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BARGAINHUNTER!

Well done on getting a lodger so quickly ISOM - I might be having one move in with me too to raise a bit of extra cash! Did you get your lodger to sign any sort of agreement and if so do you know where i can get hold of one for free (the only ones i can see on the internet you need to pay for and im literally watching every penny at the moment!) Also, have are you arranging things living wise? Obviously they will have their own room and access to kitchen, bathroom etc but what ablt simple things like toilet roll, tea, coffee? Are you providing food and letting them use your washing machine? What about washing powder? Sorry for all the questions!!!!

In_Search_Of_Me

Bargain hunter feel free to pm me questions - am anxious about posting the full detail on here! Suffice to say there is a contract but it depends on the type of tennancy - if they are just having a room and sharing bathroom etc then you need a [FONT=&quot]House share AGREEMENT[/FONT]
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In_Search_Of_Me

sorry typing went loopy...if you cant find one let me know and I'll anon the one I have. You can then use the rent a room scheme so under 4700 (I think is the amount but check on ugov) then you dont pay tax...I did mine with all bills and you also need to take into account that youre council tax will go up as you'll loose your single persons rebate...also need to check re insurance and mortgage provide are happy/will cover - endsleigh do a specialist one...feel free to ask ? by pm...
Have had a first relatively relaxed and ok day today since all this began...saw the cats in their new home and they are happy and I was happy and didnt get upset...then met a friend and we both had a haircut - fun with a one year old!! Mine was my bday pressie and was really the one and only thing I want at the moment - was getting long and scraggly but now lovely shaped and I no longer feel like a troll! Then babysitting and now just going to chill and do some knitting before bed! Lodgers room has (with her agreement) been sorted as she cant cope with it...shes away until Thurs so I have peace and can pee with the door open!! hurrah...
LT am able to slow down a bit and its amazing how a time like this makes you realise whats important...and what isnt. Been a steep, painful learning curve in many ways but I remain blessed by the love and support I've received!

beanielou

Know its early days but hope its going ok with lodger.

In_Search_Of_Me

Will get there - youre pm box is full beanie!

beanielou

Cleared now

In_Search_Of_Me

Evenng all...another nsd here. Me friends for coffe but they paid and sorted the knitting group database...then came home and mastered a granny square (crochet) and watched a weepy film...then friend came round and we played backgammon and now off to bed! Lodger back tomorrow but am hoping she can relax in her room as have sorted books (with her permission)...hoping for a good nights sleep as wasnt able to last night...

shaun40400

hi ISOM

not actually been anywhere just had a full full house,,
us four
bro inlaw
2 new lodgers
and my eldest son (kicked out by his mum,for a week to give herself a breather!!:o)
lots of sickness,,kids inlaw and oh...me a little,,,and did a bit of thinking:eek:

cutting back on the house work,,,,it will still be their tomorrow if not done today:o
and having a little me time when baby goes to nap or even taking a nap myself,,,babies had every bug and illness in the last six months,,,,and i think i was just knackered:o

ive cut back on here a lot,,,30 mins(ish!!) is all im allowing myself,,,,and the odd evening call in, if these nowt on the box:rolleyes:

s x x

In_Search_Of_Me

sensible shaun...cant do it all but hope youre getting help with all those things to do?
Have a friends baby for a couple of hours, then snooze then babysitting...all money! House at last tidy and now starting to think of Christmas as will have to e innovative and make with what I have so scarfs in abundence me thinks!! Feeling v groggy having taken tabs last night...more nightmares so def back to herbal nitol...may be a slob and go back to bed and watch tv...the advantage of living in one room!!!

In_Search_Of_Me

Had a nice day and very excited as having a day out next week. Friend has a vw camper van...bright yellow - how cool is that!! and is goin to take me to the beach for bacon and marmalade sandwiches. One of my best things. I cannot tell you the absolute joy in discovering the simple pleasures in life again. Unfortunately, these are smattered with some rather nasty feelings of what can only be described as utter dread at the moment so will chat through this with the appropriate/relevant people...never experienced that before and its really horrible...