Wife had to take time off work to care for sick Daughter

mrcow

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

yes, i had worked out there is a bit of a 'clique' on here.

It's got nothing to do with any sort of clique - it's just you - dishing out personal attacks on posters simply because they have pointed out that your wife shouldn't have been signed off sick by a doctor when she isn't so.

Perhaps it's hard for you to take a step back from the situation given the circumstances, and that's understandable. But resorting to sniping retorts is really rather childish.

As is implying that only people that 100% agree with you are being supportive.

In terms of how you come across, you certainly don't do yourself any favours. Perhaps this may explain why you've had problems negotiating time off with your own workplace (rather than purely blaming it on the race of your employers)? Thinking about and working on the way you come across with others may help you in the future. A bit of give and take and understanding will go a long way in any relationship.

bestpud

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

yes, i had worked out there is a bit of a 'clique' on here.



thanks so much to all the supportive posters on here.

now that we know the circumstances with my wifes employers, and how they are being extremely helpful, to which we are of course extremely grateful, we can relax a little and concentrate fully on getting our daughter better, healthy and back into full time education again...

regards
IM

Even those who have pointed out the sicknote problem have been supportive of your overall situation, IM...

inspector_monkfish

mrcow wrote: »

It's got nothing to do with any sort of clique - it's just you - dishing out personal attacks on posters simply because they have pointed out that your wife shouldn't have been signed off sick by a doctor when she isn't so.

Perhaps it's hard for you to take a step back from the situation given the circumstances, and that's understandable. But resorting to sniping retorts is really rather childish.

As is implying that only people that 100% agree with you are being supportive.

In terms of how you come across, you certainly don't do yourself any favours. Perhaps this may explain why you've had problems negotiating time off with your own workplace (rather than purely blaming it on the race of your employers)? Thinking about and working on the way you come across with others may help you in the future. A bit of give and take and understanding will go a long way in any relationship.

it would also appear that you are not happy that my wife's employers are extremely kind, helpful and understanding to her, and clearly value her as an employee.

that really bugs you doesn't it.

oh, and it has everything to do with a clique - you only have to look at all the back-slapping 'thankers' after each of your posts

[Deleted User]

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

thanks so much for your kind words and reasoned thoughts


wife went to see her employers today and they are being extremely reasonable. they cannot do enough to help.
we are are very lucky that my wife must be bl00dy good at her job, that they seem to be bending over backwards to do all they can to understand our situation and help her out

oh, and daughter has managed 2 mornings at school this week unscathed, but extremely shattered, so thats a brilliant start to the new term.

Glad to hear shes doing a bit better...

Your wifes lucky to have such good employers. They aint all like that!

thorsoak

I'm sorry that you are not happy that some of the contributors to your thread pointed out that technically, your doctor has not been totally accurate in his dealings with the welfare system, in that he gave your wife a certificate of sickness - which a lot of doctors would not do.

If the certification were to go on over the six months, your wife could well be invited to attend a medical with the DWP - and that's where the problem could arise.

I'm glad that your wife's doctor and her employers have been so supportive to you in what must be a dreadful time for all of you - but just take a step back, and look at this thread from others' points of view - you have been lucky in having this support at a time when others might not have been so fortunate.

krisskross

thorsoak wrote: »

I'm glad that your wife's doctor and her employers have been so supportive to you in what must be a dreadful time for all of you - but just take a step back, and look at this thread from others' points of view - you have been lucky in having this support at a time when others might not have been so fortunate.

Financial support from council tax payers who almost certainly would not be paid full pay themselves for several months should they need to take time off work due to family commitments. Very easy to be kind, understanding etc etc when it isn't costing the school but the tax payers.

inspector_monkfish

jeeez, you lot make out 'like' i have never paid a penny of tax in my life ! (income or council!!)

:eek:

viktory

mrcow wrote: »

It's got nothing to do with any sort of clique - it's just you - dishing out personal attacks on posters simply because they have pointed out that your wife shouldn't have been signed off sick by a doctor when she isn't so.

Perhaps it's hard for you to take a step back from the situation given the circumstances, and that's understandable. But resorting to sniping retorts is really rather childish.

As is implying that only people that 100% agree with you are being supportive.

In terms of how you come across, you certainly don't do yourself any favours. Perhaps this may explain why you've had problems negotiating time off with your own workplace (rather than purely blaming it on the race of your employers)? Thinking about and working on the way you come across with others may help you in the future. A bit of give and take and understanding will go a long way in any relationship.

^^^^^^^^ Hear hear. Should be the last post really as it says it all.

There is a lot of accusations on here - generally from people that don't like what they hear or the information that is given.

[Deleted User]

viktory wrote: »

^^^^^^^^ Hear hear. Should be the last post really as it says it all.

There is a lot of accusations on here - generally from people that don't like what they hear or the information that is given.

I agree with the OP to some extent though. There are certain people on this forum who seem to take delight in showing off how much they now and never miss a chance to show someone how clever they are and how wrong the OP is.

Then again, likewise, some people just wont take telling.

Note, this is a GENERAL comment and does not refer to anyone or any comments in this thread.

dodger1

inspector_monkfish wrote: »

ok, you seem to have all the opinions.

what do you suggest we do for the best?

I think the problem Oldernotwiser has is with the system and not you. For most of us the only solution to your problem would be family help or taking unpaid leave to look after a child. Use of holiday entitlement could also be an alternative.