The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

bigzippy

When will you meet with the FS next Tealover? I'm wondering if you'll be able to discuss your concerns with them...? How did your DH react to the news?

Good luck to those doing down regging/stims. I have to admit to not really understanding it all though



I've got my HSG booked for tomorrow and I'm quietly freaking out about it a bit.

They say smears and TV scans don't hurt, but they do hurt me (hypersensitive nerve endings, as part of one of my conditions), so I'm scared it'll hurt.
I'm scared they won't do it cos I'm still bleeding (despite being on the progesterone ).
Scared that I'll have to fight for them to do it (the doc I spoke to last week when I was scared about the bleeding said it should be ok so long as it's not heavy...
I'm scared having it done will bring away more lining, potentially during the test itself.
I'm scared my tubes'll be blocked.
I'm scared it means I can (and should) finish the progesterone, and AF'll be a monster, and I'll lose any gains on the iron levels that I've had and that I'll have to wait forever for a new cycle to begin to be able to start the clomid (that I'll hopefully get prescribed in 3weeks).


I know this probably sounds trivial/ridiculous, but it's on my mind, and this is, I guess, the place to talk about it

sarahs999

Hugs BZ. Can you take some painkillers before you go?

I am terrible at things like that too - result of a lot of very bad gynae experiences - and I had to have mine under sedation after failing to be able to go through with it the first time! I've learnt to be extremely firm about what I want and how I want it when it comes to things fertility related now. NO one knows your history and your body as well as you so make sure they listen. I'm sure it will be fine in the end. By the end of tomorrow it will all be over.

tea_lover

BZ - it doesn't sound trivial or ridiculous at all. If it's bothering you (and it is), then it's a genuine concern.

Obv. I have no way of knowing the answers to the things you're worrying about. All I can say is that from my experience of a similar procedure (hycosy, rather than HSG) - honestly, yes it hurt. But it hurt for a really, really short time. It was a quick sharp pain for literally 2 seconds and then it was fine. I was advised to take some painkillers beforehand, I don't know if that's the case for the HSG too but I can't see that it would hurt (although I'm no dr so don't take my word for that one!) I think the standard line is that they won't do it if you're bleeding but I know a few people have had it done at the end of AF.

As for the results, it really is just a case of waiting to see. Easier said than done I know but try not to think the worst. And even if your tubes aren't clear they can do things to sort that, it still wouldn't be the end of the world, far from it.

I can't imagine how disheartening, not to mention physically lowering, it must be to have been bleeding for so long. Will have my fingers v tightly crossed that the HSG gives you a good result, and that it doesn't cause any more bleeding (have no idea if it even can tbh).

I have heard - admittedly anecdotaly but better than nothing lol - that you can be more fertile afterwards.

Hope you've got something nice planned for after it's done tomorrow, I think you deserve a treat. Take care x.

tea_lover

Meant to say - next FS appt is planned for Nov, but I need to change the date as I'm working away then so think it will be at least December, possibly after christmas now.

Part of me thinks well they wouldn't have bothered prescribing met & clomid and going to the trouble of monitoring the cycles if they thought there was no chance as that would just be a waste of their time (and NHS money). But the results just look so bad.

QQuaver

BZ, I took strong painkillers before HSG as I was told to do that. And it didn't hurt at all for me. Smears hurts more (when they scratch).
Can't remember if I bled after the HSG, but I know some dye leaked on my pad.

Bring your pad with you, otherwise they may issue you with a fat one:D

chickpea

BZ - I had an HSG - didn't hurt in the least, and was over quite quickly. No leaking afterwards.

And I'm someone who has been known to scream out loud during a smear test (I'm not normally a screamer, don't get me wrong..)

Good luck - endless bleeding must do your head in.

EverTheOptimist

Ahhh really sorry you are feeling that way BZ, and it is definitely not trivial or ridiculous. I guess i can't really add to what has been said as i haven't been in your situation exactly. Just sending you love and positive thoughts for your appt.

Sorry to hear about the SA results tea lover

I start my stims this evening, trying to feel positive. one of the things i find really frustrating with IVF is that i just feel out of control, as i dont know when the EC and ET will be. so can't make social plans, cant pre warn work, and every day i try and work out if it'll be this day or that day etc, especially as i want hubby to give a fresh sample, and he is away alot at mo. i just keep thinking it was a fresh one that worked last Dec, so hoping we have the same success. Trying not to think too much about the BFP though as 'it' would be due around now.

Was feeling quite tearful last night as hubby's cousin announced their pregnancy at a large family meal yesterday. i was absolutely gutted, which i know is horrible, but just keep thinking when/ if will it be my turn. i seem to cope better with children than pregnant ladies, so am quite pleased that i prob wont see them til it is born, which is also a horrible thought to have.

bigzippy

Quick question: do you know of they make any attempt to like cover you up with a sheet or something during the HSG?

(I'll reply properly tomorrow, on my phone right now, but thanks guys )

QQuaver

bigzippy wrote: »

Quick question: do you know of they make any attempt to like cover you up with a sheet or something during the HSG?

(I'll reply properly tomorrow, on my phone right now, but thanks guys )

They put a sheet on your lower half of your body, don't worry:)

tea_lover

They'll cover you up. Usually with a v stylish bit of blue paper but better than nothing!