MSE Parents Club Part 5

Mrs_Moc

Hi everyone

spent most of the morning trying to catch up.

I havent been in childcare redmel, but my DD8 spent her first 6 years in childcare as i have only been a sahm this past 2 years, so I asked her what she thinks.

She said she really misses it sometimes :eek:

I used private daycare centres before having a childminder. She said she loved being with all the other kids and it was loads of fun.

BrunoM

angela6834 wrote: »

Hi

Can I just go back to Weezls earlier question about transfering from the pregnancy thread. I also agree with Skint, Tia and SB re the tread moving so quickly, tho I have to say whenever I've posted a question ive always received lots of help.

Not sure how much I have to say that's useful, but hi that's how I started using the thread - was looking for help with a couple of questions, bravely 'cold called' and posted here and got great responses, so after that I felt welcome even if lots of people were talking about their own stuff. Some people keep up with every post, others read and post once a day or now and again, it takes all sorts!

Sami_Bee wrote: »

What foods to avoid

We totally forgot about the potential for peanut allergies when we were weaning, and gave him a rice cake with peanut butter on :eek:
which he LOVED, but we then went a few months without giving him any, in fear. The last month or so we've been giving it to him again though because he is so keen on it (and we're still wanting to fatten him up a bit ).


Mel, it's not very useful but I did nursery from ... 2 til 4..? or something. My memories of those days are extremely hazy. But the lady who ran the nursery was a family friend so my mum felt very comfortable about it all, and in fact me (and 2 brothers) going to her nursery was something we all loved, and let the friend see my parents more and was generally all good. Hers was the first funeral I went to!
I can't see how any of that info would be in any way useful to you - don't know what I was thinking, sorry!

So after a good job sleeping overnight, I took the boy for breakfast, slapped him onto mum in bed briefly for some milk, then went out to pick up a parcel (PO closed due to strike - grrrr), buy him a new sleeping bag, and go to the farmer's market. Good times were had, I dangled him from his sling the whole time which he enjoys, he was very flappy and interested and talkative - then I put him in the car to drive home and he conked out instantly!
So this is 90+ minutes before his usual nap time, and without any fighting it or complaining or booby... I got home, gently transferred him to cot and he didn't wake! He is still sleeping now :T and so is OH, as I didn't see any need to wake her up when I got back


Weezl, you are once again an unrecognised buddha of the family household your kind thoughts and all the suggestions are amazing. I think you have hit on something:

There is still an underlying issue to work on, but I think a bit of OH's stress the last couple of days was old-fashioned PMS :rolleyes: as she is still BF her periods have been very irregular and she was ambushed by one last night. On top of that, yes she is trying to diet the last few weeks - and doing a great job at being disciplined about it - but it could well be causing her to have mood dips and swings. Thanks for thinking of it!! I can't dig up a good hug icon but hugs


Still planning to put that spreadsheet together of everyone's awesome advice though

Sami_Bee

:wave: Hi Katie!
It's Timmy Time!

redmel1621

cazscoob wrote: »

*hugs* mel ill not lie i find it hard leaving erin but when i walk in the door and her eyes light up it makes me feel so much better! like you if i dont work then we couldnt live at the moment and as hard as it is we have to do it. Kai will be fine and he will have a great time with the child minder, the fact you have arranged to do things with him will also be great for the two of you!
beforei forget even though its hard leaving the LO i am enjoying the adult converstaion and being me rather than someones mum for aa while:D

I have left both the other two while I worked, but it has always worked out that they have been at home with dh...even when I was a full-time(plus some) manager when ds1 was a baby until ds2 came along...

MadDogWoman wrote: »

Mel,
My dd has just spent 4 days with a childminder and she's was very happy. She went to a different every day, including a garden centre.

My experience of childminding is from the other end - mum was a childminder when I was growing up. All the children were happy to be there.

Thank You, I am glad you dd has enjoyed it with the childminder:)

Mrs_Moc wrote: »

I havent been in childcare redmel, but my DD8 spent her first 6 years in childcare as i have only been a sahm this past 2 years, so I asked her what she thinks.

She said she really misses it sometimes :eek:

I used private daycare centres before having a childminder. She said she loved being with all the other kids and it was loads of fun.

Thank You - Awww it's lovely to hear that she actually misses it sometimes, although I'm sure she loves being at home with you more;)

redmel1621

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Mel I went to a childminder from about 2yrs old until I started at the primary school my mum works at It's fine! We still see said Childminder she is a family friend now, she runs a toddler group that I took Chris too (and really need to get used to getting up early enough to go again!)
also Chris absolutely LOVED going to his minder when I worked, she usually had one or two other slightly older toddlers plus some older ones after school plus her 2 son's. Because Chris was the youngest they all looked after him, he loved being the centre of attention all the time, I was quite sad when I finished because he liked it so much!

