MSE Parents Club Part 5

Jvic28

Sami_Bee wrote: »

I found a the list of childminders from my local council website.
Make sure you ask any that you call for their OFSTED number so you can look up their report before possibly wasting time going to visit them.
I spoke to mine over the phone first then visited with Chris, he settled in straight away and we still see the CM at one of the groups we go to she's like an Aunty to him

Thanks. I'm off the check the council website now.
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tiamai_d

Christopher is at home today with a stinking cold (worth part of going back to school after holidays is all the bugs) but luckily Amber is in a better mood, she pooped last night weyhey! She had an almost full day of formula feeds on Saturday when I was depressed with mastitis and it must have constipated her, she was cranky as hell yesterday. :rolleyes:

All this talk of chilminders reminds me of another thread from not that long ago that got a bit volitile :rotfl:

Also Christopher says Timmy is naughty, your not allowed to run in nursery.

tiamai_d

Fingers crossed or your DH Mrs.T. How about some *Dont be a Richard* vibes for his boss?

Sami_Bee

Tine, will your momma be bringing you weird food that you miss from home? I remember something about salty fish sweets..

I'm not sure I could ever leave the UK, I love my food too much!!
oh while we're on food (well i am) has anyone been to the bit of Switzerland that boarders Germany?? We're going skiing there in Jan and I'm wondering if the food will be similar to Austria where we've been before

r.mac_2

morning all. nappies - we have generally used huggies since birth, but I'm finding that we use huggies super-dry at night (just moved to size 4) and during the day we use pampers active fit (size 3 which seem bigger than the huggies size 4!) As for wipes I happily alternate between huggies and pampers depending on what offers I have managed to get - I can't decide if I have a favourite yet.

sami - what a gorgeous puss cat. A real tiger! We got a baby instead of a cat.

MrsT - wow, how excited must you be?!

3 - have a great time away.

:wave: to everyone else.

I haven't had a good start to the day. I've got to the stage where I feel constantly critiscised by DH. I'm not sure how much that is the case, and how much i'm just hearing it wrong. However, that doesn't change the way I see it and I can't get him to understand how he's making me feel. I have no idea how to make him listen -talking hasn't and my tantrum and tears had even less of an effect. I just felt like a naughty toddler and he still couldn't hear what I was saying. I don't like being me right now.

Jvic28

r.mac wrote: »

Jvic - tips to try and help you. Try and take a nap during the day with baby - just one makes a huge difference. Make up one or two extra feeds with the last feed of the 'day', that way you have less to do in the middle of the night. Stop wearing clothes that need ironing :D:rolleyes: or like MFD does, get your MIL to do the ironing:rotfl:Ask hubby to do something specific - often they want to help but just asking them to help gets a bit lost in translation I find so I offer a choice (just like you do with a toddler;)) or ask if he could do x while I do y. Seems to work for us.

Thanks. I will definately be trying to take a nap with baby today. Need to be getting more sleep in the day. Last night wasn't easy. Had a snorty baby from about 2am.
I've been making up the night feeds in advance so thats much easier.
MIL lives 200 miles away so no chance of her doing my ironing. My mum lives 30 miles away so unlikely I can even get her to do it. I've given up ironing my clothes pretty much now anyway. But I do iron OH shirts for work. (Although he has had to do a couple of his own this week)

Gonna treat myself and get my eyebrows waxed today. Feel a bit more human after that I think. Also gonna highlight my hair (have already warned OH he will be in charge of baby tonight)

How is everyone else this morning?

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feelinggood_2

Awww R.mac, sorry you feel like that. Even though you don't like being you, we like you being you. Have you tried sitting down with OH somewhere neutral, at a time when you are both happy and calm - not immediately after you feel critiscised, or when he is tired etc.

Wipes - I've always used Tesco wipes, they do the job, don't smell horrible and LO doesn't mind. Luckily he doesn't have sensitive skin at all. I was concerned he'd have baby eczema like I did, but that seemed to just be a fluke.

BrunoM

r.mac wrote: »

sami - what a gorgeous puss cat. A real tiger! We got a baby instead of a cat.

I haven't had a good start to the day. I've got to the stage where I feel constantly critiscised by DH. I'm not sure how much that is the case, and how much i'm just hearing it wrong. However, that doesn't change the way I see it and I can't get him to understand how he's making me feel. I have no idea how to make him listen -talking hasn't and my tantrum and tears had even less of an effect. I just felt like a naughty toddler and he still couldn't hear what I was saying. I don't like being me right now.

Awww r.mac that sounds like no fun at all babies can put so much stress on parent relationships I made OH cry last night cuz Elijah tugged her laptop power cable, the machine froze and wouldn't reboot, and she shouted at him and wouldn't take him off me so I could try to fix it we made up eventually though (and I fixed it!).

Fingers crossed for you to find way to get through to your OH, he needs to remember that when you're dealing with a baby 80% of his job is to make sure you're ok


Lovely cat, and baby, pics thanks posters we got a baby instead of a cat too, though we have a catflap which Elijah is utterly fascinated with and will spend minutes at a time sitting there batting. He managed to pull it out of the door-frame once... :eek:

money_maker_3

Morning

I am so proud of myself this morning !! I got up, showered, dressed and Jasmine and Dylan up washed, dressed and fed and out the house and to school early for the 1st time and I did it all on my own Its easy this 2 kids thing, isnt it ?? (dont quote me on that when I am pulling my hair out because we are running late every day nex week !!)

Yeah Mrs T, bet you are super excited !!!

r.mac_2

Thanks feely, yes we've sat down and talked. I can't really explain how I feel. The Dr thought I was suffering from bieng a high achiever and having high standards that others can't/don't live up to and that I beat myself up too much over things that aren't perfect. This mornings row was set off by DH complaining he didn't have an ironed shirt, that the washing 'smelled' (how I'm not sure as it hadn't been left sitting in the machine) and telling me that I need to get used to just having a nightime sleep and stop sleeping when baby sleeps. Yet he doesn't think he was criticising. I feel that he's just pulled my best efforts to shreds and that i'm not doing a good job (where's savvy when I need her!!!)

I'm sorry about saying all this on here and normally I wouldn't but I don't know how to fix this and who to talk to about it (my prefered choices aren't available right now!) and you aren't real IYKWIM.