The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

sarahs999

Sorry to hear about your eyes An9i77. I don't think that adoption agencies should turn you down because of your eyesight but they would probably want to assess you to see how you cope with the possibility of not being able to see. I know it can be quite invasive and draining att he best of times - my sisters in law (gay) went through it and finally decided it was not for them at the 11th hour. BUt I know David CAmeron is suppsoed to be making the whole thing easier to do as at the moment there is a ridiculous amount of red tape, meanwhile thousands of children are living in care and not getting the homes they need. Criminal really.

bigzippy

Good luck with whatever you decide to do ani

Chick pea, I can relate to faking cheer. :cool: We've got a very complicated situation with my mil atm, where she's very close to dying, basically - one of my sisters rang yesterday, asked me about it, I broke down while telling her. Then she rang back a few hours later, asked how I was, and then laughed at me as I said "I'm fine! " she doesn't know about us ttc either, or there'd probably have been more tears and "it's not fair" tantrums

AFM, today I have watery red discharge. Wouldn't call it cm, wouldn't call it af. Sounds like after 6+wks of this cycle, with no discernible ov, my body's telling me it's another anovulatory cycle and is bored with it. I have the cramps that go along with it too, so we'll see what the rest of the week brings... I'm so hacked off that I've lost all this weight and I've still got such wildly irregular (& anovulatory) cycles Stupid PCOS!

I guess I'm not surprised though... We've got a very stressful life atm, with mil etc - although unfortunately that only adds pressure to ttc, in my mind, because we want her to at least see us pg before she "goes" :cool::o

Primmer

An9i - sorry to hear the news about your eyes and I wish you all the best with a possible adoption.

Chickpea - faked cheeriness seems to go hand in hand with long term ttc as there comes a point when you just have to put a front on.

BZ - it is understandable that all the stress you are going through will affect your cycles but it must be so frustrating when you have lost all that weight for your cycles to still be crazy. Will fs look at giving you clomid at your next appointment?

AFM - since seeing fs on Monday I have been looking up info on ivf and been in the website of the clinic we will be referred to and read their step by step guide to the process and also that particular clinics success rates which has made me feel more at ease about things. Just a case now of waiting until I can have the test on my tubes and fs said after result of tests she will discuss referral for ivf which we will have to pay for.

fluffnutter

an9i77 wrote: »

Hello. I posted here a few weeks ago about maybe not being able to conceive again due to a pre existing condition with my eyes, which could be affected and some of you lovely ladies replied.
Well, sadly my eye condition has got a lot worse, and I am thinking at the moment that it's unlikely we'll be able to go through another pregnancy as I don't know if I can take the risk.
I'm now seriously thinking about adoption, can anyone point me to how to find out more about this? Is it difficult? I'm also wondering if my health condition would count against me, although my partner has no health problems.

Sorry I have not been a regular contributor to this thread but I found it hard to read about people trying, when that's not an option for us right now.

Thanks

What a heartbreaking decision to have to face. Have you also considered surrogacy? It might be an alternative to adoption. I wish you all the best with whatever you decide.

an9i77

fluffnutter wrote: »

What a heartbreaking decision to have to face. Have you also considered surrogacy? It might be an alternative to adoption. I wish you all the best with whatever you decide.

Hi Fluffnutter, it's not a definite decision yet, but one that is becoming more likely. So I need to explore other avenues. To be honest a lot depends on how my current treatment goes, but it's not looking ever so great.( I had to smile a wry smile at your signature - that's kind of what's happening in my eyes, new blood vessels growing where they shouldn't be and out of control)

Anyway there is still a little hope that the situation could turn around but I need a plan b. I'm eternally grateful for my little boy, I know I am lucky to have him already just would like to give him a sibling.

Thanks

fluffnutter

an9i77 wrote: »

Hi Fluffnutter, it's not a definite decision yet, but one that is becoming more likely. So I need to explore other avenues. To be honest a lot depends on how my current treatment goes, but it's not looking ever so great.( I had to smile a wry smile at your signature - that's kind of what's happening in my eyes, new blood vessels growing where they shouldn't be and out of control)

Anyway there is still a little hope that the situation could turn around but I need a plan b. I'm eternally grateful for my little boy, I know I am lucky to have him already just would like to give him a sibling.

Thanks

The advantage of surrogacy (if it's an option for you), is that you could use your own embryos so the baby and your little boy would be genetic siblings. Of course it's also wonderful to adopt a child but it's still something that you might want to consider.

bigzippy

Primmer: probably, but it depends on whether they think I've lost enough weight or not. :cool: (I can't remember what bmi they wanted now )

It depends on the result of my hsg too, which I've not had yet either, because I'm waiting for cd 1 to arrange! :mad:

QQuaver

bigzippy wrote: »

It depends on the result of my hsg too, which I've not had yet either, because I'm waiting for cd 1 to arrange! :mad:

Make sure you take your own pad with you for HSG:o
And fingers crossed you'll get pg straight after HSG as you are supposed to be super fertile after that:cool:

Cake4brains

Hi all, I hope you don't mind me popping back on to update you. I had my scan today to check everything was where it should be because I have tubal issues. Went in absolutely convinced something was wrong as I had a little bleed last week and lots of cramping and some pains in my right side. Got the shock of my life when she said everything was where it should be and its twins!!!

I hope you don't feel I'm rubbing your noses in it as its the last thing I want to do. I'm just amazed and a bit shell-shocked. Never ever thought I would get here

I hope everyone is ok xx

Primmer

C4B - thanks for the update, so pleased to hear all was ok with you scan that is great news.