Is anyone putting money behind the bar??

fantabulastic

frannyann wrote: »

Without!!! You think I am made of money LOL :rotfl:

LOL!!! That made me laugh!!

xJayJayx

frannyann wrote: »

Without!!! You think I am made of money LOL :rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Mrsday2Be2

I'm from Sydney, cash bars here are unheard of - so I am relieved that they are common in the UK.:o It really is a cultural thing and I for one am eternally grateful for it.

Jason & I are going for the cash bar only option for our wedding in Feb.

The main reason for this is that we have a few MAJOR p*ssheads in the family who could easily run up a £300 bar tab on their own with little to no effort.
These same individuals are also those whom, if given a 'free bar' option would commence with buying rounds of Top Shelf spirits for the entire venue, including the staff and any other patrons or passing foot traffic even if they were not part of the wedding - just to make themselves look like a 'big man'.

The last thing I want on our wedding day is to have to put up with slobbering drunks grabbing me around the neck and yelling 'Ahhh luffffffff you like a sishta...you know that?hmmm' as they slide to the floor in a drunken stupor.

Somehow, I think it would take the shine off the day for me.:rotfl:

minerva_windsong

My dad picked up the bar tab for both my sisters' weddings, but then I think it was partly because he wanted to and also partly because our family, whilst appreciating a nice ceremony, is more about the party afterwards. I dread to think how much it cost though as we drank the hotel out of real ale!

catwoman

My SIL gets married next week and her parents are suprising her with a free bar! I don't see the point, my SIL isn't going to benefit from that is she? I think they should have paid for a honeymoon or the reception instead as they are on a very tight budget. At our wedding 9 years ago they heard a few people moaning about the hotel drinks prices so I just think they want to keep guests happy at their DD's wedding!

Hubby and I think its ridiculous as they aren't rolling in it anyway and it will probably go on a credit card!! sorry had to get that off my chest!

JBD

To be honest I think this is also a generational thing. When I was Married, 22 years ago, I would never have dreamed of having a cash bar. We made sacrifices elsewhere so we could afford to pay for our guests drinks. And yes we did pay for it ourselves, out of savings, no loans or credit cards in those days. All our guests had to do was turn up.

sunshinejoclaire

really?

My parents have been married 30 years and said that it was never dreamt of to pay for all the guest's drink in their day!

JBD

Yes really. If one of my children was getting married I would certainly put some money behind the bar to help them out. I think it is really rude not to. There again we never had weekend hen or stag parties, or hotel rec eptions, as I said all the guests had to do was turn up on the day and relax and enjoy themselves. Maybe I am unique here but I don't remember ever having to pay for drinks at a wedding.

Mme.Hibou

sunshinejoclaire wrote: »

really?

My parents have been married 30 years and said that it was never dreamt of to pay for all the guest's drink in their day!

It might be a regional thing too.

JBD

I don't know if it is regional as I am from the north east and my ex's family are from the east end of London. All I know is that hospitality comes first then all the other things such as flower arrangements, hen nights etc. If we couldn't have afforded the bar bill then we would not have invited the guests.