HeavyHeart, EmptyPurse

beer2006

HeavyHeart wrote:

On the downside, during my walk in the park with my neighbours son, I tripped on a piece of broken glass. The glass just made me slip, but I fell onto my knee and now my one pair of fairly presentable jeans have a big hole in the knee area (and my knee also has a hole in it).

Seriously don't worry about it :rotfl: I'll let you into a secret.....don't tell anyone......I only own one pair of jeans and no other trousers I also only have one pair of boots and no shoes
Oh and I have about 50 little splinters in my hands
I wish I could say I was making it up

I bet you look great! especially now you look trendy as nearlyrich says

xx

Thriftylady

I have just read this post from beginning to end and I am almost speechless at how awful these people sound and how brave you are being....but not quite.

My only suggestion/question is, does your mortgage lender know about the tenancy agreement ? I used to work for a mortgage lender and the bottom line is that we would never, under any circumstances, have granted a mortgage on a property where a third party had a right of residence. I just wonder if the lender doesn't know about it, and they 'accidentally' found out about it, would it give you the extra pressure you need to try to get his parents out? e.g. its not our decision, its the banks....

I really wish you all the best, your story is horrific and has certainly made me count my own blessings today.

Lucifer

I am glad you had a nice walk and cleared your head. Did Pete agree about selling the house to clear debts, or did you not talk about it?

What about buying a park home?? I know it might sound crappy, but my friends in laws had a problem and did exactly that. They now live on a lovely site, which is well maintained - they have their own tiny garden area with plants and to have a barbeque. By the time it depreciates you might be able to get your hands on the flat. Also it is better than throwing good money after bad on rent. It will be yours!! you may need to have a small loan to top up your available equity, but should still be better off. I could easily live in one, it is warm, cheap to maintain and they have their own little community reight on their doorstep.

sophiesmum_2

Hi Jen
I have been reading this thread with absolute horror of the situation you have found yourselves in. I can't possibly imagine how you must feel, desperate just doesn't seem to cover it. I'm not qualified to give you any financial advice but just wanted you to know that you are not alone, there are some good folks on here rooting for you.Please keep posting and keep us up to date on the situation, if only for the fact that you will feel less isloated and you will get the support you sincerely deserve.
There seems to have been some good advice offered by others here which I would definately look into. Mostly whatever you do try and not let your relationship with Pete suffer,it must be a tremendous pressure for both of you and I hope that you get a much needed break from it soon.
I tossed and turned through the early hours thinking about your situation so I can only imagine how it must feel from your perspective.
You are not alone in the world please accept the support from this site and get strength from it.
sophiesmum

hornetgirl

Dear Jennifer
I don't really have any new suggestions to add, but since you seem quite open to the idea of renting, moving nearer to Pete's work might make sense? Even if the rent is more, his travel expenses would be less and he wouldn't be away from home for such long hours. I am assuming here that moving away from the in-laws from hell would not be an issue.
Other than that, hugs to you both and hang in there. Things will work themselves out.

Pobby

Cheers Lynz

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luv ya too babe----xxxx

freebird65

OMG....huuuuuge hugs to you both. I sat here on the verge of tears when I finished reading your first post - what a horrendous situation...and what monsters his parents sound. Just shows again that you can choose your friends but not your family. Your OH has definitely gone far beyond the call of duty in looking after them. Thank god you two have each other....that's the most important thing here and you WILL get through it however awful it feels right now.

Even if it's not ideal, I'd say sell your house, clear those debts and start again......I wish I was a qualified property lawyer and could tell you what to do about THEM, but sadly not.

I really, really wish you both the very best....be strong....with the help of everyone here and yourselves you'll sort this out!!!!

xx

kathfisch

What can I say? Nothing except to echo the best wishes and huge ((((hugs)))) sent by everyone else.

I have read through every post and you have received lots of good advice. It will definitely make a huge difference to the situation when you know what the legal position is concerning the contract with Pete's parents.

Another thing that comes through very strongly is your own bravery and strength. You might not feel very strong but you have demonstrated such a level head throughout all the info/suggestions/questions etc.

The bond between you and Pete seems so strong, that is really worth preserving from all this.

Do keep us all updated with your thinking and any info that you find. We are all primarily concerned for your health and mental state, and of course there is always someone here to talk to. I'm not sure how you are with the suicidal thoughts at the moment but I really hope that you can get some help from the doctor and feel less alone amongst all of us!

I think its great that you have told Pete about how you are feeling and about this forum. You obviously can't discuss all the details over the phone and it will be so nice for you both when he's back and you can work through things together. Just having someone to hug you whilst you are crying makes such a huge difference, and to be able to return this gesture makes your relationship very strong. Perhaps Pete would also like to post here.

Sending very best wishes to you, I will be thinking of you so much.

Take care of yourself dear

Kath x

louB_5

Hi Jen, I'm afraid I do not have much advice for you, but I just wanted to say how moved I have been reading your posts and at all the wonderful replies you have received from everyone on here.

The only one point I have is that the rent in your area is a lot higher than what you are paying towards your mortgage, nearly double, so maybe you could look into the costs of buying a smaller house/ studio flat, whilst using the remainder to cover some of the cards etc, rather than paying a high amount of rent, just a thought and maybe something else to add to your "to do list"!

I wish you both all the best, keep us informed.

x

mom23

Hi Jennifer
Been thinking about you all day!! hope you ok
Not to good on the advice front, wish i was cos god don't you need it!!
Glad you've been able to post and know that we are all behind you!!
Sending more great BIG(((HUGS))) to you and Pete !!