MSE Parents Club Part 5

Sami_Bee

Krystaltips wrote: »

Sami, did your hubby clear enough space for your crib yet? Just looking at Caitlyn in hers, I don't think she'll be in it for much longer, her head's not far off the top... Wondered if you'd get chance to use yours yet...

no! the poor boy is squished in his moses! I've had to turn it round because he is trying to roll but only to one side and he was bashing against the side with such gusto I thought he'd tip it!:eek: I did get the mattress out the other week only to discover it was mouldy _pale_ so it went in the bin and my friend that I lent the crib to last year is letting me have her mattress. TBH hubby has been working like mad and when he's here he's like a zombie but we will have to get it sorted this weekend!!

SusanC wrote: »

I only tell OH about MSE and he doesn't understand it. When we were on holiday, one time I said to him, "Can you guess what I'm thinking about?" His answer was, "You're thinking about what's happening on the threads."

:eek:I'm gonna have to take my webby skiing in Jan in the hope we have wifi somewhere local!!

emlou2009 wrote: »

on flat head syndrome, how do you tell the difference between it being ok and not? seth has quite a flat head at the back but i dont know how to tell if its normal or if its gone past normal?

take some photos o get a better look, ask us to look if you like xx

guess what... I have some Money Saving Children related info *picks you all up after feinting*
Asda Baby Event starts Sept 15th all the usual offers I think

had something else to say but I've forgot :doh:

elle_gee

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Printable 10% off voucher http://www.mothercare.com/b/120888031?extid=emc-2724
expires monday at midnight

Oh, muchos ta! Had forgotten about that one..

You are super important to us

Seconded! (or probably 22nd'ed by now! )

i think in general its a good idea to not have LO lay on anything that isn't soft for more than 1hr at a time if possible

An hour?! I'm lucky if Rhys lasts ten minutes before he's too frustrated with not being able to do more - like lying on the floor is all well and good but when he can't shift forward fast enough for his liking he screams!

I've just eaten a whole bar of Green & Blacks in my defense yet again today I have been pooed and sicked on by Edgar ( i think he's feeling a tad off colour )
I have had to hold back tears for about the 10th time in the last few days because Chris point blank refuses to speak to OH on the phone (thus breaking Hubby's heart )

I've just left Ed in the bouncer screaming full pelt for 5mins nothing I was doing helped so he had a little time out, all was forgiven and he snuggled into me as soon as I picked him up and now he's feeding/nodding off

*hugs* for you! Will OH be back in time for bedtime tomorrow? What did you decide about your mum taking Chris to your sister's for the weekend?

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Thanks sweetie!

Not sure if we are going in Europe or not ATM but will apply anyway. Thanks MacSmiler

How are the holiday plans going? No decisions so far, I take it!

Does your wife have a network of virtual support like you do?
And if not, would you be prepared to share yours? (I understand that that is a really tough question, I would say no if you asked that question about my OH )

OH asked if he could join in here too - after I mentioned something Bruno had said and he jumped in with "There are Dad's there too?! Can I join?!" :rolleyes: I told him a flat no.. where else can I moan about him? Hmm.. actually, might get him to get a shift on with the bedroom!

elle_gee

Good grief, how long did that post take me?! I've got loads to catch up on.. back in a bit!

Krystal, if you haven't already, please can you look back for Glam's question on hand expressing and confirm/correct the answer I gave her - don't want to be saying the wrong thing! Thankyou xx

BrunoM

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

Bruno - I think your OH needs someone to talk to before you try and persuade her down the difficult route of professionals - does she have any friends here? I know she moved here to be with you but I am not sure how long ago etc and you have said that she is quite shy... Does she go to any booby clubs etc like we do?
Also, does she belong to any forum? I have been very lucky both with Benjamin and myself (IYSWIM - we can all be prone to issues) but at the same time I would have gone mad without being able to come and chat on here and air my problems/vent/rant/worry etc. Does your wife have a network of virtual support like you do?
And if not, would you be prepared to share yours? (I understand that that is a really tough question, I would say no if you asked that question about my OH )

And finally sometimes your OH is too close to the situation to REALLY talk to about it so don't be offended if she would rather talk to strangers than to you until she gets her head around it.


Tell me to piddle off if you want (but I am a wise woman ) and have double ((((((HUGS)))))) for both of you

Thanks MFD! You make it hard to hold to the trimming down of quoted posts, when your whole post was so beautifully crafted and wise ;p

I think she is ok talking to me about it, but I certainly won't be offended if she needs to talk elsewhere instead/as well.

I agree she needs to talk to someone. I am hoping she talks more to me, but I also want to get an HV involved, hopefully possible.

She has 1 or 2 friends in the UK she might talk to, none married or with kids though so not too sure. She goes to a booby club affair, but don't know if she feels close enough to anyone there to really talk detail, probably not.

She does have her own forums.

No piddling anywhere required and thanks for the hugs!

SusanC wrote: »

Anyway, hope some of that might be helpful in some way - I know it can be frustrating when they won't sleep but they need too especially when you really need the break too.

Just thought of another suggestion: Is there anywhere out of earshot she can go? That way she could pop out of earshot for a few minutes just to get a break from listening to the crying as that could help her to be able to deal with it more easily.

Snipped a lot of stuff from Susan that I agree with, not sure if his nap-wakings could be pee, it is possible I agree! I'll experiment maybe.

There's not really anywhere out of earshot bar going out for a bit, which now and again she does when I am around.

