Wol's Riverbank tales: Part 3 Restoration

Wol2

Karmacat wrote: »

Have a great time, Numpty. And Wol! I'm glad you'll have Numpty for company.

Thanx KC

Hope the househunting is going OK - let us know if you need any extra input over the coming week

xxx

taxi73

Great that Sir Numpty will be over to help you.Take care Hun xxx

Karmacat

Thanks Wol - in my haste to find somewhere I wanted to live in HH, tho, I kind of forgot to focus on selling this one - I made alist of the jobs I needed to do, just little things like we've talked of. There were 40, and I did 10. So *since* its gone on the market, I've been clearing the path in the back garden, for instance, clearing a lovely set of steps halfway up the garden, and mulching the area that was going to be the shaded patio - it makes a huge difference when the features can be seen properly. It would be lovely to bounce ideas off you, tho, especially if something comes up.

Right. I need to loll about a bit before I go to bed take care of yourself, stroke the piggies for me
xxx

Wol2

taxi73 wrote: »

So so sorry to hear all the crap going on in your life(from all sides).Sending you loads of hugs to help you work your way through the feelings.If you want me I'm only at the end of the phone or pm or e-mail xxx
You have got so much on your plate at the moment..one good positive thing is family member having second op and it being a success xx
Are you still seeing your counsellor at the moment as she is a great help to you?
Take care xxxx

Hi Taxi

Your email came through - welll the "testing" one did - so glad you are back up and running :T:T...and thnx for the hugs which are gratefully received :grouphug:

Yep I'm really pleaaed that family memebr is still very upbeat and positive - and also that their consultant is supportive of their decision to go for homeopathic rather than hormone treatment. It has made a big difference to their outlook/positivity to get that support form the medical profession :T:T

I was notified late last week that there is a big family bash being organised for Whitsun bank holiday weekend - but I already have special commitments (made long ago) with Auntie Smashed which I have no intention of changing. :cool:

Nonetheless, the pressure to "please" the family (in my own mind - not from any of them) has been really acute for me over the last few days and this has contributed to my rather agitated state. I know that all those people together in one place is neither (and indeed never) healthy or constructive...beit for me or for family member at the present time. In the past I would have considered it my "filial duty" and moved heaven and earth to be there.....and this "old conditioned behaviour" is dragging me down big time. Despite all the counselling to date.......old habits die hard :rotfl: I feel completely torn....and incredibly guilty that I am "letting everyone down"...even though I know for many reasons it would not be good for me to attend something like this atm ......and in "normal" life if you already have commitments elsewhere and an invite comes so "late/last minute" it is, (I'm pretty sure anyway), considered perfectly normal/acceptable to turn it down??? :cool:


Hugs Hun - regretfully I haven;t been on the diaries since before Easter os hope you;re doing OK

The Rave is still "full on" btw - I have made alterations to the build contract and all will be finished and sorted ready for end of July :beer::T
(i.e. proper beds as promised for the girlies and no chemical toilets necesssary...well except for the boys sleeping in PP who elect to use the garden for "quick night widdle"!! :rotfl::rotfl:)

The mind boggles :rotfl::rotfl:
xx

Buffythedebtslayer

just a flying visit, to send hugs Wol you fabulous woman xxxxxxxxx

Wol2

Karmacat wrote: »

Thanks Wol - in my haste to find somewhere I wanted to live in HH, tho, I kind of forgot to focus on selling this one - I made alist of the jobs I needed to do, just little things like we've talked of. There were 40, and I did 10. So *since* its gone on the market, I've been clearing the path in the back garden, for instance, clearing a lovely set of steps halfway up the garden, and mulching the area that was going to be the shaded patio - it makes a huge difference when the features can be seen properly. It would be lovely to bounce ideas off you, tho, especially if something comes up.

