The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

i_love_holidays_2

Aww thanks Chocolate Cookie Monster that is a great help to know - i guessed the first appointment would just be about the ins and outs and im glad youve filled in the gaps

Many thanks to everyone else for the warm welcomes :j

just to add to my post from yesterday - its funny when you read back to what youve put especially on CD 1 the 'old' reference to too the fact ive been with OH for nearly 12 years and BD isnt as regular as it used to be and wish that i had started when i was 25/26 anyway its just me thats what im like..:o

OH SA booked for tuesday and he says he needs help..................:rotfl:

QQuaver

sarahs999 wrote: »

I've actually found that I can comparmentalise my feelings very successfully, so I can be thrilled for friends while allowing myself private time to feel bruised and upset that it's not happening for me.

That's the way I cope too:o

i_love_holidays wrote: »

OH SA booked for tuesday and he says he needs help..................:rotfl:

We tried it in various ways too:p

jujugaboo

Pink, you have every reason to find it hard to cope we all do. One of my closest friends is 7 months pregnant at the moment but she is very good not to go on about it. I just smile and say all the things I am suppose to. I don't block it out or even cry over it, perhaps I just bottle it all upside me and one day I will explode. I get upset about what is happening to me but not about other people getting pregnant. Our time will come ladies - I hope.

Toni, hold back girl its not even been a week yet, i would test on Tuesday at least its 10 days then, if you test to earlt it might just not show. Fingers crossed, sticky vibes and good luck hun.

QQuaver

I did my first OPK after the IVF, and I got a line!:j
It's not dark enough to be positive, but almost there.
Hope I ov by Monday, as I'm flying off not to see DH for 6 weeks:o

toniq

Happy b'ding Qq xxx
It's a long bank holiday here this weekend xx

Thanks Ju, u make sense, I don't want to poas early and see a neg and give myself that devastation if it is positive x

I'ts gonna be a long weeknd till Tuesday xxx

chickpea

Hi Pinkpeach - there no easy way of dealing with other pg people. Pushing them in front of a passing bus is sometimes my preferred option. (In my head..!)

I'm surrounded my Ueberbreeders, so I have had plenty of practice.

The initial finding out is obviously the worst part, it's like a knife to the groin, just about every time. It gets easier with time though, and by the time the babies arrive I'm only a small bit jealous.

I have actually found avoidance of pg people doesn't work for me - I like to rub my nose in it! That way, I get used to it quicker and generally come to accept it.

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(I know it sounds sappy but I sometimes find the serenity prayer a good mantra for these situations..

Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.)

PinkPeach

Thanks for your replies, I really appreciate it. I think leaning to compartmentalise my feelings would be helpful - I've been great friends with this lady for 15 years as we grew up together so there is no way that I'd let our friendsip fall by the wayside. Hopefully in a few weeks I'll feel more able to cope with this than I do at the moment and be able to feel genuinely happy for her.

I know all of our situations on here are rubbish but it does help to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. Thanks again. xx

jiblets1

Pink, I was much better once I accepted that it was ok to be jealous of pregnant friends at the same time as being pleased for them. Before that I spent a long time feeling jealous but even longer feeling guilty for my jealousy. Once I ditched the guilt the jealousy was a lot easier to handle...

toniq

Ladies I need help to straighten some thoughts in my head x

Day 1 was May1st/2nd does that mean I'm due Af in next day or two? or does FET mean it will be delayed? or do the progesterone injections and estradiol pills mean af wont come till they are stopped?

Sorry for so many q's, I'm still getting same feelings in belly as i have had for 4 days, slightly crampy, slightly tingly, very bloated, boobs slightly tingly nothing major, weeing in night,(I make it to the loo) thats normal though for me before af, lower back pain comes and goes xx

Hope everyone is ok xx

nichart20

Toniq I am not sure about dates but it all sounds very positive when are you due to test wishing you lots of luck for test day x x

SK that's great news so pleased your starting lots of luck for 14th and they are good odds and it sounds as if your already got everything sorted x x

CCM sorry you have had to put off IUI, enjoy the wedding and like you say no dates to spoil your next go x x

Chickpea I got loads of comedy dvds on my last go I also read that also bought stand up dvd's, Enjoy your pedicure x x

Tinyp welcome I don't think the wait was too long 1-2 months from GP to appointment at clinic x x

ILH after my first appointment I was put on clomid hope the appointment goes well x x

Twigpig lots of luck for your appointment on 7th x x

Murray so glad everything went well come on AF x x

QQ that is expensive tea, hope you caught OV before been away from OH x x

Pinkpeach I think it's only natural to have the feelings we have, I also find a good cry helps x x

I'm still pregnant 15 tests later still don't believe it taking one day at a time but to come this far is amazing x x