougher in this respect than girls).

Paparika

owsaboutthatthen wrote: »

OP, I am worried about my little girl who started Nursery yesterday. She has been very lazy on the toilet-training side of things, and has only just managed to get out of nappies, just in time for Nursery.

Apparently, she was fine yesterday when she was there, and she asked for the toilet etc. HOWEVER, she is very good on the toilet when she isn't wearing trousers. When she wears trousers (or anything that feels thick like a nappy for example), she forgets and she wees! With the weather becoming colder, I want her to wear tights, and i'm dreading how she'll be.

The Nursery ideally like children out of nappies. I wouldn't dream of putting a nappy on her now (apart from at night time), but it doesn't stop me worrying how she'll be.

The weather isn't cold just yet, can you keep her in dresses / skirts the longer you can leave it the better she will get, and by the time the weather turns cold she might have progressed.

JMW77

Thanks for all the responses,feels better knowing other parents are dealing with the same problem and i am not on my own.

tandraig

I cant believe some of the posts - teachers not allowed to change pants etc. my grandkids attend the same school my kids went to. its not perfect but they dont allow kids to stay in wet or stained clothes all day!!! they may phone parent to say kid had accident - but they change them into dry underwear or top clothes if necessary - and its up to parent if they want to pick kid up then or at end of day. if school is worried about abuse, then surely two members of staff could help child - oh but that could be misconstrued too? this is getting out of hand - not the thread but the political correctness which is pervading society!

KellyWelly

Firstly, this is very common.

Secondly, from the school's perspective, YR children wetting their pants is no big deal. In my school we will change them, put their wet things in a nappy sack and that's the end of it. We help them change if needed but try to get them to do it for themselves. We will always wash a child who poos their pants because poo left on their skin will make them sore.

I am not sure what kin of school has a policy of leaving children in wet or soiled underwear, but we would never do such a thing.

We have even had pupils who aren't toilet trained and we've had to change nappies in YR (only 2 that I've known).

OP - do not worry, the teacher will be expecting some children to still be a little unreliable with toileting and will be used to the wet pants routine, honest! My own daughter was still wetting her pants quite regularly when she started in YR but she was fine, I just bought cheap packs of knickers from M&S (£2 for 5 pairs) and put them in her PE bag so she could change herself when needed.