Getting Married in Secret

McKneff

Please also remember that on the day, will you feel awful and guilty half way through the ceremony that its going to be a lasting memory on what should be a day to remember for the right reasons.

NOVASTAR

McKneff - I can honestly say that we know we would not (and never would) "deliberately hurt" our parents They know how much we love them and how much we appreciate them loving and caring for us since birth. I guess that we ae both lucky that our parents would not feel the way you do as they know that it would be nothing personal against them - they would be glad for us and realise that its about us and not them. Each to their own though!

NOVASTAR

I don't understand why we should feel guilty half way through???

piglet74

http://www.cityclerk.nyc.gov/html/marriage/marriage_bureau.shtml

i did it! in new york, got married in city hall, honeymooned in the USA, and everyone loved the fact we kept it as a big suprise when we got home, and it also saved us a fortune!!
:beer:
good luck,

NOVASTAR

Thank you piglet74 - getting married in New York sounds wonderful! I was over there a couple of months ago with my girlfriends and absolutely loved it - good for you!

Mands

NOVASTAR wrote: »

Has anyone got married without telling ANYONE about the wedding beforehand?

Almost no one, yes. Went on holiday to Barbados, married on a remote beach under a palm tree part way through. It was lovely. We went along to a social event our first night back and announced the deed to friends and handed round glasses of fizz and photos.

We had announcement cards, including a photo, printed and sent those out to folks who needed to know. Really close family (my father, his children) got a copy by email.

The only person who knew beforehand was my mother and she came along for part, the pre-wedding bit, of the holiday. She was meant to be the only attendee but fate intervened and two relatives turned up bringing some friends. Since there were people on the beach as well we ended up with about 20 strangers watching and then sharing the wedding cake. The remainder of the cake was gifted to some small children and we went on our merry way to a gorgeous honeymoon :-)

Mands

piglet74

its was fab! have a wee look at the website, as far as i can remember (it was only 2 years ago!! lol) it was $60 in total, $25 for the licence and $35 for the marriage, you have to have your licence 24 hours before you use it, it was so easy too,

after we were married we had another few days in NYC, then went onto Philidelphia for a few days ($20 odd dollars on the bus) and then onto Washington DC (Lovely place) for another few days, again $20 odd on the bus,

had a ball, all at a fraction of the price on what a wedding would cost here,

i would def recommend it, and everyone who knows i got married like that, always says to me, "i hope my kids do something like that" or "i wish i had done what you done", i didnt have not as much as one person "take the hump" or be off with me cause they didnt know, or i kept it a secret,

what time of year where u thinking of getting married?

(theres always Las Vegas too, the sister of the girl who owned the shop where i bought my wedding dress, did it in Vegas and travelled around from there too)

NOVASTAR

piglet74 - we're looking to get marrried in July 2010 - 4 years to the day we met. We have a meeting booked with the Registrar next month, but may suggest to OH that we look at getting married half way though the holiday - fancy a relaxing beach holiday/honeymoon.

piglet74

maybe you could take in the 4th July in the USA then! now that would be fab!!

Puzzledbubbles

on the flip side, when i married ex oh we could both think of nothing worse than parading around infront of a million people and getting married in the UK so went to mauritius just the two of us on the beach.

We told all the important people in advance and mum and mil saw the dress etc and then everyone saw the dvd. The day was perfect and i loved every second of it. It is only now that the relatinship is dead and burried that i feel it would not be the right thing for me to do now.

I would not do the same again, at the time it was right and it was totally what i wanted, i dont regret the choices i made at all. but, if i were lucky enough to find someone i want to marry (and i think i may have) then i can think of nothing better than being able to stand infront of all of my friends and family and declare myself his, all of the worry about problems etc just isnt there, there will always be issues and things, but i just know that i want my friends and family who have supported me 100% to be there when i am at my happiest as they all chose to stick around when i was at my saddest.

Congratulations and the above is only my opinion and what i have learnt about myself so please dont think i am being negative


Puzzled x