Children Wetting Themselves at school!

JMW77

My son is still wetting himself at school ,i really don't know what more i can do,he started school last week for the first time.
He had to be constantly reminded at nursery,is anyone else worrying about the same thing or does anyone have any ideas to help him.
What about a number 2 i am convinced that will happen today !

Any advice would be appreciated!

mrcow

It's a lot more common than you'd think. I wouldn't say it's normal, but it's certainly not uncommon iyswim? It's just something that parents don't talk about.

The main thing is that staff won't change him if it happens. They'll usually just call you.Is he able to sort himself out? If so, then a spare set of clothes is a good idea.

Why is it happening? Does he just forget to go, or is it something more physical? If it continues, then speaking to your health visitor is a good idea. If it's a question of just forgetting, then speaking to his teacher and getting her to remind him at break times etc would be a good start.

lolababy

Hi the staff in my daughters school do help if a child wets themselves as did the nursery that was under the la. So I think it depends on the school.
Some children do soil themselves but Im sure the teacher will encourage him to go the toilet. It may be an idea to have a timetable that can be followed say every twenty mins.. Then increase to every thirty mins between toilet breaks. It may work if he has a strict routine.
Children do forget if they are engrossed in play. You can buy underpants which are waterproof . You could use them until he is dry.

owsaboutthatthen

OP, I am worried about my little girl who started Nursery yesterday. She has been very lazy on the toilet-training side of things, and has only just managed to get out of nappies, just in time for Nursery.

Apparently, she was fine yesterday when she was there, and she asked for the toilet etc. HOWEVER, she is very good on the toilet when she isn't wearing trousers. When she wears trousers (or anything that feels thick like a nappy for example), she forgets and she wees! With the weather becoming colder, I want her to wear tights, and i'm dreading how she'll be.

The Nursery ideally like children out of nappies. I wouldn't dream of putting a nappy on her now (apart from at night time), but it doesn't stop me worrying how she'll be.

galvanizersbaby

Hi OP

I've no experience of this myself with my children but my close friend's little boy who started big school last Sept in the same class as my daughter has had almost daily accidents due to a medical condition (he is now taking medication for it)
He started back in Year 1 last week and the accidents are still happening only much less frequent (fingers crossed due to the medicine he is taking)
Sorry if too much info but it's more of a dribble that a full flood

The staff at school are not allowed to change him so my friend went in at first to help him and now she just put's the spares in his bag and he sorts himself out but as I said it's getting much less frequent.

I think it's is a common problem and a lot of children have accidents especially in the first year of school.
As another poster suggests send in plenty of spares and be prepared to have to go in and help him sort himself out. Also maybe make his teacher aware

I am sure this phase will pass quickly and he will soon settle in to the school routine - try not to worry too much (easy to say I know)

galvanizersbaby

owsaboutthatthen wrote: »

OP, I am worried about my little girl who started Nursery yesterday. She has been very lazy on the toilet-training side of things, and has only just managed to get out of nappies, just in time for Nursery.

Apparently, she was fine yesterday when she was there, and she asked for the toilet etc. HOWEVER, she is very good on the toilet when she isn't wearing trousers. When she wears trousers (or anything that feels thick like a nappy for example), she forgets and she wees! With the weather becoming colder, I want her to wear tights, and i'm dreading how she'll be.

The Nursery ideally like children out of nappies. I wouldn't dream of putting a nappy on her now (apart from at night time), but it doesn't stop me worrying how she'll be.

owsaboutthatthen - how old is your daughter if you don't mind me asking?

Gingham_Ribbon

It's very common for young children to wet themselves at school, especially when they're first settling in. It can be due to the huge change in their lives, just being so busy they forget or being shy about asking to go to the loo/not remembering where it is.

Keep a change of clothes in their bag and let the teacher know it's there. I'm shocked that some schools don't help the kids with this. I don't know how working parents are supposed to cope with having to go into school for these minor things and I really feel for poor 4 year olds who have to sit in wet trousers waiting for a parent to get there when a classroom assistant could have it sorted out in a couple of minutes. Makes no sense to me.

galvanizersbaby

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

It's very common for young children to wet themselves at school, especially when they're first settling in. It can be due to the huge change in their lives, just being so busy they forget or being shy about asking to go to the loo/not remembering where it is.

Keep a change of clothes in their bag and let the teacher know it's there. I'm shocked that some schools don't help the kids with this. I don't know how working parents are supposed to cope with having to go into school for these minor things and I really feel for poor 4 year olds who have to sit in wet trousers waiting for a parent to get there when a classroom assistant could have it sorted out in a couple of minutes. Makes no sense to me.

I think it is classed as touching the children Gingham - that's my understanding so falls under the same banner as not being allowed to check the children's hair for lice anymore etc...

Gingham_Ribbon

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

I think it is classed as touching the children Gingham - that's my understanding so falls under the same banner as not being allowed to check the children's hair for lice anymore etc...

I think whoever is deciding this in some schools needs to give themselves a shake. Children SHOULD be touched. It's a basic human need.

galvanizersbaby

Gingham_Ribbon wrote: »

I think whoever is deciding this in some schools needs to give themselves a shake. Children SHOULD be touched. It's a basic human need.

I agree with you to an extent but I can't blame the schools for attempting to cover themselves in this day and age.

michelefauk

Hi, I think schools vary in their individual rules about changing children. I am a Teaching Assistant and have changed many pairs of wet trousers and pants in my time! Obviously you try to encourage the child to assist you as much as possible with changing and wiping, but if they cant do it, you do it! There are always spare clothes in school, but it helps if the child keeps a spare set in their bag if the mum knows they are prone to accidents. It really isnt a big deal, it happens all the time. They are so engrossed in what they are doing, they often just leave it too late.

I remember when I was about 5, standing in line waiting to ask the teacher if I could go to the loo, I didnt realise that you could just jump the queue, and waiting for what seemed like forever while the teacher was hearing lots of children read, of course a big puddle formed at my feet and I denied it was me I was so embarassed! My older brother was summoned to take me home to get me changed, as he was 6 so deemed old enough to walk me home. Unbelievable now when you think about it.