The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

maman

Don't worry Cazz, we'll be here tomorrow, bright new shiny day and all that! Remember all AF days count and you've clocked up so many this month, can't take those away but you can add to them.

PRICE_IS_RIGHT_2

40somethingmum wrote: »

Thanks for reminding me that my life is only going to get worse:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:


BTW. When do you start your new job ?

7 September :eek:

Have a lovely weekend ,;)

You too, matey!

40SM:D

Cazza: don't beat yourself up about the blip tonight. Your body has really appreciated the AFDs it has had, and the odd blip now and again is acceptable. So speaks the voice of experience



Night night all - just about finished the decorating now!!! DD2 very pleased with it - all red and gold, not my choice, but as long as she's happy :rotfl: Off to big Swedish furniture shop tomorrow to buy curtains and so on ...


night night all xxxx

yellowmonkey

Night PIR

Red and gold sounds very swish

Sleep well

ym

Different_Corner

Morning
Cazza, I think you are amazing, so you are not allowed to have a go at yourself today. Your post about your drinking buddy in Mancs hit a nerve with me, I have several friends that I easily slip into that mode with, and I hate to say it but I have been avoiding them for that very reason.

The bells were tinking yesterday evening, that Friday night feeling. Both children out with their friends, peaceful house..argued with myself. Came out on top. Why ? For the same reasons as I wanted a drink. Both boys were out, house was empty. Looked at the situation from two different angles. Patting self on back. Happy to report that's 9/14.

DEBTMONKEY1A

Don't beat yourself up Cazza......you've done more AF days than me (!)....& don't let the old excuse 'I f***ed it up last night so I can't beat this-what the hell I'll have a drink tonight' come in to your mind! In some ways 'blips' can make you stronger!

I've again not been AF.....the worrying thing is I had over 3/4 full bottle of 37.5% vodka last night & can vividly recall looking at the laster 1/4 bottle & not feeling p***ed at all....but out of principle not knocking it back cos a whole bottle is real bad! Can't see the point in drinking if I only get a mild 'buzz' with drink number one & I have to consume THAT MUCH just to maintain a tiny buzz! Also worrynigly I feel 100% FINE this am??! That IS bad!

I've no reason to drink....G/F is better than ever...we've got no money problems...etc...it's just HABIT-with no huge urge (just slight/moderate at 5pm!)...I really think by drinking regularly I'm trying to punish myself & feel I have lots of 'issues' about how I've led my life, feel a failure, no pension at 43...etc but I have been referred to a counsellor (don't know how long it will be) as have had issues about G/F'S illness, how I've coped, etc...

The silly thing is I CAN stop myself drinking for periods with relative ease....I just think in some ways I'm punishing myself??

I might start looking up some horrible things about liver disease, etc today! On skynews.com there is a moving story about a guy who's liver suddenly stopped...sobering (!) though hey!

Will deffo try & post tonight (ad breaks in x factor!) to keep my resolve...once day 1 is done it's easy for me!

Feel I've let myself down with not acheiving August target but onwards & upwards!

115K

Caz - you can always start again today so don't beat yourself up about it.

I have decided that I am not going to drink for the next 7 days at least as I'm feeling a bit run down and thought that cutting out alcohol must help.

So I will be AF today and that will make it 7 days AF Miss Piggy.

I hope everyone is having a nice weekend.:A

Wobbledoos

well hubby & i did a bottle of wine each last night... finished it by around 10 & then drank water, knowing there was a 3rd bottle...

feel pretty zoned out this morning & wondering, what is the point of drinking? yes it tastes nice, but so does lemon & lime squash with fizzy water & ice? didn't particularly get much of a "hit" iykwim so why?

hmm...

glasgowgirl

Morning all,

Caz - be kind to yourself today. Guess there's things to be learnt from why you drank last night. Hopefully Graeme, RA or another of the 'elders' of our group (in experience, not age I mean! ) will be around later and can offer some guidance/support.

Hope everyone's got nice things planned for the weekend. The return of X Factor - hurrah! :j

xx

Miss_Piggy_2

Cutting down/ Giving up August Challenge!

Days
115K 7/31(no target)
69Chick 7/14
Bluenose 4/20
Budget Babe 13/1
Debtmonkey1A 8/19
Different Corner 5/14
Fayjmck 10/31
Fedupandskint 12/30
Foreverhopeful 5/10
Gargrave50 0/10
Geranium72 9/20
Grey Pilgrim 10/30
Honeybear 1/6
Maman 9/10
Mari 0/16
Mollypolly 21/31
Mookyboy 2/16
Nessa56 2/13
Price is Right 8/11
Samandsheryl 10/22
Skintscottishgirl 2/24
Time2GrowUp 2/12 (left challenge but welcome back anytime!)
Wanna Bee Free 7/8
Winebox 5/10
Yellowmonkey 9/11

Units
BarshamHillbilly 89/125

Days Pledged : 408
Actual : 166

Units Pledged: 125
Actual : 106

eselt

Hi all- quiet on hear at the mo?

Caz- please don't beat yourself up about drinking yesterday, that was yesterday, and as any alcoholic will tell you, although many people have long term plans, make sweeping statements about never drinking again etc, its what you do today that counts, because drinking/not drinking is a daily decision, for some people its an hourly one. So you chose to drink yesterday? But for several days before that you hadn't-well done, and today you may not? I suppose the way I see it as I'm in this for the long haul now, and since dec 17th 2007 I've had one day where I drank (and was pretty devasted), before that I could perhaps go for 1 day without drinking, before that I drank all day, and every 45 minutes during the night-it took me about 20 years to get a big time drink problem, and at least 6 years of stop-starting attempts to stop. I suppose what I'm trying to say is you've made the decision and you are on the right road, heading in the right direction-you should be proud of yourself. I used to wail to my alcohol CPN-'I don't know why you bother with me, I always let you down', and he always replied, 'I'll never give up on you because I think you are worth saving, but only you can save yourself, and every time you relapse you are proving you learn from it and thats a good sign'. Keep going Cazz, you are doing brilliantly.

On the issue of friends who drink and you are dreading meeting, I really sympathise. I lost contact with a lot of friends because actually the only thing we really had in common was drinking, and if we did go out and I didn't drink I just recognised that they had only ever felt comfortable with me because I drank as much as them, and maybe they had there own demons too, and because I drank more than them that made them feel better about there drinking? In the end we kind of drifted apart because I couldn't expose myself to those environments, and they weren't prepared to temper there drinking when I was around (why should they!!!!). But I do agree with GC-real freinds will support you, not feel awkward with your decision-cause actually real friends would have noticed you were struggling and would be worried about you.

Hope everyone is OK tonight, thinking of you all.