OH wants break after 7 months of marriage!!!

daphne_descends

viktory, you're deluded, but it is FUNNY that you use your thanks count as validation of your views, as if the people of MSE could never be wrong, hahahahahhahahahaha

but by YOUR reckoning 40% of what you post is crap

hevab

Some people are single parents and its no ones fault!!

tizhimi

Get him out out out of your life, be strong and do the right thing by your kid. Screw what anyone else says - do whats right by you and your child. A happy single parent is better than an unhappy argumentitive (smoking father - yuck!) couple.

Nope, you'll be fine girl, you'll be fine.

lilmissmup

I am sorry your going through this hun, your hubby sounds a lot like my ex who i was with up until 2 months ago for over six years too.

He didn't want to grow up either, i wanted children, he didn't, i wanted to buy a house, he wouldn't have minded but made no effort to do it and spent all his spare cash on beer and fags and weed. So he left me and run away from our problems, a lot of which if he had been willing to talk i think could have been worked on but some were maybe too big though.

The thing that annoys me about him now is that he has given up weed and drinking a lot less he tells me, it sucks when i think i wasn't enough to make him grow up but you can't force someone too.

Keep posting here and you will get through this emotionally and financially.

consultant31

astonsmummy wrote: »

I wouldn't use a thanks count as an excuse, half of MSE are smug judgemental morons

That seems like a very smug, judgemental remark too (I don't know you enough to guess whether the other part fits)!

ipod_killed_the_musicshop

Sorry if not reading the replies is about to show me up but why don't he get a job?

property.advert

I'm a guy with a young child and a single parent and with my long experience of trying to make things work and hoping for things to get better with the mother when it cost me nearly everything, both financially and emotionally, I have to say "dump him".

Your child comes first, not him and the only way you are going to be able to sleep easy, knowing that your bills are paid and there are no bailiffs at the door, is to take control of your life and shut him out. He cannot have any input nor benefit financially except to pay maintenance for your child. Get everything in your name.

If he can prove himself, then he can step closer to your life. What you want emotionally has to be forgotten. That is not important. You have a child and that is the only important thing. When or if he can ever see that, then he has a chance. He has to stop the boozing, stop the smoking and get a job. If not, he can see his child on regular scheduled visits. Up to him.

kaze_2

ipod_killed_the_musicshop wrote: »

Sorry if not reading the replies is about to show me up but why don't he get a job?

He does actually have a job, its me who lost my job, although now have just found out that he's been made redundant, rather conviently so he can't give me any money for DD.

Since finding out about and confronting him about all the texts to so called friend, i haven't heard from, (last thursday) and to be honest don't really want to, and DD doesn't seem to be missing him at all, but i have a feeling that he's going to turning up at the house demanding to see her, how does all this work, really don't want him to take DD out of my sight as don't want so called friend anywhere near her and don't really trust oh to not disappear, but i know that he does have rights. This is all such a mess.

astonsmummy

consultant31 wrote: »

That seems like a very smug, judgemental remark too (I don't know you enough to guess whether the other part fits)!

no i was just being sarcastic,