Alcohol self help thread II

nicolaspets

My heartfelt thanks to you all for caring enough about a stranger to bother to try and help me.
After a long and hard night, i have decided to give him the 3 days space he has asked for. If he is still drinking at the end I will still be there for him but i will stay in the background, I thought i would go twice a week in the evenings(without my kids) and take food, but I am never again going to get his booze for him, if he can't walk to the shop to get it, he will have to crawl.I believe that if he continues to drink, he will be dead by next xmas, but that will be his choice.
I have a wonderful family here of my own and i need to protect them from this horrible situation.
There is only some many times I will let him choose that bottle over me.
If however, he has come to his senses, I will support him all the way as usual.I am not very optimistic.
Thankyou again and I hope 2007 brings you all what you wish for.xx

beer2006

Happy new year

I do like a new year, a new leaf, chance to be a different person again. Neighbours here last night, had a good evening.

Hi Susie, drop in more often.

feelinggood_2

Thank you for your update nicolaspets, I really do hope things work out for you.
Will be thinking of you and your Dad, you are always welcome here if you want to post.
Take care xxxx

feelinggood_2

Happy New Year Beer
Even nicer that its a Monday too. I like Monday starts.

dinosaur1234

nicolaspets i am so sad to hear your troubles, I have sent you a PM

Happy New Year everyone

jacd

Hi everyone,

thanks for your support on my first post. I've been in a very bad place over the last couple of weeks, but I'm still here.

We have made a decision to quit drinking altogether, as I know I cant do it on my own. We stopped yesterday!!! didnt bother waiting for today as I had a really bad couple of nights where I really thought I wasnt going to make it through without having a heart attack or something. Maybe a bad reaction to something but so very scary.

I've also been so bad that my hangovers ( dont usually get em!) have been lasting all day until I had another couple of drnks and then it would disappear.

Seems like I have made the decision just in time quite frankly - was killing myself but its hard when you have no control.

ANyway didnt drink last night!!!! didnt sleep either though. thats going to be a big problem I know from past experience.

I do have a bottle of wine ( white) for cooking but I dont think I'll be tempted to drink it as its not my normal choice of drink.

dinners are hard - I love wine with my meal and it helps me cope with stress lol - i know it doesnt really but it is my crutch when the sh*t hits the fan at worka nd home.


so I'll stop and wish you all a fantastic 2007.

I want this one to be the one that changes me from being a lush into - well just being lush lol and improves my health!


good luck - one day at a time for me

love and best wishes

jacd

habibi_2

Hi Nicolaspets

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. I lived with someone's drinking for a long time. It was only in absolute despair and desperation when I didn't have anywhere else to go that,some years ago, I crawled through the doors of Al-Anon. It has saved my life and my sanity. The support and friendship I have found there is wonderful. I think I'll try the chat room myself!

I have learnt to do what is best for me and to accept that alcoholism is an illness. However, the drinker has choices and I now know to respect those choices and to detach with love.

You did not say why Al-Anon is not for you. We suggest that you try six meetings and then decide if you want to go back - perhaps it would be worth you doing this?? Contact me any time, I would be pleased to hear from you.

Happy New Year to you all and well done in keeping up the struggle

M x

Al-Anon Family Groups contact details:
Tel: 020 7403 0888 (Mon - Fri 10am - 10pm)
website: https://www.al-anonuk.org.uk
e-mail: enquiries@al-anonuk.org.uk

jayne.doe

Right..... New yr resolution shi* I hate them.. Going back to no drinking have not been anywhere as near drunk over xmas and new yr as have been. Have not had a hangover. But i am not looking forward to the week from hell that i know i am going to go through. I know what to expect and its not fun:(
Tommorow gonna start the kelloggs challenge, i wont be able to drink for 2 wks so got to help. Really not looking forward to it.

lewt

hi all, janye i dont particularly understand how it works, but know it does. for me and loads of others. sometimes i dont even know who im praying to but do it anyway. why not try it? get humble on your knees and ask for the desire to drink to be removed, over and over if need be.

Al its good you are planning on making amends, we hurt so many round us dont we? i have to go to my last(the one before the last one) treatment centre soon and apoligise for dealing there.....

Beer, im still smoking and on the caffine too, thats something i need to sort, hope your ok speak soon. im starting my steps again in jan, so ill be able to take some people through it after that.

Feeelie crack on and do what you know needs doing, hows the anti d situation by the way?

jayne.doe

Your cool Lewt but I dont believe in being humble to something/one that causes so much misery in the world. If we are still talking about a higher being. I dont belive in a higher being. What does help is knowing i am not spending my hard earned earnings (and oh), on something that just most of the time makes me feel numb but still crap. On slowly killing myself. I just wish sometimes i could go back to being ignorant of the fact i have a drink problem. Sorry bad day today, i really just dont feel like smiling.