Alcohol self help thread II

mjdh1957

I must admit I wasn't always an angel.

A couple of times, when we were both drunk, I hit him. And he hit me a couple of times too. I'm not a violent person, and I am ashamed of that.

Sometimes I took great delight in pouring his drink away down the sink.

Sometimes I would go out and have sex with other guys without him knowing about it.

For a time I was very bitter, and would bad-mouth him behind his back.

It took a long time for me to let go.

habibi_2

I hit my husband too sometimes - not a good idea as i'm 5'2" and he's 6'4". I couldn't win with my tongue so I used my fists. The day came, though, when he struck back and I had to have a good look at what I was doing and how to control my anger. I'm ashamed of that too.
I did the hunting for bottles, marking them. pouring it away etc. Just a waste of energy and money cos he always got more.
I regret the bad-mouthing too but I understand today why I did it and I will say sorry to him one day. I realise you cannot do that directly but you have admitted your mistakes and maybe behave differently today.

lewt

morning, good to read what goes on in the mind and life of prtners.

hope every1s ok. its all kicking off in JK

beer2006

lewt wrote:

i actully think that alcoholism is like sexuality in the sense that your born with it it dosent develop.

I disagree and heres why.
Not everyone, but alot of people who are alcoholics have other problems, they normally drink because of these problems. Now these problems are usually down to events in their life............. so how could they be born with it.

I know an awful long time ago I said to Al its a disease its not your fault. But I never believed that really. I believe its no-ones fault because these events have happened to you in the past, but its not a disease, I wonder if the reports of family inheritance are nothing more than social problems passed down.

Anyway, my two pence worth.

beer2006

habibi wrote:

I hit my husband too sometimes - not a good idea as i'm 5'2" and he's 6'4". I couldn't win with my tongue so I used my fists.

Was this because of the drink? I mean did you hit him because he was drinking?

beer2006

lewt wrote:

I'm sure you would find that to be unture jayne the people on here are good to talk to, i know i'm one of them:D however the fellowship is something that cant be compared to this thread in anyway. the unconditionaly love a sponser gives is something i've never experienced before. it's truely amazing.

Thats true, there is no way on earth I'm giving any of you lot unconditional love!
Well not the blokes anyway sorry Micheal, I'm short and fat anyway :rolleyes:
The girlies can apply seperately Damn, I've just said I'm short and fat :rotfl:

brodev

beer2006 wrote:

I disagree and heres why.
Not everyone, but alot of people who are alcoholics have other problems, they normally drink because of these problems. Now these problems are usually down to events in their life............. so how could they be born with it.

I know an awful long time ago I said to Al its a disease its not your fault. But I never believed that really. I believe its no-ones fault because these events have happened to you in the past, but its not a disease, I wonder if the reports of family inheritance are nothing more than social problems passed down.

Anyway, my two pence worth.

I see lots of times people disagreeing about "words"........alcoholic, victim, disease etc........ We all have our own ideas of what these words mean and we all differ. I think that we can all agree that whether or not alcoholism is a "disease" or not it is certainly a "dis-ease"

Al_Mac

I think we can agree on that

mjdh1957

beer2006 wrote:

Was this because of the drink? I mean did you hit him because he was drinking?

For me, it was out of frustration and anger and just wanting to lash out. I was drinking too so I suspect it lowered my own inhibitions about using violence. It didn't do any good really, and nothing much changed afterwards. And it gave him something else to ctiticise me for....

mjdh1957

beer2006 wrote:

Thats true, there is no way on earth I'm giving any of you lot unconditional love!
Well not the blokes anyway sorry Micheal, I'm short and fat anyway :rolleyes:
The girlies can apply seperately Damn, I've just said I'm short and fat :rotfl:

I'm booked anyway so you're safe :cool: