I am fed up with doing all of the cleaning cooking and washing...

Zazen999

I'd change that last paragraph into a rota list - why should you do it all; and if the rota is not adhered to; the rent will be going up and a cleaner will be employed.

If you look at your words, it is 'can be'....which means it can be but it doesn't have to be. Use 'IS' in place of 'can be'.

Cleaning the house
Kitchen and house: cleaning stuff is located in the cupboard under the sink –
Cleaning stuff for the bathroom is in the bathroom!

KITCHEN
· The kitchen counter needs to be wiped whenever it is dirty even if you are just waiting for the kettle to boil or are just washing up.

· The kitchen counter needs to be wiped before preparing food as cats get up on it.

· Do not leave diry utensils on surfaces, wash them up or put them in the DW

· Microwave: each person in the house wipes out the microwave, plate and underneath it at least once a week, this keeps it clean.

· If when washing up include the cat bowls and also change water bowls

· The hob is dirty if there are any splashes on it ..

· Most of the pans, cutlery, plates and other things in the kitchen belong to me. Leaving them in the kitchen sink dirty is NOT acceptable.

· HOWEVER... placing dirty things in the dishwasher IS FINE.

BATHROOM
Cleaning stuff for the bathroom is located in the bathroom – various sprays, blue sponge and loo brush next to the toilet.
· The sink: all that is required is a quick spray of cleaning liquid on to a sponge to wipe round and a quick rinse, after each use.

· The bathroom cabinet is dirty when it has toothpaste spots on the mirror and beard shavings on the bottom ledge, so clean it.

· The bath/shower is to be rinsed out after each use, include tiles after a shower

KITCHEN BIN
Empty it BEFORE it is full. If it has stinky water or stuff in the bottom of it then wash it out with bleach or disinfectant.


RECYCLING
The list for what bin goes out when is above the light switch in the under stairs cupboard.

GLASS – is placed on the old coffee table by the shed
PAPER/ CARDBOARD – is placed with the rest of it outside
CANS – bin is outside – cans are put out daily
FRESH VEGETABLE / SALAD WASTE – is disposed in the compost bin located behind the shed, and is put out daily

We will all take responsibility for cat litter trays, hovering and dusting weekly, descaling the kettle and cleaning the toaster, cleaning windows, cleaning out drains, cleaning the washing machine and dishwasher filters, defrosting and cleaning fridges/freezers and cleaning the oven, and I will ensure that supplies are purchased in good time. See below for rota.

[Then give yourself the stuff that they will never do, such as the cat litter, the filters]....

princess_loki

do you think i should put it up and see if they will do it??

i hate conflict:o

BitterAndTwisted

You've already got conflict! They're sitting on their ar*es and you're doing all the fretting and scrubbing and now you've expended a whole lot of effort on something they won't take any notice of.

msb5262

Yes, and if they don't do it, employ a cleaner (initially for 4 weeks). Also do get 2 or 3 spare washing-up bowls so any washing-up left unwashed can be put in these and left either in the culprit's bed or in the garden! They will get fed up when they run out of clean dishes and cutlery...
It sounds as if you've really had enough of being treated like this now, so hold onto that feeling and take action. Go girl!
MsB

ailuro2

Don't put that notice up.It's too long winded, and smacks of your high standards, which means they'll write it off as impossible to do.....

Put up this one.

"This house is now clean.
If you drop something, pick it up.
If you make a mess tidy it up.
If you leave something behind, come back and take it with you to store in your own room.
If you dirty something, clean it.


Failure to do this will result in a cleaner being employed, which will be paid for with increased rent."

ailuro2

princess_loki wrote: »

GLASS - can be placed on the old coffee table by the shed

Maybe you also need to follow your own rules - keeping an old coffee table in the garden with glass jars and bottles on it?
Buy a proper recycling bin and put it by the back door, along with a little compost waste bin that can be emptied when full.(£2 from Sainsbury's, iirc)

Carlos_Miranda

Well even I am with you. I too get fed up of cleaning whole day and night. Especially when there are kids at home, you just can't control them. They don't listen to you and just keep spilling eatables, papers, mis-mantling books etc. How many times do we need to clean them again and again. They should be taught some discipline even at schools. Let me also follow the putting up of sing boards at home in order to teach them discipline.

Margaret52129

ailuro2 wrote: »

Don't put that notice up.It's too long winded, and smacks of your high standards, which means they'll write it off as impossible to do.....

Put up this one.

"This house is now clean.
If you drop something, pick it up.
If you make a mess tidy it up.
If you leave something behind, come back and take it with you to store in your own room.
If you dirty something, clean it.


Failure to do this will result in a cleaner being employed, which will be paid for with increased rent."

This is more readable than the first one. I used to do this with my OH/kids when they were at home, but I found that eventually they didn't read it. Now they've got their own homes, they know where I was coming from.

With my OH I do the basics, (I prefer my cleaning of the bathroom/kitchen to his LOL) for washing clothes I do most of it, and tell OH to peg them out - so it's a shared job. I iron his shirts, but don't hang them in the wardrobe because if he can get them out, he can put them in.

It sometimes works, but between times I have to grit my teeth because he leaves them too long. I've told him many times that I'm not his mother but his wife/partner and we both work approximately the same hours. I often feel like a nag, but then why should I do it all. I do get stressed when i see the mess, but if I do it all, he would never do anything, so I tell him what he should do and leave him to it, which he does - eventually!

Best of luck with whatever you do, but at the end of the day, it's your life and you only have one - so use it for your best interests.

Hope your OH gets well soon.

RadoJo

I have to agree with those who have said that you may be expecting too much - I keep a clean house, but do not clean the microwave, toaster and oven etc once a week and do not recall ever washing doormats or cleaning curtains more than once every couple of years. You are making work for yourself which is fine if you insist on these standards, but by asking them to do cleaning tasks which seem unecessary, you may well find that it undermines the important points about maintaining hygiene standards - it's all about picking your battles as your main problem seems to be incompatible standards between you and your OH.

As others have said, focus on the day-to-day things that absolutely have to be done instead of giving instructions that do not really indicate which jobs need priority attention. And I also agree about the cleaner threat - give the lodger a set period of time to pull his finger out and make necessary allowances for your OH, and after that get a cleaner in, no ifs ands or buts!

Good luck - it must be a nightmare when your OH is ill and you feel like you've got the weight of the world on your shoulders, but I'm sure you can make it work!