The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Whattodonow

Mrsh, is your mom ok?

tea_lover

Whattodonow wrote: »

And I wish, if I'm never going to get pregnant, I could just be told right now, so I don't have to go through this for however many more years to come.

Totally. I really like to think that eventually I could get my head round it, if it was never going to happen... just wish I didn't have to have all these years of not knowing first.

Sometimes I think the hope/PMA doesn't do us any favours. But then I can't imagine being convinced it won't work will help either. So basically whatever I think my mind is going to conspire against me .

Big hugs BZ, big big hugs xx. :grouphug:

mrshappy

Sending huge squishy hugs BZ, hope you're okay x

thanks whattodo-mum is having a tough time with chemo and all its nasty side effects at the moment, she has been in and out of hospital for the last 8 months or so, so we just take each day at a time

Whattodonow

Ach, hope she's out again soon mrs h. Does she have a lot of treatment left to go? X

VK-2008

well guys and gals going to do the dreaded test tomorrow afternoon (nightshift) hence the late timing
fingers toes and everything all crossed

Nicki

VK-2008 wrote: »

well guys and gals going to do the dreaded test tomorrow afternoon (nightshift) hence the late timing
fingers toes and everything all crossed

Good luck. As I have given up the TTC struggle now, I can keep absolutely everything crossed for you. Hope you will be back here in less than 24 hours with good news. Am impressed you haven't caved and POAS'd already

TTC40

At the risk of sounding like I'm at school - am I the oldest (TTCer) on here?

Just had a quick look at the ages on the other thread & I think I might be. I'm 41 - in my mind I'm 31, just a shame my body is not in the same place?

Not that it matters - women older than me have got pg.

After starting my Clomid a day late, FS said just carry on & finish a day late. Maybe it will make the difference.

VK - hope we see the back of you tomorrow!

Mrsh - hope you are managing some relaxation

time2deal

Whattodonow wrote: »

I can't believe I'm still trying nearly two years later (and I know that's only a short period compared to others). Sometimes I just think, I did not imagine this would ever happen. What is going on? And I wish, if I'm never going to get pregnant, I could just be told right now, so I don't have to go through this for however many more years to come.

You know, this is about the only good thing I found about getting cancer. Any chance from here on is going to be very medically assisted, and probably many people will know about it. I found the secrecy, and always having to be strong and cool about everything emotionally draining.

So I don't have to worry and stress, and keep it secret now. And I won't spend 10 years trying and trying and trying...

I tried to explain how this was a good thing to a few people, and I really think they thought I was bonkers. But I think you only know after trying for a few years how much of a release it can be to be forced to let the idea go. It was really hard to accept, and I was a stressed heartbroken mess for a while, but I am much more accepting of it now.

VK-2008

well i decided no point testing way too early at least if i do it tomorrow that will be two weeks give or take a day or two since nurse said i would ov
so i have those 6 day early ones so i hope for an accurate result
if its negative then it just means back to iui to try and do a full cycle of it

lilymay1

Good luck testing tomorrow VK. Hoping you bring us good news.