How much should I charge my dd for housekeeping etc?

pretzelnut

I paid my mum £50 a week 10 years ago. I gave my mum extra when i could and added extra money to the shopping bills.

I think its a fair amount. Although you are ''losing'' out on the child benefit and tax credits front - remember you dont have to buy her clothes, toiletries or pay for her to go out with her friends or any other associated costs anymore.

As she is now an adult - that is her responsibilty.

If she doesnt like that amount - tough - she knows where the door is.

My mum still charges my brothers £50 a week for food and board. My mum buys enough shopping to cover all meals and anything else my brothers want like junk food, beer etc is extra money my brothers have to pay.

Although she is at the point now where she would like them to move out so she can have quality time with her hubby, and i can understand where she's coming from, no way would i be able to have another adult in our house now, god knows what were gonna do as the kids get to that age.

belfastgirl23

I_am_mad wrote: »

Why do some people get so irate about this topic, I dont think its fair to call people bratts when they dont want to pay, I dont mind paying but its the way the parents go about it, in my experience i was told i had to pay and there was no talking about it which was not very nice.

Yes I understand that my mom would like to enjoy herself and she does, and yes I will have a shock when i come to move out and i am paying alot of money on rent and things! But I dont think its fair for some of the people to make such comments as you dont know individual circumstances. Having read comments such as people being greedy as they dont want to share their money, my first pay packet will be special to me after spending 3 years in university and its not that i dont want to give it to my mom for rent but i would like a bit of lee way, i am far from greedy! so its not nice to be judged!

You are pretty focused on your own needs though

The_Banker_5

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

You are pretty focused on your own needs though

Dont be b1tchy now.;):D

Glen0000

princesswoo wrote: »

, no way would i be able to have another adult in our house now, god knows what were gonna do as the kids get to that age.

Be really, really, really, really quiet

(and hide the dildos )

pretzelnut

Glen0000 wrote: »

Be really, really, really, really quiet

(and hide the dildos )

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Idiophreak

Barneysmom wrote: »

I think £50 is not enough, I wish I get get all my bills paid on that little :cool:

Why, exactly, should the child be expected to pay *all* the bills?

I'd have thought that their share of the bills would be enough?

jellyhead

I think what Idiophreak's parents did was great, am I the only one? Uni is expensive, and I don't think I know anyone who managed to clear all of their student debt before other debts came along. I know what you all mean about being taught a life lesson, learning that bills are expensive etc. and it was that way for me too, but becoming debt-free and seeing it as a goal is just as good, surely? They didn't pay his debt for him/her, just allowed him/her to live cheaply while throwing spare money at the debt.

It depends if the parents can afford it I suppose. Mine couldn't, and that's fine. I hope we'd be able to do the same when our kids finish uni though, if they want to (and if they want to stay at home with us, lol!). I only have 2 children with a large age gap, whereas my mum had 4 close together, more than one child at uni at a time etc. and I know that dad leaving her left her in a financial mess. She needed us to pay our own way, but helps us in other ways

Idiophreak

jellyhead wrote: »

It depends if the parents can afford it I suppose. Mine couldn't, and that's fine...She needed us to pay our own way, but helps us in other ways

Thanks for your post, jellyhead, made me feel like I wasn't quite as insane as I was starting to feel on this thread.

Just to reitterate, though, I did pay my keep at home, a reasonable amount that we agreed upon...I guess it is a little to do with how financially stable your parents are, though. If my parents were so hard up that they needed to rent my room out at going rate to get an income, obviously I'd have either moved or paid them more

Believe it or not, I was speaking to my parents the other day and they reckon my moving out has been a bit of a blow to the budget - although I only paid £200/month, I wasn't there half the time and my mum's one of these people that always cooks enough to feed an army. Heating, electricity and water (non-metered) bills haven't really changed since I left (as they're now using the room for something else). Obviously the mortgage hasn't changed because I've left...They still pay for the phone, broadband etc just the same as they did before...So, in the end, they're actually a little worse off for me not giving them my little payment each month.

Aspiring

Idiophreak wrote: »

I'm sure this is just my "kidult" mind talking, but my parents actually like me - they enjoyed having me around and found it very hard when I eventually left...

:T :T :T


May I just ask - are you an only child? Not that it really makes the slightest difference, I suppose.

Dinah93

I_am_mad wrote: »

Having read comments such as people being greedy as they dont want to share their money, my first pay packet will be special to me after spending 3 years in university and its not that i dont want to give it to my mom for rent but i would like a bit of lee way, i am far from greedy! so its not nice to be judged!

I spent 4 years at uni, came out of it with debt for a masters as well as regualar student loan, the masters loan was from my grandad, and he gave me 3 months leeway to start paying that back in order to get on my feet with paying rent and bills etc. However your paycheck will still be a huge amount of money compared to what you are used to regardless, if you are actually causing someone else costs and they have asked with help towards these, then they need to be covered. My grandad could afford to wait 3 months as they were savings, however I know my parents couldn't afford to have me at home for more than about a fortnight without me contributing as things are very tight. I didn't know this when I first moved back, it's only as time has gone on I realise how tight things are. When we go back to my OHs parents house for a week we don't expect to pay them for food or board etc, as we're very temporary guests, but if it beings inconveniencing someone else, financially or in any other way, they really need to be compensated for that inconvenience.

My parents tell me often how much they like having us there, even want us to get a house with a granny flat when we buy, but that doesn't mean I think they should be out of pocket for having me there. There is a big difference between parents profitting from their children, and parents not loosing out by helping their children live cheaply.