To cheer us up we have been looking at pictures of him -

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=308007&id=678835340&l=a6afd67a7e

and don't know if you can view this video?

http://www.facebook.com/video/video.php?v=252584385340&ref=share

eta, video link doesn't work... when you view photos there is an option to copy a URL for non-FB people - why is there no option visible for videos? Elle managed it somehow!

Mazcabs

Sami, does this link work for photo from Facebook?

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=36284&id=1238780812&saved#/photo.php?pid=704475&id=1238780812

mookiandco

redmel1621 wrote: »

Child care questions...

Do most of you favour childminders over a nursey....also if I go and meet with some prospective carers, should I take the kids with me, or go on my own first and arrange a second visit with the kids?

I am probably going to keep coming on for reassurance now....I have only briefly used child care of any sort back when ds1 was a baby and it was only for 6mths...then after school club for ds1 and 2 last year but only two days a week......

Just catching up after 2 days away so sorry if I repeat anything thats already been said. I signed the contract with my childminder last week as im due back to work on 4th November. I 'interviewed' a few child minders before plumping for the last one I met. I took Leila with me to meet all of them. The reason I didnt choose the first childminder I met was that although fantastic on paper and vert close to home, she didnt acknowledge Leila at all or interact with her.

Now I know Leila is only a baby and maybe I am just used to people cooing over her, but she didnt even look at her. This immediately got my back up.

Whilst at another childminder's home, one of her 'charges' split his lip open on a toy. Now this was a very unfortunate accident and she dealt with the accident accordingly, but she didnt cuddle the little boy and continued to talk to me. I just thought that if that was my little girl i'd one her to have a cuddle and if I couldnt kiss it better i'd want the childminder to do it.

The childminder I went for was a little further from home and this was her first childminding job (though she has a 2.5 yr old boy) but I found her to be very calm and kind and she was the only one to ask if she could hold Leila. She has immediately went to get her a toy and amused her when she began giving us her best scowl! She doesnt drive so maybe Leila wont get to go to a million mother and toddler groups or the farm or the zoo but I dont really want her galivanting at this age (unless its with me!) and the woman had a garden and a dedicated playroom with loads and loads of toys.

Anyways, thats my 2 pence worth.

Also www.netmums.com is a good place to look and I got my childminder from a wanted ad there as they have a dedicated childcare board. There is obviously the normal government website too: www.childcarelink.gov.uk
I also placed a wanted ad on this website by registering as a parent and got a very good response: www.childcare.co.uk (you have to pay if you want to contact anyone though but its free to put a wanted ad in your profile and for them to contact you)

Off to continue to catch up xx

Sami_Bee

elle_gee wrote: »

Oh, muchos ta! Had forgotten about that one..
you're welcome

An hour?! I'm lucky if Rhys lasts ten minutes before he's too frustrated with not being able to do more - like lying on the floor is all well and good but when he can't shift forward fast enough for his liking he screams!
so you have nothing to worry about :cool:
usually the only time Ed/Chris is in bouncer that long is if they fall asleep but you know what I mean (I think)


*hugs* for you! Will OH be back in time for bedtime tomorrow? What did you decide about your mum taking Chris to your sister's for the weekend?
Thanks, He's not sure when he'll be back - could be usual 5pm-ish or could be 9pm as he's stopping at another clients on the way back from poole (where he's been given a box of free stuff from the Lush factory :j)
Parents are taking Chris on sat morning so OH will at least get to see Chris before he's off on his jollies and they're bringing him home on monday afternoon i think. I wish I was going too though

OH asked if he could join in here too - after I mentioned something Bruno had said and he jumped in with "There are Dad's there too?! Can I join?!" :rolleyes: I told him a flat no.. where else can I moan about him? Hmm.. actually, might get him to get a shift on with the bedroom!

isn't there a dads bit on babycentre? I think they have a forum and has he ever read FQ mag? maybe they have a forum or is it more he want to join us because we rock :cool:

angelfairy

Mazcabs wrote: »

Sami, does this link work for photo from Facebook?

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=36284&id=1238780812&saved#/photo.php?pid=704475&id=1238780812

i'm not sami :p but it works for me

Krystaltips

My hubby is on mse... Meks1980... I hope he doesn't read my posts and I don't read his... (See that Dave, I've never read your posts ) I do tell him whats happening on the forum though...

Caitlyn is all settled in bed... I'm hoping she does a bit better than last night, she went off for about an hour then woke me up just as I'd dropped off... Then wouldn't settle again for a while... I'm seriously considering getting a small Ikea cot for her... My original plan was to put the cot bed next to my bed open on one side, but that was when the only baby experience I had was Aimee and she needed co-sleeping... Caitlyn is a completely different baby, she sleeps so much better. I think I could get away with having the small cot in my room then once she's sleeping through consistently I can put the cotbed in Aimee's room...

My_Fathers_Daughter

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elle_gee wrote: »

How are the holiday plans going? No decisions so far, I take it!

OH asked if he could join in here too - after I mentioned something Bruno had said and he jumped in with "There are Dad's there too?! Can I join?!" :rolleyes: I told him a flat no.. where else can I moan about him? Hmm.. actually, might get him to get a shift on with the bedroom!

I am pretty much stuck on Gran Canaria I think
We have definitely ruled out Florida (in the last 10 mins) because although the flights are a pittence and we could stay for free at MILs villa we don't think it is worth getting Benjamin used to the time difference for just a week (and work won't permit us any longer this time)

***Reminder about passport fees going up on 3rd September***

Hubby finds MSE a maze!! He will often ask me to 'ask martin' but he can't find his way in here! (thank god )



Bruno!!!
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