The Trials and Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

MadMac_2

Jiblets, you've managed to bring me out of hiding just to write to you... but what on earth can I say apart from a huge congratulations? I saw the photo you tweeted yesterday and promptly dropped my phone! Wow wow wow. Fingers crossed for the next 6 weeks to go by swiftly and smoothly and then onwards and upwards, :j

And huge hugs SK, hang in there - it will get better, but I've already told you that!

VK-2008

Hey, just wished to join this thread im vikki aged 23 ttc first child since march 07.

I had been part of one about 2 years ago but then drifted due to having no luck TTC. My husband and I have been trying officially since march 2007 and are not getting anywhere. we have been referred to a specialist who says hubby is in perfect form which means something must be up with myself. i have had several tests and scans and everything appears normal. my day21 blood tests were slightly lower than normal so the doc thinks i may not be ovulating even though i am having a monthly cycle normally every 28-31 days. at last appointment doc says she is hoping to give me tablets at next appointment to try and get me ovulating officially. so fingers crossed they work as doc cannot find anything else up.


its just sooooo frustrating as you all know everyone take getting pregnant as easy apart from those who are struggling. what we need to remember is getting pregnant is an everyday miracle.its so hard and upsetting seeing people around you having kids, its a female natural instinct to settle down and have a baby and i am struggling so much with this at the moment. unfortunatly last sept we got pregrant and then 8 weeks later we lost it.

i want to wish everyone lots of babydust and good wishes.

Winky,_The_House_Elf

Jibletts!!!! Fan- bloody- tastic news! [Does a little happy dance:j]

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Best news in ages!

Congratulations!

Yes in someways the fun and worry start here...as Notts Lass said you will be on constant Knicker-Watch, every twinge will send you into a spin!

Do try a to relax and enjoy it sunshine:D you really deserve it.

Winky

jiblets1

Hi all - thanks for the good wishes! I still don't think it's sinking in yet, and I can't let myself believe it. I read about so many people who lose a baby after conceiving on IVF and it's just petrifying. I've told everyone IRL, as I've been sharing my blog on fb and am determined to let everyone know what we're going through, whether we have good news or bad.
So the usual protocol of keeping shtum until you leave the first trimester has gone out the window with me. Which makes this whole thing a lot more like I could fall publicly on my face. But at the same time, I am getting an incredible amount of support - some of it from people I would never expect to have cared. At the moment I love people. People are so kind.

This brings me round to you lot. I think I must have been on this thread for 2 years or so now, and you lot have advised me and supported me through so much. I'm not going to leave you just yet, as I'm too scared this won't work, but I'm sure I'll stay keeping an eye on you all anyway. I really appreciate you all, truly.

So I'm trying to stay positive. OH and I have never got this far before. So I suppose we have no reason to assume that we'll have problems, but as much as all I've wanted all along was the same shot as all the fertiles get, now I'm seeing that their shot is scary too. Just because we're pg doesn't mean this gets to stick, and I'm as scared and wary and still waiting as much as ever.

nottslass_2

jiblets1 wrote: »

Hi all - thanks for the good wishes! I still don't think it's sinking in yet, and I can't let myself believe it. I read about so many people who lose a baby after conceiving on IVF and it's just petrifying. I've told everyone IRL, as I've been sharing my blog on fb and am determined to let everyone know what we're going through, whether we have good news or bad.
So the usual protocol of keeping shtum until you leave the first trimester has gone out the window with me. Which makes this whole thing a lot more like I could fall publicly on my face. But at the same time, I am getting an incredible amount of support - some of it from people I would never expect to have cared. At the moment I love people. People are so kind.

This brings me round to you lot. I think I must have been on this thread for 2 years or so now, and you lot have advised me and supported me through so much. I'm not going to leave you just yet, as I'm too scared this won't work, but I'm sure I'll stay keeping an eye on you all anyway. I really appreciate you all, truly.

So I'm trying to stay positive. OH and I have never got this far before. So I suppose we have no reason to assume that we'll have problems, but as much as all I've wanted all along was the same shot as all the fertiles get, now I'm seeing that their shot is scary too. Just because we're pg doesn't mean this gets to stick, and I'm as scared and wary and still waiting as much as ever.

Feeling like this is completely normal and expected.

Before having fertrility problems most of us take it for granted that we'll just get pg,carry to full term and pop out a bouncing baby,simple.

Going through fertility treatment brings a reality check and reinforcels the fact that actually somethings don't always go as planned - hense the feelings that you wouldn't get if you'd concieved with no problems.

Personally I kept thinking "well i've beaton the odds to get pregnant,so somethings bound to go wrong now"

Although I'd had 2 natural pregnancies (with no probs)before having Ivf I found that I worried myself stupid before the 7 week scan,the 12 week scan and the 20 week scan so much more than ever before, and TBH I was still scared that something would go wrong right up until I held a screaming DS in my arms.

Even though DS is now 6 months old I still find it hard to watch anything to do with IVF on TV as it brings back all the trauma.

Remember The embryologists have selected the best embryos and they've been put back into an ideal environment so the chances of anything going wrong are low,enjoy being pregnant and remember that soon enough you'll have stretch marks and raging heartburn.

jiblets1

Thankyou nottslass, that's very comforting. You make me believe that maybe,maybe, maybe this will be ok...

jujugaboo

:j CONGRATULATIONS JIBS :j

I have just seen your news and I am so pleased for you, I could almost cry and I don't even know you, but you give us all hope that it can work.

I wish you all the best for next 8 months and keeping everything crossed that it works out.

jujugaboo

nichart20 wrote: »

I hope you can start end of Aug my AF will be due 04/09 so will be around same time then x

Fingers crossed. x

chickpea

Just delurking to say congratulations Jiblets! You deserve it, after having to do things the hard way. I'm sure all will be well.

I reckon I'll be delurking properly next month - it took 3 and a half yeras TTC#1, and we've been TTC#2 since September 09 - so racking up the mileage yet again! Great!

Anyway - nice to see some good news, and SBDTA!

QQuaver

Hi and welcome VK-2008:wave:, are you going to try Clomid?

jiblets1 lot's of sticky bean vibes sent your way:dance: