The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

bigzippy

TeamLowe wrote: »

Lots of love BigZ, don't know what to say apart from i think it's completely understandable that this is hitting you so hard.
but you'll always have us
i know this is my solution to every problem, but could you and DH get away for a weekend? change of scenery does me the world of good x x

Thanks
I've been wondering the same thing. We could but it feels like a lot of faff (sorting dogs out before going etc) to just feel lonely and sad somewhere else.:o I think we'd rather go see relatives but they're either away themselves or have their own stuff going on right now.:cool:

sarahs999 wrote: »

Hello all. Just a very quick announcement to say I am now officially a graduate of this thread - baby Inigo Henry was born on 21 feb weighing 6lb 4oz. We had a rough start as he was readmitted to hospital with jaundice and dehydration, but we are home now and starting to get to know one another. Can't believe he's finally here - a real miracle.

Brilliant news! congratulations sarah! Very glad you came back to tell us

becca0417 wrote: »

Huge hugs to bz xxxx

Cd1 here now, full flow so clomid tomorrow is there a best time to take it?

Thanks

We've tried every time of day, between us on here I think, and it doesn't seem to make much difference. Just remember to take it at the same ish time every day, so whatever works for you.

Why would you stop then, lily?


Thanks ladies. Feeling a little better today after a relatively good night's sleep. Hope dh comes back from work feeling ok. This grieving process is so hard on both of us, both for our own feelings and grief, and to watch each other go through. It feels like it'll never end, sometimes. Just as you feel like things are improving, on an even keel, something new knocks you back.:cool: Dh said to me last night that he wished he could remember how he "got over" losing his dad. I think he feels like there's some magical thing he's forgotten to do this time, that would make it easier. I also think he's forgetting he never did "get over" it, it's just that the pain has dulled with time.

lilymay1

Becca - probably next week sometime. I phoned my consultants secretary for it last time. Either way it'll hopefully be before I see my FS on Friday.

Zippy - I am totally and utterly miserable and as that will be the end of our NHS help we need some time to regroup before we look into private. I am so obsessed with this its unhealthy. I need to take a step back.

Runnerduck

congratulations sarah, i love the name too xx

BZ a short trip away may help as a change of scenery can sometimes lift your spirits, i think we will have a weekend away next month if we can xx

lily, your not the only one who cry's at the tv, i was in floods of tears watching a penguin documentary the other day! i'm not doing too bad thanks, but i haven't been answering the phone or i haven't yet been to visit my inlaws etc as certain things set me off, i'm much better left alone in the garden, or baking, at least the garden is looking good!

jujugaboo

Congrats Sarah on your wonderful news.

Miracle do happen sometimes.

x

EverTheOptimist

Just wanted to pop in to say congratulations to Sarah.

Have been lurking and reading about everyone's struggles. Think hugs are needed all round. :grouphug: :grouphug:

BZ - sorry you're struggling with everything at the mo. Can't imagine having to deal with everything you're going through.

I also wanted to ask if anyone is going to be having any private IVF treatment before September this year? I have some meds left and it seems such a waste to dispose of it, it is clearly unopened. I thought there was a system where you could donate for people that might be struggling with costs, but nothing in my area. PM me if anyone thinks they may have a use for it.

Hope I'm not being insensitive by asking but I just want to be able to help in any way if I can.

Runnerduck

ETO, i don't know what we are doing yet, i want to get tested for the natural killer cells, and we will decide then, but at the moment my body is knackered and needs time to recover

becca0417

Thanks for the advice BZ

Lily, hope they are positive results for you

Just another stupid question - are there any supplements I can't take with clomid? I currently take EPO until ov and pregnacare conception. I guess the pregnacare is ok, no idea about EPO?

mrshappy

Hugs for tough times BZ, and everyone else struggling a bit just now x

Congratulations Sarah, lovely news x

Just as I'm beginning to feel a bit better mrh has hit a low spot-watching telly last night and a trailer came on for Child of Our Time with a dad talking about how becoming a dad had made his life worthwhile and was the best thing he had ever done etc etc I was telling my mum about it earlier tonight then got a phone call from her offering to pay for another try. To say my head is scrambled would be an understatement.

bigzippy

mrshappy wrote: »

Hugs for tough times BZ, and everyone else struggling a bit just now x

Congratulations Sarah, lovely news x

Just as I'm beginning to feel a bit better mrh has hit a low spot-watching telly last night and a trailer came on for Child of Our Time with a dad talking about how becoming a dad had made his life worthwhile and was the best thing he had ever done etc etc I was telling my mum about it earlier tonight then got a phone call from her offering to pay for another try. To say my head is scrambled would be an understatement.

:shocked: Is it something you feel you could do again? Or could cope with borrowing money for?

Lovely offer, either way, though :A

I hate shows/interviews/anything like that. They makes me break my heart for Dh, cos I know he'd just be so attentive and involved and loving with his child(ren), I can already see it, in my mind's eye...

Hugs for you, my dear.:cool:


So, (at the appt that we found out gp was leaving) GP agreed that my logic -regarding my tubes being in spasm (and therefore not letting things through adequately) due to me being in constant pain to at least some degree - had merit.

He has given me a prescription for full dose of smooth muscle relaxant to take for a few days over and either side of ov. If it's irrelevant to my tubes situation, or just plain doesn't work, then it's no harm no foul, as I've taken this particular drug before for both IBS and endo cramps.

I've been taking it (prior to seeing doc) just before Bd this cycle, in the hope it might work, but the dose he's given me far surpasses that, so hopefully that'll give me a better chance next cycle... :cool: If nothing else it'll help me feel like I'm trying something else/new! :o


Eta: becca, no idea re EPO, but fwiw I personally wouldn't combine them, so there's a truer clomid reaction, iyswim?

Whattodonow

Good luck with that BZ.

Baby showers... I swear I'm making excuses the next time I'm invited. Argh!