The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

angelavdavis

Good for you!

OH and I did similar at the weekend and we really enjoyed our neighbours company, so hopefully you should have a good evening.

ginvzt

angelavdavis wrote: »

Good for you!

OH and I did similar at the weekend and we really enjoyed our neighbours company, so hopefully you should have a good evening.

I hope I will, as we haven't made any friends since we moved up north over a year ago - so my social life is non-existent. All my friends are in Midlands and I don't see them much anymore, just keep in touch via email, so my only friend here (apart from OH) is my cat!!!!! Probalby that is another reason why I want to get pg so desperately - to have someone else to talk to!!!!

sarahs999

Hello everyone... I kind of lost track of you all when the last thread closed; suddenly realised I hadn't seen any updates for ages so came looking for the new thread!

I went to my first appt at St Mary's recurrent miscarriage clinic today, which was long, not very edifying and has left me feeling rather depressed. I saw a consultant with a foreign accent who mumbled, so it was quite hard to follow, and used quite a lot of medical terms I wasn't familiar with, so although I followed the gist of it it somewhat hampered my efforts to ask useful questions.

It seems that I have already had quite a lot of the treatments and investigations done that they would do for me (thanks to Lewisham being quite proactive) and that what they will do now is chromosome testing on me and my husband (I've actually already had my test done but my useless surgery neglected to pass on the results to ST Mary's), but even if they find a problem 'there's nothing we can do about it', great, and an HSG where they inject dye into my womb to see if there is scarring or adhesions after a caesarean and two d&cs. And I presume if there is a problem then there is nothing they can do either. Which kind of leaves me with no option but to try again and risk a fourth miscarriage, or give up.

I feel flat and unsure of everything. I really thought that we would be able to have another child and maybe we will, but it seems to be moving further and further away. I honestly thought I would walk in there and he would say 'Ahhhhha! I know just what the problem is!' and we would walk out with a bag of medication and a new hope.

Oh well.

becs

Ah Sarah,
I can't really offer any advice as I've not been through a mc but I can say that my friend's sister had 6 mc's before she had her little boy. They never did find out what had caused the mc's but she now has a little boy and a little girl so don't give up hope.

Hugs to all those that need them, it seems that TTC at this time of year has got everyone down at the moment.

sarahs999

Thank you becs, it always gives me hope to hear stories like that. It's just so hard to accept that it's just 'one of those things'....

ginvzt

sarahs999 wrote: »

I honestly thought I would walk in there and he would say 'Ahhhhha! I know just what the problem is!' and we would walk out with a bag of medication and a new hope.

Oh, I know how you feel about this. Ok, I did not have mc, but I haven't managed to get pg yet either. I wish it was this simple - I have all the trust in my consultant, and every time I see him, I hope he will just say exactly that, but I leave with the tears at the back of my throat as there is no explanation. And others just seem to be falling pregnant around and the babies that were still in the womb on our wedding are getting to their second birthdays....

skintmumofone

Well I am now nearly at af time again due Friday I think? My cycles have been all over the place just now so dont know when I am ov as I get pains one week and then more the following cannot explain it.

Consultant I went to said if my periods were getting erratic to phone and make an appointment and they would maybe give me clomid to regulate and make my periods a bit regular and also help my cycles so I may have to do that will give it to the end of the year then I am going to go back to the hospital.

It is now 4 yrs and 2 months since I have started ttc no2 on and off of course but its still a long time. Most of my friends who had kids the same time around when I had ds have had their 2nd years before me and also afew are on their 3rd its crazy but I know deep down it will happen one day.....and I cant wait x just have to keep trying

becs

I think we all know that one Ginvzt, when i was diagnosed with the pituitary tumour 18 months ago I thought, great got the diagnosis, now got the meds, now get pg. Here we are 18 months later and not even so much as a false alarm. I think sometimes we hear the miracle stories and just assume that all the answers should be available when really mother nature outwits science on many occassions sadly.All we can do is stay strong and hope that one day we too will be a miracle story.

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skintmumofone wrote: »

Well I am now nearly at af time again due Friday I think? My cycles have been all over the place just now so dont know when I am ov as I get pains one week and then more the following cannot explain it.

Consultant I went to said if my periods were getting erratic to phone and make an appointment and they would maybe give me clomid to regulate and make my periods a bit regular and also help my cycles so I may have to do that will give it to the end of the year then I am going to go back to the hospital.

It is now 4 yrs and 2 months since I have started ttc no2 on and off of course but its still a long time. Most of my friends who had kids the same time around when I had ds have had their 2nd years before me and also afew are on their 3rd its crazy but I know deep down it will happen one day.....and I cant wait x just have to keep trying

I sympathise with the odd cycles happens to me too. I was 27 days one month up to 36 two months later?
I've been charting my cycles and mymonthlycycles reckons my average is 32 days after a year of charting so can only work on that. Saying that though I had pains last week which would have been too early, this week which should be ov week I have no pains but my skin is odd, spots and the like.

Seeing the doc friday but I'm not sure if they will/can give me clomid or anything else because of the epilepsy meds and I'm sure they can not be helping themselves (except in stopping seizures) I wish it would go away.

I'm hoping giving the circumstances with mc and my health, specially after the good reports from winky, that I'll be referred to the Liverpool Womens as it's my local hospital.

angelavdavis

Went for acupuncture this morning.

Having had the holiday in France that left me needing another holiday (!), the surprise earlier onset of AF, my poor sleeping patterns and generally feeling yuck and OH feeling pretty stressed at work, the OV monitoring and temp taking has fallen by the wayside since the ICSI cycle.

Both OH and I need to lose weight and we might as well do the fertility diet as any other, so after a chat last night, OH and I will be sitting down on Saturday to work through the diet and I will start doing temps immediately.

I have therefore held off booking another acupuncture appointment until I have one cycle worth of temps and we are tracking OV/AF, etc.

I think OH and I got so despondent between us that we just got sick of the monitoring and measuring, etc. We need to get control of it all again and put in more effort.