Thanks Sami I know he will be fine, I just love him so much I don't want anyone else spending too much time with him....I want to smother him in love all by myself:o Not very realistic maybe, as even if I wasn't starting Uni I would have to send him somewhere for 16hrspw while I worked...and would be a grumpy mummy because I hate the job and it is both mentally and physically exhausting (not in a good way) I am sure I will be fine once he has actually started going:rolleyes:

BrunoM wrote: »

Mel, it's not very useful but I did nursery from ... 2 til 4..? or something. My memories of those days are extremely hazy. But the lady who ran the nursery was a family friend so my mum felt very comfortable about it all, and in fact me (and 2 brothers) going to her nursery was something we all loved, and let the friend see my parents more and was generally all good. Hers was the first funeral I went to!
I can't see how any of that info would be in any way useful to you - don't know what I was thinking, sorry!

Every comment helps me, honestly. Even if it is just to say you went to one and enjoyed it.....it sounds like yours was a positive experience anyway:)

searching_me

morning chucks ... SS having kids makes you weaker against alchol (i'll have to google the article i found later) after zoe i couldnt drink no where near the same amount as before and now its half of it ...
i have had a headache for the past week started when i started stressing about money and its just never left its eased to a point where i dont notice it then an hour or 2 later its back im popping corner shop in a mo i'll get so iburprofen .. got people coming up today so gotta clean up and de-doghair the place ...... fun .... hope everyone else is having a good day even if it is grey and miserable x

Sami_Bee

BrunoM wrote: »

We totally forgot about the potential for peanut allergies when we were weaning, and gave him a rice cake with peanut butter on :eek:
which he LOVED, but we then went a few months without giving him any, in fear. The last month or so we've been giving it to him again though because he is so keen on it (and we're still wanting to fatten him up a bit ).

So this is 90+ minutes before his usual nap time, and without any fighting it or complaining or booby... I got home, gently transferred him to cot and he didn't wake! He is still sleeping now :T and so is OH, as I didn't see any need to wake her up when I got back
Still planning to put that spreadsheet together of everyone's awesome advice though

I did the same with PB, thankfully Chris was fine!

maybe we were right that he needs a nap earlier now?

are you enjoying the quiet house now? I find it quite eerie when it's quiet

MadDogWoman_2

SB

I've Sky+'d most of the Timmy series, she's currently watching one.

She adores Timmy along with Mr Tumble and Pippin.

I have a pink princess today - pink top, pink trousers and pink & white socks, can't you tell daddy picked her outfit!

MDW

elle_gee

Morning all..

Rhys slept 8pm to 1am, then wouldn't settle so we put him in his chair in OH's comp room (with OH) and he slept 2am to 6am, then dozed between breastfeeds and finally a bottle at 10am has sent him back off well and truly OH has been looking at me in a "omg, how do you fit all this in?" kinda way as I've been bf-ing, expressing, settling/playing with Rhys, preping bottles and meds with a screaming baby in tow, and managing to eat breakfast.. nice for him to see I'm planning to tell him he's doing all the morning stuff tomorrow but I'll save that gem for later

*hugs* for Mel, Weezl and Bruno (and MrsBruno!) and :hello: to angela - fantastic to hear Rose is doing so well

Today's plan is trip to B&Q for OH and I once my parents get here, Dad is painting and Mum is looking after Rhys (well, keeping her hands clean and not doing any mucky jobs in case he need picking up etc while I'm out). Need loft boards and big storage crates, then we'll nip into town to order that bouncer fom Mothercare and to get my ring reshaped - I managed to squash it quite badly yesterday (whilst still on my finger!) and by the time OH squashed it back well enough to get it off it's now practically square! Once we get back, OH is boarding the loft and mum and I are clearing through the junk, loading some into the back of her car and going to the tip to get it all done in a day.. Ha, that's the plan! :eek:

Hope everyone has a nice day xx

ETA: This arrived for Rhys today - got it for £8 on eBay, barely used Hopefully it'll keep him entertained..

redmel1621

Bruno - I have to admit I went through a similar thing to your oh, I would battle with ds1 to get him to nap because I thought that if I let him 'win' he would know it and would then 'try it on' in every situation. In the end I gave up, I felt like a failure and a crap mum, but couldn't bear the tears any longer.
I decided to take the let him get on with it and do what he liked attitude, and guess what, he did still nap but at different times to what I had been trying to get him to nap. After a short while I began to take notice of his behaviour and worked out when he was tired, we would then cuddle up on the sofa and put some cartoons on or a dvd and he would fall fast asleep. By doing this he also began to associate cuddling up with purple blankie and monkey on the sofa with mummy as nap time, and I could 'alter' his nap times slightly if needed by using the same tools:)

Dh gave me a kind of 'I told you so' because he had given me the why are you trying to get him to sleep when he clearly isn't tired speech. Even though it had been him moaning that he was tired half the time...anyway, it all turned out for the best and with ds2 and now ds3, I am have followed their lead as to when they are tired. The house is a much happier one for it too:D