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** Tuesday 11th August Daily Chat**
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bank_of_slate wrote: »Hi Sammy, that's a tricky one!
Can you talk in confidence to FIL directly with your concerns?
...Linda xx
Not an easy one Linda....he is deaf so a quiet talk isn't gonna happen. He will also want to know how I found out....Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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Sammy - (gulp) I'm going through treatment for NHL now so if you want to PM me or talk on here please do - I'll help if I can. I haven't mentioned it cos I didn't want people to think it was an attention-seeking thing. I've lurked round MSE for ages but joined in chat because I really needed to erm, chat! About anything, :rotfl:Normal stuff. I'm not working and am really missing that at the moment...
For what it's worth, I would try and speak to him myself - dunno if it's possible for you to get him on his own?
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Lenza_Quidditch wrote: »Sammy - (gulp) I'm going through treatment for NHL now so if you want to PM me or talk on here please do - I'll help if I can. I haven't mentioned it cos I didn't want people to think it was an attention-seeking thing. I've lurked round MSE for ages but joined in chat because I really needed to erm, chat! About anything, :rotfl:Normal stuff. I'm not working and am really missing that at the moment...
For what it's worth, I would try and speak to him myself - dunno if it's possible for you to get him on his own?
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Aww thanks Lenza.....for whats it worth my friend had NHL and has made a complete recovery......I don't live near him and I am not sure when I will get to speak to him again......OH lives with his mum and dad during the week though....Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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Are you off on the sick at the minute then Lenza....what do you do normally.....
So nosey aren't I :rotfl:Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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Can OH surreptitiously ask him how he is as he's looking a bit thin/ pale whatever and see if he'll offer up any info?
...Linda xxIt's easy to give in to that negative voice that chants "cant do it" BUT we lift each other up.
We dont count all the runners ahead of us & feel intimidated.
Instead we look back proudly at our journey, our personal struggle & determination & remember that there are those that never even attempt to reach the starting line.0 -
bank_of_slate wrote: »Can OH surreptitiously ask him how he is as he's looking a bit thin/ pale whatever and see if he'll offer up any info?
...Linda xx
i can't tell OH - all hell will be let loose........Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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Tough one Sammy.
It would be better if you had all the facts so you could make an informed decision. If his prognosis isn't good even with the drugs he may have decided on quality of life ie ciggies etc. It's really for your SIL in deal with and she has put you in a difficult situation. (well timed after you sorted the VAT). Could you pretend you were too drunk to remember? :rotfl:
Lenza - hugs. I'm sure you will be fine. There is such a good sucess rate. Keep chatting and we'll keep you occupied.0 -
i can't tell OH - all hell will be let loose........
God, this is an awful situation!
If you don't tell him how will he feel/react if he finds out that you knew?
Will he blame you if his Dad is no longer around?
...Linda xxIt's easy to give in to that negative voice that chants "cant do it" BUT we lift each other up.
We dont count all the runners ahead of us & feel intimidated.
Instead we look back proudly at our journey, our personal struggle & determination & remember that there are those that never even attempt to reach the starting line.0 -
Supply teacher - but have worked in the same couple of schools for years. I was full-time before xmas and loved it. Roughish area but kids and staff are great - docs appointment was xmas eve and whoosh from there
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I don't qualify for sick pay so finances weren't looking great. We kept up debt repayments til march (maxed everything out) then told them all they were getting a £1 a month. In a way, NHL sorted my debts for a while. Had the incessant phone calls etc but frankly I've paid every month as far as I could and Good Luck getting more :rotfl:We also run a community music organisation which is most of the debt came from in a way - 60k debt was for living expenses over 8 years (I know, bad, bad, bad).
Joke "How do you make a musician a millionaire? Give him 2 million!" badoom tisch
sorry xLose The Beef Challenge- start 17.01.11 3.5lbs/60lbs
Tone The Rest Challenge :A - start 17.01.11 Jan 10/14 days Feb 17/28 Mar 4/31
Buy Less Cr*p Challenge- start 01.02.11 Feb £0/£300
It's not the destination...
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bookseller1980 wrote: »Tough one Sammy.
It would be better if you had all the facts so you could make an informed decision. If his prognosis isn't good even with the drugs he may have decided on quality of life ie ciggies etc. It's really for your SIL in deal with and she has put you in a difficult situation. (well timed after you sorted the VAT). Could you pretend you were too drunk to remember? :rotfl:
Lenza - hugs. I'm sure you will be fine. There is such a good sucess rate. Keep chatting and we'll keep you occupied.
It was one of other two SIL's and doesn't get on with VAT SIL....i think she has put me in a difficult situation. I would prefer it if he went for tests and then dealt with the prognosis afterwards...but once the secret is out there the decision will be taken out of his hands.....
I was thinking of pretending to be too drunk to remember, I am not sure she will remember telling me to be honest.
I think I am going to sit on it for a day or two ....Quality is doing something right when no one is looking - Henry Ford
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