MSE Parents Club Part 5

tiamai_d

Sami_Bee wrote: »

does anyone know what I should be considering/asking when looking for a nursery/preschool place for Chris? Is it wrong that I don't want to send him? I know he'll love it but I'll miss my #1 baby

How do they organise the session? I mean, settling down time, play time, snack time, etc.

How do the handle the usual biting/hiting issues? DS1 was always being hit, nipped and bit by one child (that one from the street behind us that is now a thug) but they constantly were put together as they were 'friends'.

What type of play is there? Is it well organised? If they are not keen on something are they encouraged to try it or just left to find something else?

They will go over things like illness, bringing toys/belongings, news time (child brings something from home and gets to show it off), snacks etc.

I'm 28 with 3, I feel old on here, I never used to feel old....

scruffy96uk

elle_gee wrote: »

My mum phoned them for a chat when she found out my sister was gay She wasn't suicidal over it, just wanted someone completely unconnected to the family to talk to about it. Was mourning the loss of the "normal" life she was expecting for sis and all that, I think.

thanx for that, that has helped me make my mind up.

elle_gee

scruffy96uk wrote: »

thanx for that, that has helped me make my mind up.

Hope you're okay scruffy xx *hugs*

feelinggood_2

scruffy96uk wrote: »

thanx for that, that has helped me make my mind up.

Hope you get someone to talk to. There are loads of helplines out there, so if you want one for a more specific problem, you can have a search around, or I can have a look for you. The Samaritans are great, both in times of real distress, and when you need someone to talk to.

Big hugs to all those going through hard times. If there is anything any of us can do, just say!

redmel1621

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Mel I agree with what Feelie said especially as Kai is still a baby I know others may disagree but I personally would never send a baby to a nursery for mostly the same reasons.

I found a the list of childminders from my local council website.
Make sure you ask any that you call for their OFSTED number so you can look up their report before possibly wasting time going to visit them.
I spoke to mine over the phone first then visited with Chris, he settled in straight away and we still see the CM at one of the groups we go to she's like an Aunty to him

:oI didn't even think to look up their OFSTED report - Thank you so much:D

tiamai_d wrote: »

I'm 28 with 3, I feel old on here, I never used to feel old....

I agree with all the questions tia put up about the nursery for you Sami...and I know what you mean about not wanting to send him I was the same with ds1:p

Tia - Don't panic! I am 29 with 3 kids....does that help:rotfl:

searching_me

afternoon/evening everyone ... been abit busy didnt get up til 11am then spend 3 hours trying to sort money (til no hope) then tried watching that martin lewis free online dvd but my mate popped up so been talking to her (the one from last night i told her whaat i thought) and she just left and my head is pounding still from this morning from sorting money and i still need to eat but dont know if im even if i want to ........

so how is everyone? how was your day? x

redmel1621

feelinggood wrote: »

In my experience (while studying, training and working) most young people don't go into childcare because they want to. It is often seen as something that anyone can do, that doesn't require good grades. A lot I knew were told 'childcare or hairdressing' - the only things they could do. There are some (me! and a lot of older ladies) who choose to do it because they love babies and children. I found more childminders did it for the enjoyment. I also like the home structue of a childminder, I'd want to find one who took the kids to the supermarket, to visit her family, to the dentist for her appointments and things.

When I get back into work, I think I'll become a childminder.

Thank You for your reply...has definitely helped me with my choice:)

I have now printed 3 possible childminders and will phone them to find out more and there OFSTED number (thanks again Sami)

BeenieCat

I rang them once and i completely froze, i didn't know how to start the conversation at all :rotfl: The bloke on the other end didn't say anything to help me spit it out, so i just said "errr errm i'll ring back later thanks bye" :rotfl: I never did ring back though

elle_gee

Searching, did you get anywhere with your 33 or 39wks SMP query?

r.mac_2

Sami_Bee wrote: »

does anyone know what I should be considering/asking when looking for a nursery/preschool place for Chris? Is it wrong that I don't want to send him? I know he'll love it but I'll miss my #1 baby

remember that you don't have to send him for all of the sessions - if you think it would be beneficial for you both you could start at 2 sessions and build up (in Scotland you get 5 - normally 5 mornings or 5 afternoons, I presume it's similar with you in the darkest depths of england-land )

Red - my feeling is that I would look for a childminder, but if I couldn't find one I know there is a lovely nursery at the end of the road...but some of the girls just look sooooo young. Why not visit a few of both. I know one nursery nearby offers fantastic facilities that a childminder couldn't - so i think it depends on what suits your children and you. Can I be cheeky and ask how this effects your baby thoughts? Feel free to ignore me:o

Jvic - tips to try and help you. Try and take a nap during the day with baby - just one makes a huge difference. Make up one or two extra feeds with the last feed of the 'day', that way you have less to do in the middle of the night. Stop wearing clothes that need ironing :D:rolleyes: or like MFD does, get your MIL to do the ironing:rotfl:Ask hubby to do something specific - often they want to help but just asking them to help gets a bit lost in translation I find so I offer a choice (just like you do with a toddler;)) or ask if he could do x while I do y. Seems to work for us. HTH

MacLaren - it's a black aluminium frame with a red and grey seat. I like it It came assembled, I just had to add the hood and basket - very easy. TBH it is the most basic model and doesn't recline. If I was to go and spend money on one I would probably buy the quest (the next step or 2 up) as the extra features are worth it - but as a holiday buggy I can't fault it at first glance. I just need to think about a sun shade - any tips? Also I wonder if it's worth buying a cheapy travel protector bag? any thoughts?