The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 4

Whirley

we deal with addiction, scary, yes powerful and sometimes all consuming, humiliating, feel like i'm in a never ending battle..

maman

Whirley wrote: »

I'll post as regularly as i can it helps when others understand how hard it is...

Well done Whirley, that's what we're here for!!

So we're not pretending it's easy but we can help each other along our various journeys. Don't want to get too philosophical, but it's great to applaud successes when we have them (which is often:T) but we're still here when things aren't going too well.

Welcome to newbies and for those not doing so well. My advice is get that great feeling of an AF day marked up, enjoy it and then build on it. Building on it may be a few more to cut down or trying to give up permanently. Each to his own.

BHB, glad funeral went well and FIL had proper send off. Hope Lady Wideload coping OK.

T2GU please lurk (and post) regularly until you jump back on in September.

Budgie if you are lurking then take care and 'speak' soon.

Sea, it's great that you're back posting and doing so well. Any words of wisdom to share with us? I don't expect it's been easy but well done you :T

Enjoy London tomorrow Miss P and the day out with your mum. Hopefully you're back on the straight and narrow with your ice cream!

:hello:to everyone else. I'm not trying to do a Budgie (:A) but I don't want anyone to feel left out!

I'm not AF tonight but I'm going to try and stick with my (lamentable) cutter-down target for the month and do some serious catching up next week.

'night all :A

barneydee_2

Hi all,
well I am again posting with drink to hand but this time it is only tea:D feeling like sh**t this morning due to the drink last night:mad:
Today I am planning an afd my first in at least a year:o have work today i am leaving my debit card at home and only taking enough money to get me to and from work plus enough for tea and coffee, will take my own lunch in.
I just can not deal with things at the moment,one phone call or one letter just seems to see me running for the bottle at the moment and i am bury my head in the sand.
I was getting on top of things and paying people i owe money to then a couple of expenses that were not planed for (the person who done my car for mot charging me £341.00 when was only quoted £180.00 and my dd2 running up her mobile phone bill to £307.00) thus because of these i have not been able to tax my car things have started being bounced again you know the story, but i am sure if i was not drinking i would cope better, you peps who have managed to stay on the wagon do you find that you cope with your problems better when you a sobber?
Sorry to go on

Dee

Bismarck

barneydee wrote: »

you peps who have managed to stay on the wagon do you find that you cope with your problems better when you a sobber?

without a doubt...no question of it...when I was in the do-doo ages ago I was looking for someone to come and fix stuff - the main thing I needed was me at full power, but crippled by drink - working at possibly 50% speed or emotion because I was dulled by the stuff, was no good for dealing with stuff in any way.

I firmly believe we are our own saviours in this.

The only way out of it was to be true to myself.

take care

Bismarck

Another thought,

We have the power to ruin many people's lives - not just our own.

It is up to us to decide not to.

eyeopener2

barneydee wrote: »

you know the story, but i am sure if i was not drinking i would cope better, you peps who have managed to stay on the wagon do you find that you cope with your problems better when you a sobber?
Sorry to go on

Dee

I've only been free of drink for a month, so maybe i'm not the best to advise, but everything seems clearer to me.

I have gone from a can't be bothered/worry about debts tomorrow/win the lottery and lets get drunk to......... taking the debts in hand, having a plan and actually achieving.

Ok, my success is limited at the moment as my debt is far in excess of my signature but at least I am making progress. My debt hasn't increased (which is a start) and is actually coming down (marginally). It is ALL down to stopping drinking.

Its not just the not spending on beer and wine either, its being clear headed and taking control of my life again.

Hope these ramblings help a little

E

samandsheryl

Good morning everyone.

Miss P - Thanks for adding me. I managed another AFD yesterday so thats 2 for me so far.

Whirley - Don't worry about it, just try and start again today. Try using your disappointment as motivation to be AF today. You can definately do this.

Bismarck - Your last comment is so true. It's exactly what i'm going to try to remind myself every time i so much as think about picking up a beer.

Have a good day everyone and thanks for making me feel so welcome.

Sam

jo1972

Morning all,

Hi to the new posters :wave:

Very very p!ssed off with myself this morning, same old same old here.

I had a fantastic day yesterday, went to town with the kids and took my mum, she bought me/us a new landline phone as my old one was so muffled that you had to shout into it. Then she treated me and the kids to lunch and we had a look round the shops. OH got the bonus he was hoping for at work and so we have booked a week away next week.

Everyone was upbeat and happy, so why did I go spoil it

I wrestled in my head all day and promised that if things worked out with OH's bonus then I wouldn't drink. I hate myself

Sorry for yet another downer post, I'm off to B&Q to buy paint and am decorating the kitchen today which will hopefully cheer me up

xx

ForeverHopeful_3

barneydee wrote: »

Hi all,
well I am again posting with drink to hand but this time it is only tea:D feeling like sh**t this morning due to the drink last night:mad:
Today I am planning an afd my first in at least a year:o have work today i am leaving my debit card at home and only taking enough money to get me to and from work plus enough for tea and coffee, will take my own lunch in.
I just can not deal with things at the moment,one phone call or one letter just seems to see me running for the bottle at the moment and i am bury my head in the sand.
I was getting on top of things and paying people i owe money to then a couple of expenses that were not planed for (the person who done my car for mot charging me £341.00 when was only quoted £180.00 and my dd2 running up her mobile phone bill to £307.00) thus because of these i have not been able to tax my car things have started being bounced again you know the story, but i am sure if i was not drinking i would cope better, you peps who have managed to stay on the wagon do you find that you cope with your problems better when you a sobber?
Sorry to go on

Dee

Dee (((hugs))) When I was drinking stupid amounts, I was either too tired or too hungover to do anything else but just get through the day.

I'm not doing fantastically well with AF days. But I have cut down my consumtion to maybe only 1 or a half glass of wine at the very end of an evening. I've managed to raise quite a bit of money on Ebay to pay off my credit cards :jWhen something is sold, I don't hang about. I wrap it and send it as soon as I can. I know that if I was drinking to the levels that I was before I wouldn't have the time or the motivation to do anything about my debts.

I also don't have the same clutter around the house that used to stress me out. I spend time of an evening filing everything away. Reading mail as soon as it comes in the door. Basically my life just seems more manageable because I put time and effort into making it that way.

I have found the time to enrol my son in a few extra curicular activities when not in pre-school and have it all down on my planner. Some of these things are so straight forward. But when you are stumbling around day to day just getting by, it's stuff like this that falls by the wayside. Also finding the time for Mr FH Instead of worrying about how much wine there is in the house and thinking of a way to drink it without him knowing, I actually sit beside him on the sofa and talk!!!!! :rotfl:

Much love X

ForeverHopeful_3

Good morning to you all :wave:

Oh Jo :rolleyes: But it's only another day right? So you can get back on the wagon now :j Where are you going on holiday?

Says me, who hasn't had another AF day. But I only had a small glass of wine last night after doing all my chores. I sat down to watch the Sarah Beeny programme and just thought "oh what the heck" But one glass compared to a bottle makes me feel better about myself. Plus I feel great today after a good nights sleep.

I have my next Ebay sold item in the boot of my car to post today. I took some pictures of items I plan to put on tonight. I'm really getting good at this! I've nearly paid for our Centerparcs holiday already. Of course I should be paying my credit card bill but oh well! Actually I am paying my credit card bill, but just on something that I probably shouldn't have put on it in the first place :rotfl:But I'm so excited about taking the boys to the Wonderland experience and I need something to look forward to.