Right. I need to loll about a bit before I go to bed take care of yourself, stroke the piggies for me
xxx

Will ring you Hun and me and "Sir" will visit/conflab

Also if you are interested, I have found new "top totty" landscape gardener who is looking for work atm. He is going to put down the new guinea pig lawn for me and possibly (if financially viable) returf some of existing lawn - plus take out a load of aged shrubs, stake back a few others that went droopy in the snow, etc etc. He would love your garden in view of other work of his I have seen (and he is very reasonable in price......also not gobby......and his shoulders are to die for )

xxxxx

Wol2

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

just a flying visit, to send hugs Wol you fabulous woman xxxxxxxxx

Hi Buffy

Keep the 31st July free and please send me your email addy so I can send you some info :D

I am now seeing my new hand surgeon on 11th May at 6pm - if you;re not too far from the hospital (and I don;t think you are ), we could meet up afterwards for a drink/meal/whatever.....and of course a cuddle (and possibly a nail clipping) with your girlies

How are your girlies doing? and how are you doing Hun??

Will get back on the diaries soon...thanx for your concern and for popping in here....much appreciated :kisses3:

xxx

taxi73

Hi Hun....you are totally right not going to the family do!!!!
(1) You have made prior arrangements with someone you want to spend time with
(2) You don't want to go and that is totally YOUR choice and YOUR deciscion to make ..nobody elses.
(3) You do not need to please anyone in life only YOURSELF
(4) YOU are not letting anyone down
(5) YOU have no need to feel guilty about anything.

Whitsun ..you are going to spend a lovely time with smashed and not even give a second thought to the family do as you have the unlitimate right to do what makes you happy and visiting family doesn't make you happy....so please enjoy yourself.!!!!


Looking forward to the Rave..my tickets are sat waiting here ready to go..its going to be fabby...I eventually managed to open that attachment on the e-mail .

Wol2

Nargleblast wrote: »

Wol - good days, bad days, such things our lives are made of. I suspect all your frenetic activity over the past few weeks may have been a subconscious effort to hold at bay these troubling, nagging feelings that are now surfacing.....you just have to ride them out, however awful they make you feel. At least you have friends on here, plus your counsellor, plus your knight in shining armour Sir Numpty who I believe will be winging his way to you very soon to provide that well-needed bit of human contact involving hugs, big shoulders and where necessary boots up the backside. Soon this dark cloud will have passed over and the sun will venture out for you again.

Too true Nargle - very perceptive. I have tried very hard to move forwards over the last 2.5 years, to the extent that I now finally feel positive enough to initiate these building works and get my hand seen to (that in itself should be seen positively in that I must feel a lot stronger than this time last year if I am now prepared to face getting this stuff done ). But at the moment it all seems to be dragging me back to the year post flood when everything went pear shaped and I am having a few emotional moments :o(actually that's a bit of an understatement :rotfl:)

I am sure this continuing psychotherapy is doing me good long term..and I veiw it as a once in a lifetime opportunity...but sometimes I really DO battle with it atm as I know now I cannot ever go back to who I was..nor would it be good for me to do so..but I'm not sure I like the "person" I am at the moment ...even though this may be a transition or "limbo"phase IYSWIM

I just SO want to draw a line under everything that's carp - and start off in July with a restored house, healthy guineas, decent income, reimbursed savings and peace of mind...no more horrible surprises or black clouds.......unfortunately it doesn;t seem to be that easy (insert confused smiley)....

I will plod on...but I guess I am getting sorely impatient now....with myself as much as with any of the "systems" I am currently dealing with :cool:

Hope you and the chickies are doing OK.......quite fancy sharing their baked beans and mash if you are serving it up soon :rotfl::rotfl:

Thanx for sticking with the diary...it's much appreciated

xxxx

Buffythedebtslayer

Wol2 wrote: »

Hi Buffy

Keep the 31st July free and please send me your email addy so I can send you some info :D

I am now seeing my new hand surgeon on 11th May at 6pm - if you;re not too far from the hospital (and I don;t think you are ), we could meet up afterwards for a drink/meal/whatever.....and of course a cuddle (and possibly a nail clipping) with your girlies

How are your girlies doing? and how are you doing Hun??

Will get back on the diaries soon...thanx for your concern and for popping in here....much appreciated :kisses3:

xxx

hmmm Me liking the plan and have messaged you on FB.

The girls are lovely. really come on loads, still a scramble to get them out but its not the end of the world any more and both love parsley (I now I have two parsley plants and give them leaves a couple of times a day.

The vet said I should lay off veg - not give it every day but Sophie has taken to biting the cage bars as a sign she wants food! Not sure I can argue with that, but I have cut it down a little bit. They had their nails clipped at the vets on saturday and a check up all good and only cost 12 pounds!!!

xxx