The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Murray

Thanks Lilo, I do have a niggling suspicion that it might not have solved the problem because if my tubes were clear then it doesn't explain why I haven't conceived when the right ovary (which wasn't being suffocated by a 8cm cyst!) was ovulating. Its a step in the right direction though & so many people have told me that they conceived soon after a lap & dye that I'm still full of optimism! Long may it continue!

Chick & Lilo - You ladies are putting me to shame with your healthy eating kick! You could teach Gilian McKeith a thing or two by the sounds of it. As someone who struggles to get through my 5 a day, I am in awe.

Mx

chickpea

Hi Murray - the one and only time I have got pg was 3 months after a lap and dye in 2008. The specialist said it was a coincidence, but after 3 yrs TTC prior to that, I know what I believe.

That's why I wanted my tubes flushed this time - I'm hoping for some magic!

( Although if the effect of the lap and dye is merely a psychological one, I might have spoiled things by discovering my eggs are in short supply..!)

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Lilo - the healthy eating thing is worth a go, isn't it?! And I might just decide to stick with it!

Linseeds sound interesting - you have just reminded me to put flax powder in my porridge today..

I went out to my bookgroup last night - the hostess was kind enough to put out a plate of fresh fruit for me - pineapple, strawberries, watermelon - and I had some fennel tea which is my new favourite. She's had colonics in the past - she says it really hurts! Great..

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Welcome to the newbies, I hope TP you get things moving in the right direction soon.

I love holidays - sometimes it just does take a little while - here's hoping it's just a (short) waiting game for you now!

toniq

Ladies xx

When can i test? im 5dpt, and I had 2 5 day embies (fet) put in x

Consultant said Thursday 2nd June to test and call them, I want to test before as usually my af arrives before i get to poas x

Please let me be positive please xxxx

QQuaver

I'm going to be away from DH for the next 6 weeks:o
Bought enough traditional Chinese tea (cost £500:eek: I think IUI was cheaper:p) for the duration, so by the time I get back to DH (mid July), a baby will pop out immediately:rotfl:

Murray wrote: »

I've had my cystectomy & lap & dye - my tubes are clear, my monster cyst has gone & the ovary still seems to be in tact...phew!
I had the op around ovulation time so I'm out for this month but I'm excited about being back in the game next month. For the 1st time in about 2 years, I can't wait for AF to arrive!

You'll be pg in not time!:cool:

liloandstitch wrote: »

(hold your hands up, how many have bicycled over your head to get it all going the right way - own up!!!!)

Me!:j

PinkPeach

Hi, hope you don't mind me popping back onto this board, I'm more of an occassional lurker:o

Hubby and I were told last Autumn that we'd need IVF and our first proper appointment to get started is next month now that we've had the various tests etc. I'm just posting on here today to ask a bit of advice in terms of how you ladies cope with other people telling you they are pregnant? Two of my friends conceived before we knew we'd have to have IVF so I didn't really think about it too much and was instantly happy for them. Another friend has emailed my group of girlfriends today to say she is pregnant but couldn't wait to tell us in person as we dont' see each other on a regular basis. This lady is a wonderful friend and I wish I could be happy for her but my instant reaction was more like "oh '" and I felt like crying. I feel a terrible person for not being super happy about it - perhaps its because she came off the pill in Feb and it all happened so fast.

I know everyone is different and that I need to accept that as I'm in my twenties that this is a time in my life where friends are going to start having babies. I've not told my girlfriends about our IVF yet although they know I have PCOS. It was such a shock to me to find that my husband also has fertility problems that I've actually found things quite hard to cope with and so felt it easier to just not mention anything.

I just wondered how you all cope with the close friend getting pregnant situation? One one level I acknowledge this is a wonderful time for her but the other part of me feels unable to be truely happy when I feel so rubbish/inadequate as a woman. I guess thats jealousy and I hate that I feel that way towards my friend, especially as my happiness when I congratulate her will feel somewhat fake. I only found out about this an hour ago so I'm sure I'll 'come around' to it and will be fine in a few days. Sorry for rambling, no-one else I know has fertility issues so I feel if I was to tell anyone how I felt they'd think I was terrible for feeling that way.

lisawood78

5 More days Toniq, i've always been told 10 days past 5 day transfer.

Unless you had any hcg support after EC like QQ did.

Hows the 2ww?
LW78 x

toniq

I don't have to wait for a trigger to leave my system though as there is none with Fet, I'm on progesterone daily injections and 4 progynova (estradiol) pills daily xx

2ww sucks, though as we all know when we aren't in it we crave it and when we r we tear our hair out................well I do x

toniq

Pink my closest friend is 8 months pregnant at the moment, It is hard but I still meet here weekly for coffee, we chat about her baby etc as normal.

She knows i'm doing Ivf but my friendship with her is very important too, so yeah I often have a lil cry after seeing her but wont avoid her xx

Runnerduck

pink, its hard, my nephew was born the day before my first m/c after we had tried for a long time it was very hard but he's my nephew an i love him, i do feel upset at his birthday party sometimes (he is 3 1/2) , my other sister in law has had 2 babies since we have been trying, they are both in school now, it is upsetting and dosent get any easier, but you just have to put a smile on your face, and have a little weep in private later

sarahs999

pinkpeach it is hard, but the best thing is to talk on here about it. We're in a situation few people can really understand and it's an emotional minefield. I've actually found that I can comparmentalise my feelings very successfully, so I can be thrilled for friends while allowing myself private time to feel bruised and upset that it's not happening for me.

Strong friendships will endure. Others may fall by the wayside. It's all part of the game. Best of luck