The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

liloandstitch

I believe that post HSG is a good time to conceive - maybe cos your tubes have been flushed, so make sure that you make full use of the opportunity!!

Lilo

ginvzt

nichart20 wrote: »

ginvzt - are you on 50mg at the moment?

Yes, I am on 50mg Clomid now. I have to say that it was not too bad for the firts two months. Yes, I felt a bit nauseous (but sometimes do anyway...), no bad headaches (apart from this morning, but I think it is also because I overheated the house and haven't had any windows open for the last few days), no weight gain (I even managed to loose about 1-1.5 kg last month). So, all in all, it is ok so far. But I am sure since I said it was fine so far I will feel horrible for the last two cycles!

Lilo - I have heard that too. And also it is good post lap&dye for the same reason. I hope it works for you Sarah!!!! (Didn't work for me, otherwise I wouldn't be here!!!)

becs

My friend conceived her little girl the night of her HSG after 2 years of trying, so it definately worked for her.
MadMac I think I've hit the longterm blues now. If I start to think about how long we've been trying I just go to pieces. I'm sick of well meaning people with the standard "It will happen one day" & "just relax, that's what I did and it worked for me" comments. Unless you've actually been one of those who struggle they don't have a clue. Right now I would give anything for a sign that we can conceive.

ginvzt

becs, I know what you mean!!!! I stopped thinking how long we have been on the path, and just ignoring all. If anyone starts telling me what to do, I just block them of. I know what you mean by any sign that we can conceive. I hate that doctors can't find anything wrong with either of us and yet still we have no proof otherwise. I think everytime I went to see my consultant I was hoping there is something he will find that is wrong with me, we can fix it an we will have a baby. Nothing so far. Probably that is why I broke down last time I saw him (managed to hold together in front of him, but was rather abrupt, but tears came flooding once in the car).

I know this might come back biting me, but - we have bought a group 1 car seat for the visits of little ones (we have plenty of friends with children over 1 year old now!!! and there were only 2 babies when we got married and started ttc) and I hope that we will be able to use it for ours one day soon. And - we decided that instead of getting travel cot for all the visits, we are getting a proper cot (cotbed with dropside, I hope) and we will just keep it till we need it. We will need it one day! If we can't have our own child, I am all for adoption - we have a home and we can give all the love to the less fortunate child.

becs

I'd do anything for any sign at the mo, even a positive test and af showing a few days later would be encouragement now. Almost like progress!
I'm with you on adoption too. I'm off work yesterday and today poorly and was watching this morning yesterday. The little brother and sister they featured for adoption were just the most beautiful happy children and it made me sad to think that their own family couldn't love and cherish them. How is it right that so many people have children so easily for all the wrong reasons and then it's the little ones that end up suffering for it.

Leopardlady

Good morning ladies
Well i have bought all my cupcakes in today as i felt a bit mean only having a few available yesterday! So who would like a cupcake and a cup of tea?

I still have no sign of AF and i am wearing white pants in an effort to taunt it! My cycle has changed a few times since my MC but usually shorter not longer and today is the longest i have had since, so i am hopeful, but also aware of how cruel our bodies can be, so just carrying on as normal as possible!

I am sorry it is all seeming so hard for you ginvzt and becs, i think we all feel this way sometimes and i find it very reassuring that we are all in this together and are not likely to say "just relax it will happen", so pull up that chair and grab a cuppa and enjoy one of my chocolate cupcakes - doubel chocolate or single chocolate?

ginvzt

Ok, I have a pot of tea ready (jasmine green) if anyone wants. I will skip on chocolate cupcakes, although they smell and look gorgeous! (Something in me doens't agree with chocolate vey much, so I am trying to avoid it...)

Oh becs - and I too would be over the moon to see a bfp, even if af shows up an hour later - at least it would tell me that I can actually get one!

becs

Oh Leopardlady,
A double choc one sounds nice,although just as well it's virtual as can't keep anything down at the mo! You're right in that we've all been through the rollercoaster of emotions and it's great being able to talk to each other without the standard off the cuff remarks coming back.
How long are you going to leave it before testing LL?

Leopardlady

Right well i can see i am going to eat too many of these cupcakes!
I don't know how long i will hold out, but hoping to make it to the weekend! Lets see what happens.

becs

Fingers crossed LL!