The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Nicki

Fantastic Primmer. You obviously have some fighter embies there who laugh in the face of pessimism, so hopefully that bodes very well!

TeamLowe

fingers crossed for you Primmer! the 'normal' 2ww is awful, must be so much worse with treatment as you have so much invested in it x x

jujugaboo

Everything crossed Primmer - the 2ww wait is the worst part but take it easy and put your feet up and stay away from Google!!!

Runner - good luck for Nov.

BZ - hope you find some light in your lives soon, chin up.

Thanks Sarah and Lisa for steroids w/d info, something to look forward to!

bigzippy

jujugaboo wrote: »

BZ - hope you find some light in your lives soon, chin up.

I must sound like a right miserable cowbag! I'm not though, honest :o

Thanks though. I am doing ok, generally speaking, but we do/have had a lot going on, and processing that always brings out the tears I guess

Good luck Primmer

P.s. I like that it's been busier on here lately

EverTheOptimist

Yay Primmer, that's great news. Fingers crossed they keep doing their thing.

Do not Google anything. It really doesnt help. Not that i am speaking from experience. :rotfl:

BZ Sending you love and congratulations for your wedding anniversary.

Runnerduck

great news primmer, feet up and relax now xx

chickpea

Big Z - happy anniversary. Never thought for a minute you were a misery guts! - you have a lot on your plate. Infertility is akin to bereavement, so when you combine it with an actual bereavement - it's a lot of sadness. But there is light at the end of the tunnel.

In a funny way, the tubes aren't the most important thing; the eggs are (but I get it's gutting that IVF might be the only way.) IVF is more likely to work if you have nice eggs. My tubes are perfect, as is my womb, as are my hormones, as is DH's SA - but none of that gets me anywhere when my eggs are pickled!

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Glad your embabies are tucked in now Primmer. Only thing you can do now is keep everything crossed (except your legs, you don't want to cut off the blood flow to your uterus.) Just a joke!

And pray to God/Mother Nature..

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I'll be MIA this weekend - got the pleasure of a weekend with my pg SIL to ensure. She's a lovely girl really, but the elephant in the room is her huge bump. I shall have to resort to drink - again!

Sometimes I wonder if my party lifestyle in my twenties is to blame for the way infertility has blighted my thirties, but I can't undo any of it. I don't drink much any more really, but sometimes it's my only recourse. Weekend with PG SIL is a good excuse anyway. Something quite old testament about the 2 of us, the 2 DILs, one of whom is ueberfertile and one of whom is consumed by the green-eyed monster. I'll be fine once this one is born. Babies I can live with better than bumps!

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Onestep - good luck testing if AF still AWOL..

mrshappy

Fingers crossed Primmer.
I have been reading along, but not really had anything interesting to say-have had a couple of feeling flat weeks there, but seem to be getting back to normal now. Reading everyones posts has made me feel really emotional recently-seeing all the ttc journeys along with life stuff going on as well just shows how incredibly strong all you ladies are, this is certainly not the route I expected my life to take. Don't really know what my point is there, but all you ladies who are having/have had a hard ttc journey have my utmost respect xx

onestep

chickpea wrote: »

Onestep - good luck testing if AF still AWOL..

Thank you.. Still AWOL. Tomorrow will be cd29, & my usual cycle is 26 days. BUT I think I ovulated 2-3 days late ... So that would mean she'll arrive tomorrow or Sunday. No point testing til then altho I probably will test tomorrow. especially as my local Asd@ has cheapie tests on at 2 for a £1. To balance my purchase out I also bought some sanitary items so I'm covered either way

Good luck for the weekend chickpea, resorting to the drink is my coping strategy of choice too.

And GOOD LUCK Primmer

bigzippy

chickpea wrote: »

Big Z - happy anniversary. Never thought for a minute you were a misery guts! - you have a lot on your plate. Infertility is akin to bereavement, so when you combine it with an actual bereavement - it's a lot of sadness. But there is light at the end of the tunnel.

In a funny way, the tubes aren't the most important thing; the eggs are (but I get it's gutting that IVF might be the only way.) IVF is more likely to work if you have nice eggs. My tubes are perfect, as is my womb, as are my hormones, as is DH's SA - but none of that gets me anywhere when my eggs are pickled!

Thanks. There is a lot of sad, and a lot of denial/anger/bargaining/etc etc. We'll get there in the end, some way, some how... DH plucked up the guts to ring the counsellor today, he didn't manage to make an appointment - but it's closer than he's got so far...

I was thinking about the eggs/tubes/s'perm problem and thinking that as annoying as it is that there's nothing else wrong except the huge roadblock in my stupid tubes! :mad: But. On the bight side (assuming the hysteroscopy is fine, and I've no reason to think otherwise) is that there's nothing else wrong. So if we can get egg to meet s'perm, and get jiggy in a hot tub somewhere , then we should be good to go.... hopefully

Babies I can live with better than bumps!

I'm the same. I was thinking about this the other day actually. I think one of the reasons, for me, is that I know that I could get a child - whether I bear it or not. I know I could foster small babies. I don't know that I'm ever going to to actually have that bump that I so crave... :cool:

The other thing is, once they get a little older than newborn, their personalities and features start showing through, and it becomes more obvious that they are definitely the product of their parents - I want *my* baby (whether we adopt or give birth, it'll be *my* baby, iyswim), I don't want theirs.

EverTheOptimist wrote: »

BZ Sending you love and congratulations for your wedding anniversary.

Ahh Thanks How you feeling?

mrshappy wrote: »

Fingers crossed Primmer.
I have been reading along, but not really had anything interesting to say-have had a couple of feeling flat weeks there, but seem to be getting back to normal now. Reading everyones posts has made me feel really emotional recently-seeing all the ttc journeys along with life stuff going on as well just shows how incredibly strong all you ladies are, this is certainly not the route I expected my life to take. Don't really know what my point is there, but all you ladies who are having/have had a hard ttc journey have my utmost respect xx

:wave: Bless your cotton socks.
How are you guys doing? How's the saving? How's the teen?

Good luck Onestep