The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

onestep

welcome newbies! :wave:
thanks Sarah, I didn't know that either.. *shuffles off to have a look at the front page* ooo that's for Graduates.. (not many of those )

not a lot happening here. cd23 (10dpo). Zero symptoms! Keeping my head down, and trying to come to terms with not trying an IVF cycle as we can't afford it at the moment. I have a lot to be grateful for though, and a beautiful DD (8) who is a joy every single day.

an9i77

Hi everyone, hope everyone is ok today. I thought I'd update you as i've been to see the consultant today as to whether we can have more kids without it affecting my eye disease.

There is good and bad news but overall it's looking relatively positive. I was right to go and see the consultant as my condition has worsened in one eye, so he said i should not get pregnant at the moment. however, he is quite confident that the problem can be treated with laser on that eye, and if i have the treatment and give it a few months to recover, it 'should' be ok to proceed with getting pregnant at that point, as in his opinion he thinks it is treatable.

Although I am gutted that my eye has got worse particularly as i've been well controlled in the last year, I am tentatively hoping that the treatment will be successful and we will get the all clear in a few months time.

He said it would be bad if i got pregnant whilst the treatment was still taking effect as pregnancy would affect how well the eye responded to the treatment, so i am definitely willing to wait til i get the all clear as i don't wanna risk that for the sake of a few months wait.

So its kinda good news, so long as nothing else goes wrong!

I'm not sure to what extent i now belong on this thread or the waiting to TTC thread! Although all you guys have been very friendly, which was great as i know my problem is quite different to a lot of people on here.

Anyway just thought I'd come back and update you, thanks for reading

Ani

an9i77

marie, just wanted to say don't worry too much about your diabetes if you fall pregnant, i went through this last year and you will get a lot of support from the hosptial, it is hard but do-able, pm me if you want any more info

sarahs999

onestep wrote: »

welcome newbies! :wave:
thanks Sarah, I didn't know that either.. *shuffles off to have a look at the front page* ooo that's for Graduates.. (not many of those ).

Oh yes so it is. I think we should really have those waiting to graduate too, as it's so hard remembering everyone's details. Wonder if Lilo would mind. I notice that there are quite a few biogs in the first few posts, but lots of people have joined since then...

Nicki

Last I heard, Lilo was taking a break from the thread while she decided whether to keep going. She might not want on that basis to take over the role of admin on the thread each time a new person joins.

Why not start a list with names, length of time trying to conceive and diagnoses if you have one, and have people cut and paste it and add themselves on in alphabetical order every time someone joins. Perhaps do it in a different colour font so it is easy to find?

bigzippy

:wave: hi derby and maire

Thanks for coming back and letting us know how you got on ani, sounds positive for the future

I'm supremely quiet and mainly lurking, as I've too much heavy stuff going on IRL with a mil who's either going to have a very risky amputation surgery shortly, or chose not to have it and essentially go home to die. I'm just hoping we manage to give her some bfp news first, but really not holding my breath I've had the letter through about ringing to book the HSG on cd1, too, so doubly not looking forward to af :cool:

:wave: to all, hope you're all a ok as you can be

katenut

Hi ladies, hope you are all feeling OK, I've haven't had chance to pop in for ages and I've got 12 pages to catch up on (not a hope tonight, sorry!)

Seen a few new names on here, hope your stay here is short (in the nicest possible way ). Congratulations to Maddy, lovely to see some happy news!

I've come for a bit of a rant really (sorry girls!) cos no-one else understands it.

Firstly we had our appointment with FS after DH's second SA, when I was hoping they'd just pack us off to our final destination (we have to go private cos DH has a son, so just waiting for our local hospital to get all the tests etc in place).
Turned out that SA was a whole lot worse than last time (very very very low, as opposed to very low). They offered us the option of a third SA, and DH decided we should do this. I know its his decision, but means another two month wait, i feel like we're delaying the inevitable. We first went to the docs last August, really thought we'd be making progress by now but next SA isn't until May!! :mad::mad: DH seems to think we might get preggers in the meantime, I'm sure he's in denial (or really hoping we don't have to spend all our savings on IVF/ICSI lol!). I'm not angry with him, just feeling a bit frustrated at the lack of progress. Anyway, we've booked a visit to an open evening at the IVF clinic which might spur him on a little bit - we've always got the option of self-referring if we want, but if hosp refers us hopefully they wont have to repeat all the god-damn endless tests again!

Secondly, some stupid cow that I know saw us at the hospital, and promptly spread it round the whole village that I must be pregnant! One of the first people to hear was MIL, who decided the best time to ask me if this was true was in the pub in front of loads of people at the top of her voice - grrrrrr! I think she knew how much she'd upset me (she is well aware of our situation) and then tried to pacify me by trotting out that familiar line - 'maybe if you just relaxed it would just happen' - aaaaarrrrrrggggghhhh!!


And breathe.........

Rant over, sorry! xxx

Nicki

Ouch katenut. I had something not dissimilar a few months ago when a friend had heard I'd been at the obstetrician's office and congratulated me in front of a large group of people, when in fact I had been there because I was miscarrying .

With your OH, in your shoes, if he wants to wait for another 2 months to see if the results are different, I would be wanting him to be working hard on his health and lifestyle to ensure that his count was as high as it could be for him. So losing weight, if he needs to, cutting out anything which adversely affects sperm count and quality such as caffeine and alchohol and taking some good supplements. Sleep is also very important apparently, and it takes at least 3 months to see an improvement, as this is how long new sperm are in production.

My DS has low motility and high morphology, and we were told that we would not conceive without ICSI. He worked very hard on his lifestyle, including radically changing his diet and taking a cocktail of vitamins daily, and was able to improve things enough for us to conceive naturally. Sadly he has now put all the weight back on, reverted to his unhealthy lifestyle and eating habits, and so we are struggling again with ttc.

Cake4brains

I never ever dreamt I would get to say this. I have my BFP! I haven't stopped crying all morning. I just can't believe it. We are doing the rounds to family now. I'm in shock!

codemonkey

Cake4brains wrote: »

I never ever dreamt I would get to say this. I have my BFP! I haven't stopped crying all morning. I just can't believe it. We are doing the rounds to family now. I'm in shock!

*delurks*

Congratulations cake4brains! Here's to an uncomplicated pregnancy and safe delivery.

*goes back to lurking*