MSE Parents Club Part 5

searching_me

awwwww elle very very cute x

emlou2009

oh i meant to say, going back to the weaning/boob juice pots talk the other day, if anyone has a mr cheaps near them go and have a look cos the one here is selling 8 plastic pots with lids that look a tiny bit smaller than a small jar of baby food for £1!

ETA: the same ones are selling on ebay for double the price... hmmmmmmmm......... might have to have a few fall into my basket and then fall straight onto ebay :think:

r.mac_2

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Bruno - it just occurred to me. Benjamin sleeps on the sofa during the day, either that or in our bed.
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Bruno I hope you don't mind me rabbiting on Again! But I have been thinking. Firstly what helped me get LO into a nap routine is to recognise she doesn't like her cot during the day (she's fine at night). So we started to co-nap in my bed. then as I didn't need to nap all the time I would lie with her till she fell asleep and the then get up and do the chores. In her cot she's sleep for about 20mins after lots of fighting but in bed she'll happily drift off and sleep for as long as she needs - usually 1 1/2 hrs but sometimes longer or shorter. I know it's not recommended by HV etc but it works for us and I make the bed as safe as I can and check on her.

Also - I think another way of appraoching things with your OH is to seperate the problems out - firstly sit her down and chat about getting LO to sleep. Discuss all the options and go with somehting to try for a couple of weeks. THEN speak to her about helping her destress or some other non-emotive term. Perhaps you could start the conversation by telling her you know she only gets emotional because she is such a good mum and loves E so much, but that if she made sure she was happy she would have more fun with E (or something to that effect - just a suggestion). If you are going to have time off, is there anyway you could have HV visit then? or perhaps tell a little white lie and tell OH you are finding things tough and want to speak to HV about E?

Also - have a look at this http://thesleeplady.co.uk/aboutus.aspx She's not local to you but consults over the phone and will travel (excuse the non mse costs!) I'm not sure if E's sleep is the underlying problem but perhaps 'fixing' it will help your OH realise that?

BTW - I also want to say that I think you are a wonderful husband. If your OH could see this thread it would confirm how much you obviously love and care for her and E, I am sure she would glow pink with pride and pleasure that you are obviously so careing. I don't mean that to sound patronising. I think as we are so female dominant on this thread we sometimes give our men a very hard time when it's not always warranted.

elle_gee

feelinggood wrote: »

Elle, that picture is wonderful! Toby has that same confused 'whats going on look' on his face whenever we try something new!

Tbh, I think it was the manic cheering again that did it!

scruffy96uk wrote: »

Oh wow Elle he actually looks big in that or I think he does, considering how dinky he looked next to the pop bottle!!

He's huge.. noone believes me!

ladybirdintheuk

Elle what a cutie. He looks utterly bemused, bless him!

elle_gee

rmac, how did your afternoon go yesterday?

r.mac_2

It went well thanks Elle. We talked a bit and DH was a bit more understanding/had bolt of realisation I think. it's a 2-way thing, he has to buck up and I have to relax. We can but try - but talking has helped. And tomorrow we are off on our babyless adventures

MOTM - just wanted to say well done to your daughter - what a waste that she's not interested in doing more than 6hrs a week. But I'm glad she's at least doing something. I'm a big fan of education but I do realise that it's not for everyone. Please tell her we all think she's done amazingly well

elle_gee

Finally, the child shuts his eyes! Sleepy yesterday, wide awake today, right when I should be doing jobs.. shame!

OH came in from work but went out again to see the neighbours.. 90mins ago! :eek: He's found something on the council webside to bolster our side of the parking wars argument - the rest of the street again one PITA couple (two people, three cars, long drive, small cul-de-sac and yet they insist on parking on the street instead of their drive!! )

emlou2009

oooh elle parking, thats something that really gets to me. i live so close to the town centre that everyone in the country parks in my road cos they dont want to pay! grr! i'm always giving people looks when i see them walk up the road in uniform and then drive off, they always look quite sheepish!! its got to the point where i cant actually move my car on a saturday cos i'll not be able to park again til sunday evening.
i asked my neighbours if i could park on their drive as its got enough space for 3 cars to drive onto, we have right of way on it to take our bins from the back garden to the road to be emptied, there is a gate in our fence, but she just laughed and said it was her drive, she pays more rent than us to have a drive so if we wanted to pay she would consider it!! since then she has been stupidly noisy, especially in the evening when we're trying to get seth to sleep, and whenever i hang out my washing in the garden she lights the bbq up so my washing always stinks! i knocked on the door again to ask if she would mind telling me if shes going to do a bbq so i could bring my washing in and she rolled her eyes and said "if i remember" and slammed the door! she doesnt...

searching_me

kids :rolleyes: .. i was giving mister a cuddle so zoe got jealous so started trying to cuddle me but was just jumping on me so i told stop being jealous as we love her as well .. so she turns and says but you love me abit more then my brother dont you :rotfl: ... do you think she use to being centre of attention :rotfl: x