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starnac

every little helps

clearmydebts

I like the idea of the extra days leave. I always run out of annual leave

clearmydebts

Tirlittan - re: your BF. Even if he could tell you that he does want to move in with you at some point in the future, I'm sure that would make a huge difference. Is he very shy? What about if he has a few drinks? Is he more likely to be freer with his words then?

tirlittan

It would make a huge difference. Unfortunately, he's very guarded drunk or sober. I just need to talk to him without making a bid deal out of it, which is very difficult for me as I'm very matter of fact,straight talking person. Going about things in a round about way is so not me.

starnac

clearmydebts wrote: »

I like the idea of the extra days leave. I always run out of annual leave

i'll lend you some. i never get chance to take mine

clearmydebts

tirlittan wrote: »

It would make a huge difference. Unfortunately, he's very guarded drunk or sober. I just need to talk to him without making a bid deal out of it, which is very difficult for me as I'm very matter of fact,straight talking person. Going about things in a round about way is so not me.

Has he been hurt in the past, or is that how his parents are with each other? It sounds you know how best to deal with him though, so that is good! My brother is quite guarded but he is completely different with a few drinks on him. Quite the opposite really, it is funny!

clearmydebts

starnac wrote: »

i'll lend you some. i never get chance to take mine

Ha ha! Thanks!

I wish my company did an annual leave purchase scheme!

I have always been very strict with the taking of annual leave cos I think you get too stressed if you never take it.

tirlittan

Well that's the thing, he's not been hurt and nothing bad has really happened to him re: relationships and I've wondered about this before, aloud to him. I kind of know how I should deal with him, but it's so far from my natural way of doing things I find it quite difficult actually doing it.

starnac

men. why do we bother??

cmd - we've always had a lot of annual leave but the nature of the job means you can't take it during certain times Christmas for example and you end up having to cancel some a/l or there's not enought weeks to go around

clearmydebts

tirlittan wrote: »

Well that's the thing, he's not been hurt and nothing bad has really happened to him re: relationships and I've wondered about this before, aloud to him. I kind of know how I should deal with him, but it's so far from my natural way of doing things I find it quite difficult actually doing it.

I am very similar to you so would find it quite difficult as well. They do say actions speak louder than words though, and you say he treats you very well, so that is a good thing.

What about mutual friends, are any of them taking the next step? Moving in or getting engaged? I think when that starts to happen it moves fellas along a little bit.