It's all over, can't cope anymore

jojo2004

dreamcatcher73 wrote: »

No, not isolated, right in the middle of a busy town. I just don't really have good social skills I suppose,find it hard to talk to people, in the school playground I'm the one standing on her own while the other mums and dads all seem to know each other really well.

Well, one way you could get on better with the other parents is to volunteer at the school. Do they need dinnerladies/playground supervisors/afterschool helpers, or something like the PTA or Board of Governors. That way you'd be meeting them, but without the pressure to make friends if you don't want to?

I also second what mum said (flossy_splodge) about your listening and writing/talking skills. You could become a hospital visitor, or get involved in hospital radio? Mum did that, and absolutely loved it (and learned to be a dj!) - it might even start you on the path to a job - who knows?!

Let us know how it goes with the bank, and good luck! Fingers crossed for you.
xxx

moiramber

Hiya

I just wanted to add re your bank account, I once got into lots of debt and owed a bank £200 I went to citizens advice and they wrote to the bank telling them about my situation and offering to pay it off at £1 a week, I think they accepted I would pay £10 a week till the balance was cleared and they also froze all interest on the account so the amount was not growing. I also had this done on credit and store cards too. Hope this helps a bit

dreamcatcher73

zippychick wrote: »

Great news you are going to speak to the bank DC.

Ok, a suggestion, and if it is a silly one please feel free to tell me so!

How would you feel about approaching the parents? Maybe a small group or so? You could have a "reason" to approach them and try to break the ice.

You could ask something about your childs homework, after school activities, school dinners. What age is DD? Might help us to come up with things you could use as an ice breaker?

"Hi, my name's DC. I just wondered if you knew of any swimming classes/play groups/summer schemes etc in the area for the LO? I was thinking about putting DD in for some in a month or so-s time? Or something along those lines? "

Easier said than done I know, but it would be a start?

Have you thought about volunteering in a charity shop ? Soup kitchen? etc

I have tried talking to the parents in the playground, but they are so clique if that makes sense? DD is 6 and has been for a playdate, I reciprocated this the following week, but the parent hasn't even said hello to me since! I have sort of given up on them!
I have tried looking for a job that fits in around school hours, dinner lady etc, but there is nothing available at the moment, and anything that comes up has 300 applying! lol

I am going to look at the volunteering thing, I have worked in the local hospital before, so maybe there may be something there that I can do for a few hours a week. Will have to look for something to start after the school holidays.. I need something to do even for a few hours a week, stop me feeling so lonely and isolated

dreamcatcher73

moiramber wrote: »

Hiya

I just wanted to add re your bank account, I once got into lots of debt and owed a bank £200 I went to citizens advice and they wrote to the bank telling them about my situation and offering to pay it off at £1 a week, I think they accepted I would pay £10 a week till the balance was cleared and they also froze all interest on the account so the amount was not growing. I also had this done on credit and store cards too. Hope this helps a bit

This is the amount I think I can afford, so hopefully they will accept this, even if I pay it and they don't accept it, by the time it comes to anything I would hopefully of paid it off! Does that make sense? lol

dreamcatcher73

why does nobody bid on Ebay til the last minute? lol Have some stuff finishing in less than two hours, loads of watchers, no bidders! So frustrating, need to raise funds to pay off bank! Come on bidders! Wake up! lol

Poppy9

If you want to get in with the school for classroom assistant jobs, playground supervisors etc. let the head know you are looking for and offer to volunteer for a while until paid work turns up. Tell her/him you want to keep busy and the experience you will get from volunteering will help. Plus the school will have you CRB checked which gives you more options.

Re clique mums. Just keep smiling and going about your business and they will get curious about you. Keep going to PTA meetings even if they don't make you feel welcome. Sometimes they are just shy too and don't mean to be offish.

moiramber

dreamcatcher73 wrote: »

This is the amount I think I can afford, so hopefully they will accept this, even if I pay it and they don't accept it, by the time it comes to anything I would hopefully of paid it off! Does that make sense? lol

To be honest you probably won't even need to do this if you just pay £10 a week they probably won't even bat an eye lid, Good luck , At least you're dealing with your problems! Burying your head in the sand is just too easy, Trust me I know lol! :rolleyes:

dreamcatcher73

i think i have the answer to my ex dilemma,text him this morning to say my mum was in hospital with internal bleeding, he text back at 11am to say hope all is well, haven't heard from him since.....

Thankfully my mum is now home and nothing sinister is showing, but ex hasn't contacted me to see how things are.. am i reading too much into this or is he as insensitive as I think??

jojo2004

It does sound as if he is not supporting you the way you'd like.

I think I remember that you said he was keen to get back together with you? Is it worth asking him what's going on? Pointing out that if he wants to be in your life, he would need to support you, and this wasn't feeling very supportive? There may be a reason that he only sent you one text, or it may simply be insensitivity on his part. Either way, I do think you need to have a very good think about things before considering getting back together with him.

I would suggest it would be better to get yourself to a state of independence, where you feel in control of your life and finances, before you consider any relationship.

Are you going to the bank today? Good luck.
xx