HELP need advice, just split with partner today

black-saturn

Sorry I've read the whole thread all the way through now. I really hope you do well and I think you should give it a go. I too am a lone parent. I'm also at college part-time (mornings) on a BTEC travel and tourism course and work from home for a company in the afternoons. I'm totally mortgage free too.

Is it possible to do up a house on the cheap and as long as you dont mind living in it as it is for a while it doesnt matter how long it takes.

Good luck and let us know how you get on.

Foxy106

lynzpower wrote:

you can try I think its beon.tv - but I couldnt find much and ended up doing it myself, my freind wanted that guy off city gardner to come and sort out my yard ( she fancies him madly) , but i couldnt find it on there.

Sometihng doesnt add up here miss K. 1) you reckon you can barely walk from lecture room to lecture room but you reckon you wil be working in a bar. HAve you ever worked in a bar, constantly on your feet for hours on end, and changing lines, shifting boxes. Either your health isnt what you say it is, or you will be putting yourself seriously at risk by even considering it. If I were a landlord I wouldnt employ you to be honest, Its just too risky, either that or you are not as ill as you say you are.

In any event, if you are this ill, dont take on heavy manual labour- you dont need me to tell you how risky this is to your health if you are as ill as you say you are.

I agree, though far be it for me to stop anyone doing what they can to better themselves. I have a healthy heart and just reading what Miss K is contemplating is making me gasp for breath. lol :rotfl:

missk_ensington

I CAN BLOODY WALK! I get chest pains, and palpitations and go a bit dizzy after powering walking across campus in 5 minutes but that's it! Me walking reasonably fast gives me the same effects as you running round the block twice! It doesn't harm me, its just uncomfortable and sometimes painful if the pains are bad

missk_ensington

I'm probably too motivate to succeed than most other people, probably why my concern at 20 is getting a mortgage not getting p1ssed! I have very focused goals and I so badly want to do well because so many people said I was stupid having a baby at 18 and that Id ruined my life. People Ive trusted have !!!!!! on me, and I so badly want to turn around and say 'look what i did'.

I want to open an Estate Agency business in a few years, and people laugh now and think my heads in the clouds but they said that when I said I wanted to do my Alevels in one year with a baby and get A's, go ti uni, work and have a mortgage by 20 with a baby. They said I'll have dropped out of sixth form by term 2 or if I finish it, get D's and E's cos it isnt possible to do in one year.

Someties I get a little fed up of people under-estimating the sheer strength and will of a single mother howevr hard things seem.

black-saturn

I think you are experiencing the full impact of what this board can be like at times. You have to remember that most of the people on this board are deep in debt or severely broke and therefore their lives are clouded by only just making ends meet all the time. Therefore when anyone gets a step ahead or has a lucky break they all get suspicious and/or jealous and think there must be something behind it or you must be fiddling someone. They have a chip on their shoulder about their lives and cant stand it when someone is doing well as it shows up what a mess they have made of their finances.

climbgirl

missk_ensington wrote:

Someties I get a little fed up of people under-estimating the sheer strength and will of a single mother howevr hard things seem.

You keep getting upset because people question your posts (in all the boards so it seems!), but you don't see how your posts are so inconsistent. You tell us you can barely walk up a couple of flights of stairs and then get annoyed when people say you're not going to be capable of doing barwork because it's pretty strenuous work. Seems a fairly logical conclusion to me...

You need to be really clear if you want the questioning to stop, maybe you're exaggerating it for effect or something, I don't know! But we only have the information that you tell us to work with, and when it's contradictory all the time that's why people are getting frustrated on your threads!

black-saturn

missk_ensington wrote:

Someties I get a little fed up of people under-estimating the sheer strength and will of a single mother howevr hard things seem.

I cant identify with that. It gives you an inner strength which can only be achieved by being on your own with children. Thats how I came to succeed and I think you will too.

missk_ensington

BLACK SATURN thank you, I agree with you 100%. Ive found this with my friends off-line. I have a boob job last year (when money wasn't a concern) and found if I got a compliment they'd be like 'She has fake boobs' to put me down. A model scout grabbed me in M/chester and my "friend" piped up 'Are fake boobs allowed in fashion modelling?'.

I never said I can barely walk, I said (for the 50th time) I get out of breath and a bit dizzy, not that I can't actually do it. Some days I get through the day without so much as a flicker of heart problem, sometimes a week with nothing, but the care has to be there regardless cos you cant second guess when its going to be 'ok' and when a heart attack might come on.

This isn't a thread about my DLA anyhow. I don't see what's contradictory, nor do I have to justify. If Ive done well, and that pisses people off that I might make £10-20,000 then I dont care. Black Saturn hit the nail right lon the head with this- misery like misery, misery with debts and no money, doesn't like 20 year old young girl making a lot of money.
Wait for it.....IM A FASCHIST! I might as well say it before we end up with another thread about me being Margaret Thatchers daughter!

Black saturn- I like your attitude, not many people are as upfront x

Foxy106

I can understand after all the knocks you've taken that you feel you have something to prove, but believe me what others think isnt worth working yourself into an early grave for. If you've had 2 heart attacks already you should be pacing yourself a little better. Have a word with your Dr tell him what it is you are trying to do, and I'll bet he/she will advise you to slow it down a bit. I'm not being nasty here, but you do want to be 21 dont you?

Jo4

missk_ensington wrote:

Now had 10 ops in under 4years (can anyone top that! lol)

I have had 21 ops in less than 2 years!! Only skimmed through this post, but I will be back to read it later. For the moment may I wish you all the best and I hope you get things sorted?!