How much should I charge my dd for housekeeping etc?

jellyhead

Susan_Frost wrote: »

Would have been nice if he had shown it by cleaning his room instead, but that's another story !!!

:rotfl:

I had to wash up and vacuum as part of my 'keep'. My sister said she'd pay double if she didn't have to wash up, and mum agreed :rolleyes:

jackieb

I think I need to show this thread to my son. He's works for 2 weeks away and then is home for 3 weeks. I charge him £40 a week, so I get £120 every 5 weeks. He has quite a good salary (£36k and it's going up £6k next month - he's still a trainee so his salary is going up in stages). He's saving up for a house deposit though, and if by me taking so little from him means i'm helping him out a bit, then that's okay by me. I can't help him out by giving him cash to help him, but I can by just taking £40 a week from him.

If he was spending all his money every month i'd be charging him more, but he sets himself a budget of £400 a month and saves the rest. He's quite tight. I should be proud of him.

jamespir

i think £25 pounds would be fair to charge her

it sounds to me that you come across quite greedy saying you wanted her to fill where you dont get the child benifit shes not a child anymore so you dont need to buy her clothes anymore or take her out etc so you dont really need that money at all
but i know youll still provide food and a place to sleep so she should pay somoething £25 quid would be fair as you get a bit extra and she perhaps wouldnt object to giving it you where as £50 pounds seems quite steep


those suggestions who stated you should increase it etc obviously dont have kids

becs

I think £50 is very fair. When I lived at home I was working for M & S and we just had an arrangement whereby I was buying the majority of the food for the family. This saved my parents loads but actually cost me next to nothing! We were a family then that used to have lots of the M & S ready meals (how things have changed now!) and I could buy them in the staff shop for about 20p! I have to say though I don't think it did me any favours in the long run. When I bought my first house 10 years ago and moved out on my own I got into so much debt! Don't get me wrong I wasn't having a flashy lifestyle or expensive holidays and clothes, I just hadn't learned to budget properly and things spiralled out of control. I'm ashamed to say I built up over £10k of debt in 7 years just by normal living. I'm very pleased to say that am now debt free and have substantial savings behind me now that I am married and have had a good redundancy payout 2 years ago and I certainly intend on it staying that way.
We have friends who are both still living at home but are buying a house this year, 1 is 30 the other is 25. Neither pay more than £50 a week at home despite them both earning £45k between them. They come around to ours for meals fairly frequently (or should say they did) but had absoloutely no appreciation of the cost to us for having them. There were never any return gestures of offering to take us for a pub meal once in a while to say thank you. I think they are going to be in for a huge shock when they realise the true cost of running a house. It's all very well putting down, mortgage,gas,electric,water,phone, ctax, insurance and food on a bit of paper but life rarely runs like that unfortunately. Something goes wrong with your heating or your car or whatever and you have an unexpected expense and it's the extras you don't think about when you live at home paying next to nothing that get you into trouble.

iamana1ias

Glen0000 wrote: »

My aunt said that after her kids left her sex life was the most amazing she had in years and I can imagine why.

There is no doubt that having another person in your home imapcts on a marriage, no matter how much you love that person.

I am so looking forward to being able to make love to my wife wherever and whenever I want or to share a shower, a sensual massage, without fear of a key in the door. I am sure many, many married couples feel the same.

Hopefully she'll want to as well.

Have you decided not to have another baby then? Your wife seemed pretty keen a few weeks ago.

jellyhead

becs wrote: »

They come around to ours for meals fairly frequently (or should say they did) but had absoloutely no appreciation of the cost to us for having them. There were never any return gestures of offering to take us for a pub meal once in a while to say thank you.

Yikes, if I go to a friend's for a meal I take a bottle of wine as a thankyou - I hope they're not expecting me to take them out for a meal to show my appreciation :eek: I hope that if they couldn't afford to feed me they wouldn't invite me

I had a friend at uni and one night when we were studying together she moaned about another friend who asked for 3 cups of tea while he was there - she thought he should have offered to pay for teabags :rotfl:

Glen0000

iamana1ias wrote: »

Hopefully she'll want to as well.

Have you decided not to have another baby then? Your wife seemed pretty keen a few weeks ago.

Money wise it is just not an option, which is a shame as my wife is very broody and we have a good solid marriage.

We are just the type of couple who should be having more kids, but this government makes it only possible for teenage chavs to afford to breed like rabbits (yes I am bitter).

iamana1ias

Glen0000 wrote: »

Money wise it is just not an option, which is a shame as my wife is very broody and we have a good solid marriage.

We are just the type of couple who should be having more kids, but this government makes it only possible for teenage chavs to afford to breed like rabbits (yes I am bitter).

How can that be? Surely you'd get the same handouts?

Never seen you say that you want more. You say that your wife is broody, and "we are just the type of couple who should be having more kids" but you've said very strongly previously that you don't. It's unlikely that this has anything to do with money.........

Glen0000

iamana1ias wrote: »

How can that be? Surely you'd get the same handouts?

We dont get anything. Even if my wife was to give up work. Unless I am looking in the wrong places for info.

Glen0000

iamana1ias wrote: »

Never seen you say that you want more. You say that your wife is broody, and "we are just the type of couple who should be having more kids" but you've said very strongly previously that you don't. It's unlikely that this has anything to do with money.........

I have always said we cant afford to provide for more kids, not that I dont want anymore. There is a big difference

We have thought about "splitting up" as we would be a lot better off, but knowing me I would get caught.