The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

BZ - sorry it wasn't better news but at least you know what you're up against now. Glad it wasn't too painful for you. Fingers crossed the waiting list won't be too long. I've had loads of laps and they're really not that bad at all. Although it probably helps that I'm some sort of freak that really enjoys the anaesthetic lol.

QQuaver

BZ, (((hugs))). 4th Sept is very close, hope they'll let you know of the options and get on with it so you will be pg soon:)

Evertheoptimist, how is your stims going?

tea lover, I like anaesthetics too:p

mrshappy

BZ-sorry to see that it was bad news for you,:( I hope you get to consider your other options when you go back in Sept and everything works out for you x

EverTheOptimist

BZ - really sorry to hear your news, it must have been so hard to hear. But like has been said and i know it doesnt make it any easier but its good to know whats going on and to be able to try and fix it.

QQ - thanks for asking. nothing really to report, seems to be going ok, have got a scan next mon and weds so hoping my little follicles will have started developing and be in their way to a good size. I'm really hoping EC will be next fri.

Runnerduck

BZ just reading back, so sorry to see you will be held up even more, but hopefully it might fix things xx

hope everyone else is doing well, i've just been lurking a bit lately as nothing to report here, just waiting for more bloodtests to confirm my lupus anticoagulant, then will have to discuss if is possible to carry on

Winky,_The_House_Elf

(((Hugs))) BZ sorry it wasn't what you expected to hear, its horrible when your thrown like that.

There a few of us on the IVF bus at the moment, I started down regging yesterday, but I need to inject fragmin as well- and it bloody stings!

We have 3 "Frosties" but they were frozen immediately, so no idea of what they are going to be like, as they never got the chance to develope. In theory if they are all good, they would put 2 back, and then see if the 3rd gets to blasto stage which is when they consider re-freezing it.

Scared at the idea of twins, but all things considered, looking at how many eggs I've had put back before its never going to happen.

Keep thinking that I should have been due next month, insted of starting on IVF again...But I am trying to be positive, honestly!

sexki11en

Hi Ladies,

I'm still lurking. Sorry to see so many newbies - hope you're not here long.

Little update from me. We decided to go on holiday for our due date so spent a week in Egypt in the sun. It didn't make it any easier and spent most of the day crying but at least it was in the sun and not at home in the rain!

Hubby was diagnosed with varicoceles and after fighting our GP to see a surgeon (she told us he'd think we were wasting his time) he was great and agreed immediately to do the op. Research from the states shows this increases sperm quality quite dramatically but studies in the UK don't believe this has any effect on increased birth rates (mainly because the studies were flawed by using "healthy" control groups and not infertile men !) Luckily, the surgeon we saw was well versed in the states studies and a big believer it may help. Unfortunately some dumb@ss booked us a date when the surgeon was on holiday so we've waited since March to get a fate and he's going in on 30th August.

AFM - I bought a Duofertility monitor (at £500:eek: - they know how much desperate women will pay eh?!) No joy after 5 months (surprise!) but got my fertility report which is showing a drop in temp after OV, indicating a drop in progesterone. Given the only time I ever got PG was when I was on progesterone (after IVF) I feel it's worth looking into.

Last time we saw our GP (for hubby's varicoceles) she basically told us the NHS had washed their hands of us as far as fertility investigations go. Am I really going to have to pay privately to see if progesterone in the 2nd half of my cycle will help? Any advice?

Going into our 4th year of trying at the end of this month - not sure I have any more fight left in me.

SK x

onestep

SK.. You have plenty of fight left in you - you've spent £500 on that monitor, so a few more quid on progesterone is not going to stop you. Combine that with hubby's op & I reckon you stand a better chance than a couple of months ago . Sorry to hear your due date was so hard though.

AFM.. Cd 24, & I'm spotting so AF is in her way. Not that it's surprising really, chicken pox has been awful and today was my first day out of bed since Friday. Still soo spotty but no longer contagious.

bigzippy

Sorry ladies, I do keep meaning to come back and reply to people, but it just doesn't seem to happen and I seem to just feel like sticking my head in the sand right now

DH is absolutely devastated and was completely blindsided by the result of the HSG. I just feel like the last 2/3 years have been an absolutely futile waste of time I'm angry that I had to come off all my medication to ttc for a child we've had no chance of conceiving, but I've suffered through it physically for no reason, as well as the stupid mental/emotional cycle of hope and defeat you go thigh with every cycle.

Angry. I'm quietly angry. I feel like there should be someone to shout at, to blame for not giving us this news 2yrs ago.

*sigh* I guess I'm not as ok as I thought about this, eh?

It all just feels...insurmountable.

mrshappy

BZ-massive hugs.I'm not surprised you're angry and want someone to shout at. I have no words of wisdom to share, but I wanted you to know that I'm thinking of you xx