The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

ginvzt

jujugaboo wrote: »

I have been thinking alot about adoption, particulary as it was Adoption week on This Morning last week when I was resting on my 2WW. My OH is happy to adopt but we really want to try as much as we can to have one of our own. It will come to a point where we can't have anymore ICSI so adoption will be are only hope. My OH suffers from Type 1 Diabetes and someone said we wouldn't be able to adopt because of that - I hope not!. I would be happy with a young child and even take on 2 siblings if it was an option.

I read someone said hey were turned down as they didn't have enough of 'support network' around them (who will take the child to the school if the car break down for example). I find these sort of excuses silly - you would cope the same way as you would if it was your own child. So, if you don't have enough family/friends around you shouldn't be allowed to have your own children either?

We don't have anyone around us. We moved up here just over 2 years ago and I have to say we haven't made any new friends. So, both our families are abroad, and our friends are closest about 50 miles away, the rest 100+! I am not thinking about this as an easy solution, but it is a way to have a family for us.

Btw, a while ago I was offered a book 'The baby trail' and since I have read this book now, I would like to pass it the same way. So, if you would like it, just tell me and it is yours. It is about a couple going through the ttc malarkey. It is a bit of light reading, it is not an advice/guide book.

jiblets1

QQuaver wrote: »

Holding the needle still would be hard by myself...
Never tried ice, same principle as scratching I suppose:cool:

How are you Jiblets? You haven't updated your blog for a month:o

I'm all good thanks! Just a bit tired and behind in work, so any extra energy is going there. I've had rows on FB too for not blogging! I'll try to get there this weekend I promise!:rotfl:

jiblets1

chickpea wrote: »

The worse bit is how your shoulders feel afterwards - but it's really no worse than the feeling you'd get if you'd given it hell for leather in the weights room at the gym the previous day.

I hope it happens for you!

After my tube removal (that was done as a lap operation) I felt those pains in my shoulders terribly. It's trapped wind apparently, and it really bloody hurts. But a nurse friend recommended peppermint capsules, and it helped so much.

ginvzt

jiblets1 wrote: »

After my tube removal (that was done as a lap operation) I felt those pains in my shoulders terribly. It's trapped wind apparently, and it really bloody hurts. But a nurse friend recommended peppermint capsules, and it helped so much.

I read somewhere that it is the gas they use to 'inflate' your tummy so the doctor can access the 'bits' earlier. If any gas is left after operation, it 'migrates' to the shoulders.

I was lucky that I didn't really have the shoulder pain much. I had to stay the night though, as I was feeling quite sick after the operation and was feeling very weak and they wanted to monitor me. I was given two weeks off to recover, and the pains where worse the second week in the tummy area. But that is just me!

Murray

chickpea wrote: »

I was tempted to shout: ' get that thing away from me!', but thankfully I didn't.

:rotfl::rotfl:

I'm guilty of bump rage too. The lady in front of me in the very long queue in the supermarket tonight kept rubbing and stroking her perfectly neat bump in front of me...she might as well have just said

"I've got something you've not got, ner ner ner ner ner!"

I'm sure that I wouldn't be able to keep my hands of it if I had one of my own mind you! :cool:

Anyway 'chin up chick (pea)'! Sorry to hear your having a tough time


An update from me - AF is beginning to show her ugly face, we've got no chance of a BFP next month because DH will be in a different country over ov but oddly enough I'm feeling quite positive. No idea why but long may it continue

Good luck to all
M x

VK-2008

firstly congrats to pagee! nice to see that on this page!

for everyone with af hugs to you all

for all in 2ww fingers, toes, legs . . . . . all crossed for you all

as for adoption me and hubby have spoken about it and it is something we will do if we have no luck in concieving our own child but we are hoping that it wont come to this just long to have one child naturally. (not asking much)

as for bump envy i know what you mean, i just wish it was me, i do get jealous but i try not to think about it as it just upsets me - to make me feel better i think to myself, maybe that person has gone what i am going through and got their own bump at last.
as for ttc for a long time it can still happen, i was speaking to my work friend today and she advised me her nephews wife has managed to concieve after trying a very long 12 years - now i hope none of get on that long but there is always hope. goodness me time is flying by thats 3 and half years me and hubby been actively trying.

oh and good news lost 3lbs at weight class tonight - well over my half stone the doc wanted me to lose so haha doctor i done it - its like they set u a hard challange that they dont want you to complete. well i have done it and suceeded with 10.5lbs off- soooooooooo chuffed!

now i am going to go, but speading baby dust to you all
lets make some bubbas for end od this year! me and hubby have a nov and dec chance so lets go for it! - i am sure he will be happy to keep trying lol

QQuaver

Murray wrote: »

we've got no chance of a BFP next month because DH will be in a different country over ov but oddly enough I'm feeling quite positive. No idea why but long may it continue

My DH will be in a different country for the next 2 months...
I do get to meet briefly at the end of this year/New year, so if I could somehow ov then...:whistle:

VK-2008 wrote: »

oh and good news lost 3lbs at weight class tonight - well over my half stone the doc wanted me to lose so haha doctor i done it

Congratulations!!!:j

VK-2008

can i just ask what ages other people are on here, i am 24 adn just when ages were getting mentioned earlier wondered if anyone was of similar age.
the reason i ask was at our last appt our doc was quite rude when she came out with you are only 24 you have nothing to worry about. i felt quite pis**d off at this it was as though it didnt matter there is no urgency as time must be on our side.
when i read what other procedures people are getting done within first or second appt we havent had.
at first appt we had blood test, SA, 21day test for me, internal camera scan. now we have had a further 3 appts and got nowhere nothing has been done in slightest, now my concern is we have been told not to go until february and that is still another 3 months away its just going on and on and on. doc said that should i lose the half stone then she will issue fertility drig, no mention as to what one but from on here i would be guessing clomid, i am sooooo in the dark regards to where i stand and what is going to happen next. i am sooooo frustrated as i hear everyone on here talking about x,y and z about whts being done and i dont know what half these things are and i know if i start googling them i am going to scare myself silly and get myeself worked up which aint going to help keeping me calm and relaxed.
as they say being stressed and worked up aint going to help produce a baby.

arrrggghhhhh
rant over!!!!

QQuaver

VK-2008 wrote: »

can i just ask what ages other people are on here, i am 24 adn just when ages were getting mentioned earlier wondered if anyone was of similar age.

I'm significantly older than you:D

Some doctors are more helpful than others.
Tears are known to work;)

Regardless of age, people are told to lost weight to get Clomid, so you are not alone.
Good luck:o

ginvzt

I am 31, OH 36 (37 in January). Have been trying for 3 years.

I was told I need to lose weight only for getting IVF referral - I had HCoSy, lap & dye (as HyCoSy was inconclusive) last summer, then 7 months on Clomid + 1 month on Letrozole (as I needed to lose 1kg more). My weight at the start of the year was 87.7, and the consultant wanted it to be below 80.6. Did that by June, referral issued, first visit to clinic July 21st, more blood tests, SA for OH, and I am on the first IVF cycle.